Posted on 02/25/2008 8:57:10 AM PST by qam1
Thanks! They really are great kids. I’m very proud of both of them.
As my daughter says, “A couple of stings, you learn your lesson and it’s over. Grounding and restrictions just go on and on! It’s torture! Half the time you forget why you were grounded anyway. You always remember why you got a spanking.”
EXACTLY.
It’s about timeliness, alot of it. A hit is fast and to the point, and gets the message across in a hurry (and there ARE times when there IS no time or else the kid or their victim is going to be in serious danger).
Waiting around doesn’t help things (I say that for spankings, too - they should be immediate). Look at the prison system. Especially at the death-penalty level. The death penalty “isn’t a good deterrent” ANY MORE because it goes on and on for decades before being carried out - and then, the perp gets out of it with an appeal (never mind how few are ever punished this way at all). When it was carried out within a month’s time - THAT was a deterrent!
If you do things immediately, it makes a point much more than dragging it out. It’s not “forgotten”, and it doesn’t seem like it’s misplaced.
Oh yea, he disavowed his own stuff a LONG time ago.. I’ll see what I can find on it.
His own kid committed suicide.
“when capital punishment is going to be laid down”
I hope you meant “corporal” punishment. They wouldn’t be getting back up if the capital punishment was laid down.
Hence their remorse for “lashing out.” They don’t know what parental anger is, they have been so sucked into the no violence model. Their anger, really rage, in the cases as described is misplaced.
Example: the day at the beach story. If the needed discipline had been enforced earlier in the day...most likely the out burst at the end of the day would not have happened. Instead the parenting style allowed for the build-up of stress in the parent.
The woman who got hit is probably one of those maddening “educator” types that does the school equivalent of poking the wolf with a stick.
I know! LOL I was just saying... I spent a lot of quality time in the back of a station wagon with all my younger sibling/cousins/friends—seatsup and down. We thought it was cool to ride down the road with the back window down/tailgate down. Half the stuff I remember from my childhood wouldn’t jsut get a parent locked up nowadays—they’d be under the jail!
You have my sympathies. Told #2 son I hope he has 10 kids just like himself. He didn’t sleep over night until he was over 2 years old, and the he was the poster child for colic!
(look at other animals).
I’ve always said that! I have a beagle colored rat terrier taht looks like a miniature greyhound. She’s the best momma dog I’ve ever seen. She doesn’t get ugly often, but when she does, retribution is swift and efficient, then forgotten. Exactly the way it should be. No yelling, no screaming, no threats. She is the authority, and you better not sass her! Do you think she feels remorse for disciplining anyone, dog or human, that needs it? NO.
Yes, and horses nip and “kick” their young. Oh, the horrors!
And dogs are known for taking the pup by the scruff of the neck - and this became a popular method for physically challenging the dog by the human. Except of course for those who not only now tell us “no touchy-touchy”, but also, don’t even look mean at your dog! Because that’s just mean!!!
Take that curse back!!!
My Mom said the same thing to me and it happened!
Darcymom is the gentlest, most loveable dog you can imagine, but she has definite parameters. You cross her lines and she’ll put you in your place in a heartbeat. No blood drawn, ever, but she can intimidate with the best of them. The lessons are quick and to the point, and i’ve never seen any of her offspring forget any of them. She should be a role model for humans! LOL
But, but, her children will HATE her! And they’ll become vicious little thugs who know nothing but “violence” as a solution!
I think it’s a boomerang curse—you know who’s going to end up babysitting all those monsters! LOL
Contrary to popular “knowledge”, Darcymom’s kids are all extremely well behaved (in spite of their father). LOL Not only that, she’s a neighborhood mom. She takes no misbehavior from any body’s kids, hers or not.
Like I said, she should be a role model for humans!
LOL! I can think of several people of all ages who could use some of that.
Go Google “mothering dot commune,” and read through the “Gentle Disciplining” forum. You’ll be horrified — these people are raising an entire generation if brats!
Just browsed it, This one is scary
Copy this list and post it where you can see it, as a constant reminder.
Use positive reinforcement.
Create a positive environment.
Say yes as much as possible.
Save no for the important things.
Use natural consequences.
Use logical consequences.
Use restitution.
Leave it up to your child.
Compromise.
State your expectations, and get out of the way.
Give specific instructions.
Give a reason.
Offer help.
Give a choice.
Redirect your child.
Remove your child.
Make positive statements.
Give in occasionally.
Give your child time to agree.
Simply insist.
Make rules.
Ignore some behavior.
Avoid nagging and threats.
Distract your child.
Use humor.
Make it a game.
Be willing to admit your mistakes.
Stop and think before you act.
Don’t make a big fuss over little things.
Stick to routines.
Don’t hurry your children too much.
Get to the root of the problem.
Correct one behavior at a time.
Give yourselves time.
Use the golden rule.
Model appropriate behavior.
Think of your child as an equal.
Always keep your love for your child in mind.
105,000 members of that board and not one of them can figure out that a Child doesn’t have the reasoning capacity as an adult, no wonder there are so many out of control kids
Yep. Go in and read some of the posts from women looking for advice...scary.
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