Posted on 05/21/2006 3:49:03 AM PDT by Darkwolf377
Are you glad you got married when you did, or do you wished you waited?
"do you wished" should be "do you wish" Ack!
wish I had met her when I was younger - she's perfect, funny and brilliant
Everything happens for a reason though and we are a sum of our experiences - I didnt mature until 21 or 22 and it wasnt complete until I hit 32....almost done at 43 LOL
I've been married for over 30 years. Three kids and don't regret a thing.
I first married at 25, and I believe that was about the right age, at the time, for me. We had good years together, but disease cut them all-too-short.
I remarried at 35, and after 21 years, looking back, I'd say the time was right for each.
So much depends on the individual, but it used to be that women matured more quickly than men. Not sure that's the case anymore, from what I see of the young folks- they seem equally flighty to me. Then again, me Sainted Mother always said, "You were born old..."
The choices we make may take us thru the fire, but sometimes the fire is what's needed to make us understand what selflessness truly is.
37 yrs/ 50 somethings
I love having all my history with one husband. We have both had our 'unlovable' periods, but it is so worth the work it took to get through it all.
It will be thirty years for us this August, by God's grace.
3 biological children, 8 adopted children, and 7 grandchildren, so far.
We still have 9 children at home ranging in age from 5 to 16.
Though it's been very difficult at times, we don't regret one minute of it, as it has all been a work of God in our lives.
I'm 41 and I've been married for about 6 years so far. I was married at 31 the first time and divorced less than a year later.
My wife and I are very different people but I think it's served to round us both out.
So much is lost with a divorce though. Unless the first marriage was absolutely horrible, it leaves a void that is not replaced by a second marriage. It is a bit what it must be like to be a victim of amnesia insomuch as not having a past life. But worse in that you can remember what you can not get back.
On June 5, my hubby and I will have been married 30 years. We met in college and married 3 days before graduation. One our eighth wedding anniversary we brought our first child (who is a freeper, too) home from the hospital. We have two other children.
Life has been rough. But we stuck through it. I'm glad we did.
Did we marry too young? YES! No one could have gotten us to wait. And we've remained committed to each other through it all.
More important thann when you marry or even whom you marry is to be sure you first have a relationship with God through faith in Christ. Return to fellowship with Him, then place it in His hands.
He has already determinied in eternity past who your right mate will be, and in order for the two of you to be in the right place at the right time in accordance with His will, simply remain in fellowship with Him and let Him do the work.
There are many believers who got married either to the wrong person or at the wrong time, resulting in awkward sitations for both. Don't become unequally yoked, so you may both mature together in Christ over time and posssibly produce a family.
My second marriage is to someone I knew from the 9th grade through high school and beyond. We had dated in high school, moved on to other people and yet through other friends we shared I followed her experiences. Her life was one bad circumstance and marriage after another. She thought she had found the right guy to finally have a child, after 13 years in the Navy but he turned out to be a pig.
He moved her to her mom's house while he set up 'home' in his next station as a recruiter. Little did she know he had shacked up with a 19 yr old stripper and her 3 kids.
I found her shortly after that breakup, and did not realize what a trauma her life had been. She saved my sanity in the divorce I was going through. We have been married 10 years now, I have adopted her daughter as my own and we have built a life from absolutely no possesions, to a home, cars, and success.
We will both be 49 this year.
Had we stayed together through high school and married we would not have survived. Our experiences made us the couple we are today, and it is not the same as when we were kids. I wouldn't trade it for anything.
I had just turned 19 when I married my high school sweetheart, and 19 years later, I can say with 100% confidence, it was the best decision I ever made. We got married because he joined the Army, and we wanted to be together. It was a tough couple of years financially (our first joint tax return was under $12,000 a year), but that made us stronger. As many of you know, living far away from the safety net of home, we had no one to rely on but each other. He is still my best friend, and I wouldn't change a thing.
The relative I was speaking with yesterday got married when she was 17, and 24 years later she also said it was the best decision she ever made. We are both now reaching the point were the kids (in my case kid) will be on their own soon, and both of us are looking forward to spending the rest of our lives, enjoying our respective marriages. Although I am sure 19 is too young for many, for me it was a match made in Heaven.
I still do.
Well, as someone who is both over 40 and who did wait, I am glad I did. I've only been married 7 years, but it has been the best decision of my life.
I was barely 20 yrs old when I got married. In spite of both of us being immature, love carried us through the rough times. I was a product of divorced parents and that experience made us determined to work through all troubled times.
Our 31 and 27 year old kids haven't married yet and although we realize that's typical these days, I'm longing for some grandchildren to love and hope Cupid will steer them to the right mates soon!
This week, my husband and I will celebrate our 25th anniversary. He was 25 and I was 23 when we got married. It was the right thing at the right time, and I don't regret it. We've had our rough spots, as most couples do, but he's still the only one I can picture myself being married to, and he's still my best friend.
Faith, shared laughter, and a caring heart are most important.
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