Posted on 07/26/2005 2:54:12 PM PDT by Redcitizen
LONDON (Reuters) - Forget expensive presents or costly jewellery. Wining and dining is the best way for men to woo women, scientists said on Tuesday.
Researchers at Imperial College London developed a mathematical formula and modelled courtship as a sequential game to find the best way to impress the ladies.
Their results show that offering an expensive present signals the man's serious intentions but he must be wary of being exploited by gold-diggers who will dump him after receiving the gift.
"Guys are less likely to offer expensive gifts to females they don't have a long-term interest in. And girls won't be impressed with cheap gifts. By offering expensive but worthless gifts, such as dinner and theatre trips, the male pays no cost if the invitation isn't accepted," said Dr Peter Sozou, of University College London (UCL).
If women are not interested they are unlikely to accept the invitation, according to the research published in the journal Proceedings of the Royal Society of London B.
The researchers said giving gifts was a feature of courtship in humans and other species to impress females. Physical attraction is an important element but offering gifts also helps.
"Our analysis shows there is evolutionary logic in men 'burning money' to impress the girl," said Professor Robert Seymour of UCL's department of mathematics.
OHHHH.... Ya'll are screwing up our heads over here.
I changed it now.
We've all been there!!!!!
Only advice I would like to add is to make sure the woman you are going to wine and dine is NOT married!
Only advice I would like to add is to make sure the woman you are going to wine and dine is NOT married!
And Ruh roh, I'm trying to curb my Jane Jetson tendencies. ;-)
Actually, give me a Starbuck's Americano Split and just a stroll through Needless Markup, and I'm satisfied. And dinner deserves candlelight. I just like the flicker of the flame on my dinner mate, in conversation.
And I have a shoe and purse problem. I'm seeking help.
Don't run away, please? LOL.
great advice!!! :~)
I wouldn't ask for a show of hands in this thread who done that. I was wise enough to avoid that pitfall.
I'm another two acre woman - rose garden, cutting garden, herb garden, shade garden, little greenhouse, fenced in area for the dog to run around in, house with big porch.
SO loves to cook and excels at it. He really won my heart though by volunteering to dig holes for all 200+ of my roses.
If a lady doesn't share my tastes for Cab or Pinot, she's not worth pursuing. If she's a Franzia or White Zinfandel girl, I know I need to run, not walk in the other direction.
If a lady doesn't share my tastes for Cab or Pinot, she's not worth pursuing. If she's a Franzia or White Zinfandel girl, I know I need to run, not walk in the other direction.
Wrong. Giving presents to females do not help at all. In fact, it is a MAJOR TURN-OFF! Instead, the guy have to be clearly in charge and confident and not "needy" of her attention.
Sometimes guys just can't win...
It's not our fault. I think it's The Village's fault--out of a girl's locus of control.
Okay - you wanna know a top secret way to get a woman to want to go out with you again and again?
ssshhhhh -- this is just us FReepers.....
Listen to her, remember her stories, remember the name of her best friends, remember details about her life, think of her - give her some time & space in your life - she will be madly in love with you.... providing you look better than Michael Moore and have an IQ above Al Franken.
I realized that my relationship with my ex- was a total waste when I asked him a few questions...
1. Where do I work?
2. Name three of my friends.
3. How do I like my coffee?
And he couldn't answer any of them....
You get the picture..
If guys keep saying that, then they will keep losing. Women loves guys who are clearly in charge. Look at basketball players, rock stars, "popular guy in high school", what do they all have in common? It's all about confidence and they are not letting women to do what they want. Most guys, when it comes to women are wimps nowadays.
If you want to read more about this, David DeAngelo is the man. He explained the aspects of female mind and why they are attracted to confident, above-average (in terms of personality) men.
Women are usually not attracted to nice, wimpy guys, remember that.
And NO writing anything down on palms, under the table. The ink may end up on your blouse, later. LOL.
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