Mrs. and Mrs. Terry are man and wife (Almost too weird for words)

Milwaukee Journal Sentinal ^ | 3/23/2007 | DERRICK NUNNALLY

[flashbunny]

Confirmation of male anatomy makes marriage legal, judge rules

By DERRICK NUNNALLY

dnunnally@journalsentinel.com
Posted: March 23, 2007

Despite Wisconsin's same-sex marriage ban, Barbara Lynn Terry and Nicole Winstanley carried purses into a judge's office Friday and emerged as Mrs. and Mrs. Terry.

But first, a doctor had to confirm the male anatomy of Barbara Lynn Terry, who was born a man, lives as a woman and has been undergoing hormone therapy for years.

"That's all I needed to hear," Circuit Judge David A. Hansher told the doctor, via speakerphone, after learning that gender-reassignment surgery hadn't been performed on the person who used to be Ronald Francis Terry.

The wedding - between a 58-year-old transgendered convicted rapist and a 22-year-old Australian lesbian who came to the United States last month to marry a person she'd never met - is the first in recent Wisconsin memory to be accompanied by a written statement of the judge's legal rationale for performing it.

"Since Barbara Lynn Terry is a man under the law and has taken no steps to surgically become a woman, there is no legal impediment to marrying them," Hansher wrote. "In sum, he is still a man and his bride a woman."

With that, he performed a wedding that pronounced "husband and wife" upon the couple, who spent the next few hours joking about who is the wife. "I would've signed as husband if they would've let me," Nicole Winstanley Terry said.

"It doesn't matter what the legal definition is," Barbara Lynn Terry said solemnly, while embracing her new spouse. "We know better."

The couple tried to duck photographers and television cameras that had been the only courtroom witnesses to their union, which was performed in a judge's chambers. Neither had expected publicity to come from filing a $100 marriage-license application with the Milwaukee County clerk.

Their first try for a quick courtroom wedding was denied March 16, pending a review of whether a wedding between women named Barbara and Nicole was legal, and the delay was enough for unwanted attention to arrive.

After the nuptials, the couple rode the No. 10 bus to their first married meal at the Old Country Buffet on S. 76th St. Over pasta, sausage and sauerkraut, they described how their relationship formed online in February 2006, through a Web site's outlets for stories and discussion groups.

That turned into e-mail correspondence, then instant-message conversations led to telephoning and Web cam use. Then Nicole Winstanley, still in Melbourne, told her mother that she was in love.

"She chucked a hissy fit the first time I told her," Nicole Terry said.

Then the mother got the chance to get acquainted with her daughter's new spouse.

"She's fine with it now," Nicole Terry said.

Hurdles to overcome

The gap in ages, they conceded, is monumental. Barbara Lynn Terry is older than her Australian mother-in-law; Nicole Terry is younger than her stepdaughters.

And there is a daunting biographical item the couple discussed: Ronald Francis Terry was convicted of raping a woman twice in 1970, was imprisoned and underwent psychological treatment.

Barbara Lynn Terry, who legally petitioned for a name change from Ronald Francis Terry in 1980, claims she was framed by police and convicted by an indifferent system. She claims - marriage notwithstanding - that she has never felt any attraction to women, let alone the impulse to rape one.

The younger woman believes this account.

"I've been with her over a month now," Nicole Terry said. "If she was a rapist, don't you think she would have done something to me by now?"

The couple said they'd had limited premarital physical contact. Barbara Lynn Terry feels trapped with a man's gender characteristics, which Nicole Terry finds "gross." They're both eager for surgery for Barbara Lynn Terry, though money has kept her from setting it up.

Regardless, they still cuddled, giddy with being newlyweds. "I'm sorry, I've never been married before," Nicole Terry said.

Her new spouse has, and Barbara Lynn Terry's two daughters said they reject the new marriage. They and their stepsisters only learned after their mother died in 2000 about the name change that predated their parents' 1981 wedding. Learning of their father's gender-altering desires was "shocking" - as was the rape conviction they only heard about from a newspaper article this week.

