Posted on 10/25/2006 9:57:46 PM PDT by CAWats
Raymond Merrill bought a $5,000 engagement ring for Regina Filomena Rachid and declared in e-mails, "I have more kisses for you than there are stars in the sky."
Rachid's photos adorned his computer desktop and the walls in the San Bruno home he was fixing up. He had a stack of the Brazilian woman's glamour shots -- one with her topless, her jeans seductively unzipped partway. Wedding plans were discussed, messages on his computer show.
Merrill, a 56-year-old divorced carpenter and musician, thought he had found love online.
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It amazes me how some men can ignore so many warning signs.
But... but... you know, of course all American women are totally unsuitable and money-grubbing, but all foreign women make sweet, docile, and perfect wives! /sarc
Hell, he didn't have to go online or out of the states to find a wife. With all that money, I would have married him.
You'd think the dude might have outgrown the obsession with finding a woman by his age. Surely you can figure out that, if you've had no luck by age 50, you ought to devote yourself to more genteel pursuits like painting or raising your kids instead of running after some fantasy like a moth to a flame.
Man, Brasil is NOT a place you want to go to alone and unaware.
"He would tell me, 'Oh, she's just a passionate Latina,' " Rauch said.
Shaking my head here. Some men want love and will do anything, incuding every single red flag to get it. I pray he is in a better place where that isn't an issue.
So then, she's still available?
I can make a list for you of a significant number of them that damn good and well are.
There's a country western song here somewhere.
Like 27 thousands of dollars? What, it never dawned on him that this was connected to her?
Don't we give Darwin Awards to people like this? I just shake my head at the absolute stupidity of some people.
This poor fellow was searching for the one unique woman (SEX TOY)...on the internet. He found her; for how unique was what happened to this poor fool. Sad. The moral of the story: normal love are not "unique." Being robbed and set on fire is unique.
Sure, a goodly number of American women are that way. But after all, being a wife and mother is a woman's job, and the woman usually wants to get paid well. Beyond a certain point, living on "love" (even if it's out of a catalogue) just isn't enough.
But it's so convenient for you (and other folks) to ignore the second part of what I sarcastically said... that somehow all these little foreign honeys are NOT money-grubbing and greedy... when the truth is that for a lot of them, marrying an American man is their version of hitting the jackpot.
We have a friend who married an Argentinian woman roughly half his age... he went from having a nice nest egg to getting deeper in debt every year, courtesy of his nasty little foreign wife.
My point, for those of you who might be too dense to get it otherwise, is that marrying a foreign woman is no guarantee that your marriage won't turn sour. Don't imagine, just because she's not American, that she will always be grateful that you "rescued" her from her Third World hellhole.
In other words, think with the big head as well as with the little one. And don't ignore the warning signs!
Good point, and well made actually.
I can just about guarantee that any woman you meet is going to be at least somewhat interested in how well-off you are, regardless of whether she wants to be a traditional stay-at-home wife and mother or out there in the outside-the-home working world--and regardless of whether she's American or foreign.
If she wants to be a traditional wife and mother, she wants to know that she can depend on the man to support her financially while she takes care of the house and kids. If she is very traditional, and if she is into status at all, the man's status in the working world will rub off on her... plus it will give her the material goodies she wants. Plus, if the man dies at an untimely early age, she wants to know that she won't suddenly be destitute.
So... there are reasons why a woman will want to know about your job and assets and your ability to take care of the financial side of life--and they don't all amount to gold-digging (even if she is American).
You could look at it this way: Here in the West, we expect to fall in love with our mate and then marry, whereas in a lot of places marriages have been arranged for other reasons. But still, in effect, the man is "hiring" the woman to be his wife and his kids' mother; and, perhaps unfortunately, the rent, mortgage, utility, grocery, and other bills have to be paid with money, not the ethereal glow of your endless love.
If a woman wants to have an outside job, well, she still will be interested in your earning power, because more than likely she will not be willing to support you. That's unfair, but there it is. Many women who have an outside job don't want to put in as many hours as men will (I'm thinking of those 100-hour weeks for which doctors are famous). Most women will want to make more time for a personal life.
I've also heard some women say that they can't respect a man if he makes less money than she does. Money equals power, and it is still as true in today's world as ever. I'm not saying that I totally agree with that, but that it's something I've observed.
I've paid more than half of the bills in some relationships (I supported my man through an online training course so he could retrain to work in my occupation), but I would be very reluctant to do so again. (I will add that I have not been supported financially by any man since I left home.)
To automatically assume that all American women are unfit to be wives and mothers is just as foolish to automatically assume that all foreign women are perfect candidates for wives and mothers.
I've said this before... There are something like three hundred million people in this country, more than half of them women, and some men slam them ALL as being unfit or too materialistic?
But sometimes the same men are then willing to spend thousands upon thousands of dollars to meet and marry women from another country, someone whom they might just pick out of a catalogue? And they *assume* that those women will always be as docile, etc., as they were the first time they met, and that those women will never be or become as "greedy" as those American women they have rejected (again, without knowing them)?
Sorry, but I just don't get it.
Yeah but Brazilian babes oooooo....
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