The ***OFFICIAL*** Weekend Singles' Thread -- Quotes (January 26th - 28th)

ilovew, rzeznikj at stout

[ilovew]

It's quotes weekend! What are your favorite quotes? Some of my favorites:

"I see America, not in the setting sun of a black night of despair ahead of us, I see America in the crimson light of a rising sun fresh from the burning, creative hand of God. I see great days ahead, great days possible to men and women of will and vision." --Carl Sandburg

"It is by the goodness of God that in our country we have those three unspeakably precious things: freedom of speech, freedom of conscience, and the prudence never to practice either of them." --Mark Twain

"Friendship is certainly the finest balm for the pangs of disappointed love." --Jane Austen

[rzeznikj at stout]

actually, we were nowhere near the hot tub...

...but thanx for the idea (evil grin) 8^)

[DollyCali]

Hi there.. I saw your post earlier but thought I would wait for others to "jump in there"

crickets

Well, my take is that if they say they want career/education etc.. believe them & trust them.

and

move on

The women's movement/ has provided some very good things but the downside IMHO is that women don't see as their God given blessing as the opportunity to be a wonderful wife, mom, and MAYBE professional along the way.

Society has TOLD them w/o education/career you are CRAP

well, my opinion is that, that is crap.

I have a good, dear friend who gave up her career 15 years ago to be a mom. She has 3 kids.. ages 5-15. She drives them to soccer, tennis, choir, etc..

what did she give up?

A medical career as one of the top breast cancer specialists in the USA

Does she ever regret it? Of course, Kids are thankless BRATS at best & hers are typical.. BUT she knows she is doing the right thing. Well, she is married to a top notch thoracic surgeon, so they are NOT hurting financially..

but GOP_Raider.. my point is that women will be of various dispositions depending on the "filters" of their life. They will sometimes need to PROVE themselves. Be the first to do "whatever" in the family.. etc.

If you want a woman NOT like that, move on.

There are a wealth of great women of all ages/stages here at FR... we need to get more of them at the singles thread so we can all "share the wealth".. same for good men who are single, available & interested,

[ilovew]

It is a really good idea, isn't it? ;)

[DollyCali]

actually, we were nowhere near the hot tub...

turn that very scientific/logical/boring mind into NEUTRAL.. and go to a place in your mind where there IS A HOT TUB & take your woman's hand to join you. Yes.... this is done. It is fun.

pass the lavender infusion

[rzeznikj at stout]

that it is...;)

[rzeznikj at stout]

...except that's how i have to think

one of my jobs and my chosen trade both require it...8^)

[Kitty Mittens]

Thank you for Asking, Sweet (((((Snugs))))); it is So Much Better than it was before the Surgery! I became Inactive for a Couple of Years Due to the Pain, So Atrophied Muscles are having to be Rebuilt Over Time. Glory to God for His Lovingkindness and Wonderful Grace!

[DollyCali]

trust me.. it can be modified. NOT CHANGED Permanently but when the situation arises, altered.

Part of growth is knowing WHO you are.. seeing perhaps the shortcomings & then doing what is necessary to compensate.

It is necessary to do this IF you want a hot, loving relationship. A man does not need fame, money or influence to have & keep a wonderful woman. He needs to see HER needs & meet them. Most women's basic needs are simple.

See who they are. Love who they are. Brag on who they are.

Praise them, thank them, Massage them (yea, a 2 hour massage w/o any further "demands" goes A LONG WAY), honor them..

you will get triple in response.. will fall in your bed exhausted from excitement, love (and yes sex)

so very few men ever learn this most simple lesson re: women.

They see them as greedy etc.. but the women go this route when they are deprived their most basic need to be LOVED & APPRECIATED.

[Kate of Spice Island]

Howdy!

How is everyone tonight?

[ilovew]

Does this help any? ;)

[ilovew]

Hiya! I'm doing fabulously. :) How are you?

[bannie]

Best marriage suggestions I ever read were in a wonderful book, His Needs: Her Needs. I bought several for friends. I believe in what it says; but I never married a guy who did.