"I can't keep dealing with this," said Gloria Wilson, who is five days older than her new stepmother.

"My sisters and I have decided that we want nothing more to do with him," she said. "That's what we all decided. It's better for us."

Meanwhile, the newlyweds plan to fill out papers allowing Nicole Terry a permanent visa so she can work.

Madison attorney Leslie D. Shear, director of the family law project for the Frank J. Remington Center at the University of Wisconsin Law School, said immigration status isn't a done deal just because the wedding was allowed. Immigration officials will want to know the marriage wasn't just to get a visa.

"Assuming immigration isn't an issue, they should move to Massachusetts," Shear said. "She can have sex reassignment surgery there and they'll still be married."

[flashbunny]

First: Ick. Ick. Ick.

Second: Mrs garrison here will never be a woman. I don't care if they lop of of Mr Winky and sew two volleyballs underneath his moobs. It's still going to be a dude. A big, ugly, creepy dude. With missing parts and makeup. Maybe a wig. But still a dude.

Third: Convicted Rapist. I don't have a problem with the plans for this guys peeps to be cut removed from existence.

Fourth: Ick.

[Luke Skyfreeper]

Better a ballless faux female than a repeat rapist.

"I've been with her over a month now," Nicole Terry said. "If she was a rapist, don't you think she would have done something to me by now?"

Now there's some logic for ya.

[Army Air Corps]

Just when you think that people can't get stranger and freakier...

[GiveEmDubya]

That's just, um, wow.

[JennysCool]

Democrats.

[headstamp]

You need a damned engineering degree to follow this situation.

It always amazes me how people actually strive to f'up and complicate their lives.

[flashbunny]

Do you have a WI ping list?

[Pinkbell]

Eewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!

That story is nauseating. He'll always be a man because that is what God made him, regardless of what he does to maim himself. Why would a 22 year old woman from Australia want to marry him? I suppose she is a lesbian, but why would she want a transexual, 58 year old, rapist, fat American man? I feel sorry for her parents and that man's kids.

Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!

[philetus]

In the pic above, which one is the lesbian?

[JerseyJohn61]

"Over pasta, sausage and sauerkraut, they described how
their relationship formed on-line..."

Ahhhh...Layoff the pasta you two. Another tip; the sausage
and sauerkraut are wayyyy spoiled by now. Let them be too.

The story seemed like it was a "legal/social set up" that
was meant to challenge State laws. Then I scrolled down
to the photo and,...just realized it's a very sad situation.
Pathetic....JJ61

[Razz Barry]

Barbara Lynn Terry, who legally petitioned for a name change from Ronald Francis Terry in 1980, claims she was framed by police and convicted by an indifferent system. She claims - marriage notwithstanding - that she has never felt any attraction to women, let alone the impulse to rape one.

It's been married to two woman, fathered children, but has no attraction to woman. The judge should have had the men in whites coats take these two away. Sounds to me as though shock treatments would be in order.

[GATOR NAVY]

Mrs garrison here will never be a woman. I don't care if they lop of of Mr Winky and sew two volleyballs underneath his moobs. It's still going to be a dude. A big, ugly, creepy dude. With missing parts and makeup. Maybe a wig. But still a dude.

Hahahahahaha! What an image!

[Grizzled Bear]

In related news: On the same day the courthouse also officiated marriages between
- A man and a horse
- A woman and a bowling ball
- Three men and an upright vacuum cleaner
and
- Two men, four women, a kangaroo, a bowl of tapioca pudding and a 1953 Studebaker Automobile.

[Charles Martel]

I doubt that the Studebaker was a willing participant. ;-)

[Grizzled Bear]

What about the vacuum cleaner?

[freekitty]

I am at a true loss for words.

[Nailbiter]

need a score card to keep this one straight

[Eclectica]

"...his moobs..."

Your new term has potential.

[tiger-one]

DNA does not change. The judge screwed up big time

[Knute]

I will let my tagline serve as my response