Posted on 02/14/2007 11:24:30 AM PST by blam
Wife studies why husband ignores nagging
DURHAM, N.C., Feb. 13 (UPI) -- A U.S. researcher says some people just can't help ignoring their nagging spouses.
The research, which appears online in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, found that people do not necessarily oppose others' wishes intentionally.
Duke University researchers found that "some people will act in ways that are not to their own benefit simply because they wish to avoid doing what other people want them" to do.
Psychologists describe the behavior at "reactance" -- a person's tendency to resist social influences that they perceive as threats to their autonomy.
Tanya L. Chartrand, an associate professor of marketing and psychology at Duke University's Fuqua School of Business, said even "the slightest non-conscious exposure to the name of a significant person in their life is enough to bring about reactance and cause them to rebel against that person's wishes."
Chartrand said she undertook the research as a way to understand why her husband often seemed to ignore her requests for help around the house.
"My husband, while very charming in many ways, has an annoying tendency of doing exactly the opposite of what I would like him to do in many situations," Chartrand said in a release.
Ye gahds, another former electrical engineering student?!
At one point... now just a woodworker!
Isn't that Bill Clinton's current vocation?
I'm gonna ignore this article and not post... :)
It's just his way of saying...STFU!
Egads! Where do I start?
Mind.
Overload.
ROFL!
Er... no.....
:-P
Only one was created as a "helpmate".
;)
Were I to be nagged at even for a short period of time I believe that some serious thought into the cause would be in order. If I found that my actions were a source of aggravation and the request were legitimate then a correction would be in order.
If I found that the spouse was just looking for fault to excuse their nagging at me then the nagging had best stop if the spouse wanted to continue our marriage. There is no way that I would put up with that type of behavior over a long period of time.
Your husband tells you to weed the veggies?
There is something seriously amiss around my house. For 48 years I have been the one who plants and tends the garden. Mows and trims the grass. Prepares the flower beds and plants and weeds the flower beds.
Lately I have been reading about how women seem to be doing most of that work. Wife and I are in need of a serious talk.
Lately I have been reading about how women seem to be doing most of that work. Wife and I are in need of a serious talk.
I have it even worse. My wife loves to plant garden, or at least to plan and help plant. She'd want lots of everything and not set foot in the garden for months. I've finally had to insist that she may make suggestions but I decide what and how much since I'll be the one taking care of it.
Ever watch that fictional show on PBS, where the man and woman do home repairs, AN DO NOT ARGUE!!!"?
I've been through that over the years. From the wife and the children. They use to help me plant some of the garden but when it came to taking care of it and to harvest they were nowhere to be seen. They no longer have much say in what gets planted.
Do you have a large garden? I plant around 5000 square feet. Mostly tomatoes, loose leaf lettuce, radishes, onions, okra, lots of white half runner beans, hot peppers and bell peppers. It isn't profitable for me to plant potatoes and corn as I can buy it for less that I can grow them.
I am really getting a little too old for such a large garden and swear every year that I am going to cut back. Never happens. lol
"I henpeck my husband to death and for some reason he ignores it instead of smacking me."
Strange thing to study.... He ignores you 'cuz he doesn't want to go to jail.
Do you have a large garden? I plant around 5000 square feet. Mostly tomatoes, loose leaf lettuce, radishes, onions, okra, lots of white half runner beans, hot peppers and bell peppers. It isn't profitable for me to plant potatoes and corn as I can buy it for less that I can grow them.
Our garden is about the same size although we're going to increase it a little since we're going back to raising some of our corn. It will be different for us this year since we've just moved to SE OK from northern PA.
Goodluck with your garden this year.
Goodluck with your garden this year.
Thanks. Same to you.
Thanks for the ping!
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