[DollyCali]

Hi everyone. I am Dolly's date & friend David. I just read the whole list of comments. I can see how you all like this place. Dolly is eating her food & told me to write. so here I am.

since you don't know me I can be bold.

I am younger than Dolly & what she just wrote is correct. It takes maturity to walk out of who you think you are to what you need to be.

A graduate course for sure.

The comfort level for love is crazy. If you think of ME first, you will come back very hallow & empty. If you think of "her" first you will really be blessed.

Now, just to be sure you all understand. Friendship & Love takes many forms.

I know she is testing another relationship re: marriage. I will always love her & respect her because she has been honest. BUT that does NOT change what I must be to make our time very special for both of us.

I know this must sound very strange to many of you. She has taught me that friendships of depth are impt and full honesty will always make that possible. She will be my friend until I die.. I would like to be her husband, but I understand there are other forces at work.

well, she has given me some Asti & gotten my food ready & so I will say goodnight to you all.

This is fun.. if she dumps me for HIM, I might just be back.

maybe my screenname could be Dolly's Harem

[Kate of Spice Island]

Hanging in there. I am feeling tired after another bout with the flu, but otherwise. all is well.

[ilovew]

Awww...I'm sorry.

[krunkygirl]

Where does Dolly find these nifty men?!

[rzeznikj at stout]

"trust me.. it can be modified. NOT CHANGED Permanently but when the situation arises, altered."

I believe it cannot be modified beyond the day-to-day dynamics that constitute life. The more things change, the more they invariably stay the same...

Call me cynical, but it is undeniable that (to a degree) cynicism is healthy.

"Part of growth is knowing WHO you are.. seeing perhaps the shortcomings & then doing what is necessary to compensate."

True. But it's also true that knowing yourself is probably the ultimate form of aggression. And suffice it to say, I know this one from experience.

"It is necessary to do this IF you want a hot, loving relationship. A man does not need fame, money or influence to have & keep a wonderful woman."

But it does help nonetheless...

"He needs to see HER needs & meet them. Most women's basic needs are simple."

No kidding. The same basic premise is true with just about any interpersonal relationship--e.g. client to provider (i.e attorney, physician); consumer to producer; party to party, etc.

"See who they are. Love who they are. Brag on who they are."

Very idealistic--a lofty goal indeed. But then again, there is a fine line separating this from life--it is called reality. Of course, this isn't to say that nobody should strive for it, rather, it's something that must be consistently worked for and consistently attained. Very much a means rather than an end.

"Praise them, thank them, Massage them (yea, a 2 hour massage w/o any further "demands" goes A LONG WAY), honor them.."

As should your fellow man. Well, maybe not give the guy in the next seat a two-hour massage (that's just wrong). but praising, thanking, and honoring people should just be a given.

"you will get triple in response.. will fall in your bed exhausted from excitement, love (and yes sex)"

which isn't a goal unto itself. consider the works of Pope John Paul II (most notably, The Theology of the Body) and Pope Benedict XVI's first encyclical Deus Carita Est.

"so very few men ever learn this most simple lesson re: women."

perhaps society is the problem...

"They see them as greedy etc.. but the women go this route when they are deprived their most basic need to be LOVED & APPRECIATED."

I could argue this to the law, but for everyone else's sake, I won't...

[WFTR]

David,

Welcome to Free Republic and the singles' thread and thanks for joining us. Thanks also for letting us share Miss Dolly for the evening. She's a great force here, and I certainly value her opinion on all kinds of issues. I hope you have a nice rest of the evening.

Bill

[rzeznikj at stout]

indeed it is something to look forward to...

but given how i have to work in a couple of hours--and with the analysis i have to do for my congressional politics course...;)

OTOH, it is really nice to get away and spend time with ya...;)

[WFTR]

Hey! It's good to see you again! I hope all is going well.

Where does Dolly find these nifty men?!

Maybe you should be taking one of these dance classes that Dolly keeps telling us guys to take. You may not need the lessons, but you would be able to find men who at least have the desire to dance regardless of their size.

Bill