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trust me.. it can be modified. NOT CHANGED Permanently but when the situation arises, altered.

Part of growth is knowing WHO you are.. seeing perhaps the shortcomings & then doing what is necessary to compensate.

It is necessary to do this IF you want a hot, loving relationship. A man does not need fame, money or influence to have & keep a wonderful woman. He needs to see HER needs & meet them. Most women's basic needs are simple.

See who they are. Love who they are. Brag on who they are.

Praise them, thank them, Massage them (yea, a 2 hour massage w/o any further "demands" goes A LONG WAY), honor them..

you will get triple in response.. will fall in your bed exhausted from excitement, love (and yes sex)

so very few men ever learn this most simple lesson re: women.

They see them as greedy etc.. but the women go this route when they are deprived their most basic need to be LOVED & APPRECIATED.

Hi everyone. I am Dolly's date & friend David. I just read the whole list of comments. I can see how you all like this place. Dolly is eating her food & told me to write. so here I am.

since you don't know me I can be bold.

I am younger than Dolly & what she just wrote is correct. It takes maturity to walk out of who you think you are to what you need to be.

A graduate course for sure.

The comfort level for love is crazy. If you think of ME first, you will come back very hallow & empty. If you think of "her" first you will really be blessed.

Now, just to be sure you all understand. Friendship & Love takes many forms.

I know she is testing another relationship re: marriage. I will always love her & respect her because she has been honest. BUT that does NOT change what I must be to make our time very special for both of us.

I know this must sound very strange to many of you. She has taught me that friendships of depth are impt and full honesty will always make that possible. She will be my friend until I die.. I would like to be her husband, but I understand there are other forces at work.

well, she has given me some Asti & gotten my food ready & so I will say goodnight to you all.

This is fun.. if she dumps me for HIM, I might just be back.

maybe my screenname could be Dolly's Harem

"trust me.. it can be modified. NOT CHANGED Permanently but when the situation arises, altered."

I believe it cannot be modified beyond the day-to-day dynamics that constitute life. The more things change, the more they invariably stay the same...

Call me cynical, but it is undeniable that (to a degree) cynicism is healthy.

"Part of growth is knowing WHO you are.. seeing perhaps the shortcomings & then doing what is necessary to compensate."

True. But it's also true that knowing yourself is probably the ultimate form of aggression. And suffice it to say, I know this one from experience.

"It is necessary to do this IF you want a hot, loving relationship. A man does not need fame, money or influence to have & keep a wonderful woman."

But it does help nonetheless...

"He needs to see HER needs & meet them. Most women's basic needs are simple."

No kidding. The same basic premise is true with just about any interpersonal relationship--e.g. client to provider (i.e attorney, physician); consumer to producer; party to party, etc.

"See who they are. Love who they are. Brag on who they are."

Very idealistic--a lofty goal indeed. But then again, there is a fine line separating this from life--it is called reality. Of course, this isn't to say that nobody should strive for it, rather, it's something that must be consistently worked for and consistently attained. Very much a means rather than an end.

"Praise them, thank them, Massage them (yea, a 2 hour massage w/o any further "demands" goes A LONG WAY), honor them.."

As should your fellow man. Well, maybe not give the guy in the next seat a two-hour massage (that's just wrong). but praising, thanking, and honoring people should just be a given.

"you will get triple in response.. will fall in your bed exhausted from excitement, love (and yes sex)"

which isn't a goal unto itself. consider the works of Pope John Paul II (most notably, The Theology of the Body) and Pope Benedict XVI's first encyclical Deus Carita Est.

"so very few men ever learn this most simple lesson re: women."

perhaps society is the problem...

"They see them as greedy etc.. but the women go this route when they are deprived their most basic need to be LOVED & APPRECIATED."

I could argue this to the law, but for everyone else's sake, I won't...

Knowing the women and what she wants is also important.

I am not into the massage routine etc it does not do a lot for me but stroking my hair or horrors above horrors my toes does - toes are important to me LOL. Though even that I do not like for too long. On the other hand I can snuggle up to someone all evening, rest my head on their shoulder or lap, the security thing of just touching someone and knowing they are there.

We are all different male and female therefore the keyword is communication. Nothing ticks a girl off more if she is not into that but is told all women love it whatever it is.