Wining and dining best way to woo women

Reuters ^ | Tue Jul 26,10:06 AM ET | unknown

[Redcitizen]

LONDON (Reuters) - Forget expensive presents or costly jewellery. Wining and dining is the best way for men to woo women, scientists said on Tuesday.

Researchers at Imperial College London developed a mathematical formula and modelled courtship as a sequential game to find the best way to impress the ladies.

Their results show that offering an expensive present signals the man's serious intentions but he must be wary of being exploited by gold-diggers who will dump him after receiving the gift.

"Guys are less likely to offer expensive gifts to females they don't have a long-term interest in. And girls won't be impressed with cheap gifts. By offering expensive but worthless gifts, such as dinner and theatre trips, the male pays no cost if the invitation isn't accepted," said Dr Peter Sozou, of University College London (UCL).

If women are not interested they are unlikely to accept the invitation, according to the research published in the journal Proceedings of the Royal Society of London B.

The researchers said giving gifts was a feature of courtship in humans and other species to impress females. Physical attraction is an important element but offering gifts also helps.

"Our analysis shows there is evolutionary logic in men 'burning money' to impress the girl," said Professor Robert Seymour of UCL's department of mathematics.

[bored at work]

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[Mr. Jeeves]

PS... going to be at 0800pm may have something to do with a boring love life.

My schedule causes me problems in that regard, however in return it gives me a very interesting "salary life". As a grownup, one has to make tradeoffs. ;)

[Mr. Jeeves]

Making the changes is do-able, even for an extreme introvert, it just isn't going to happen in thirty, sixty, or even ninety days. When David D. speaks of the "Inner Game" he is right on - but I'm thinking it probably takes a man three to five years to get that game together and fully transform himself, especially if he is older and has a lot of years of negative thinking and attitudes to work through.

His material is easy to intellectualize - it's like a light bulb going on - but it can be surprisingly hard to put into practice, and he is short on both good examples of ways to put it into practice and on understanding that it is a more difficult process for some men than others.

[Dashing Dasher]

Oh, and chicks don't like it when you brag about how much $$ you make.

;-)

That's in the "don't ask; don't tell" category.

[Mr. Jeeves]

Believe me, by Bay Area standards, I am just a poor boy struggling to scrape together enough nickels to survive in the cruel world. ;)

[Vision]

I'll have a Famous Grouse or two (I wish I could afford single malt more often)

FG around here is $15 a 750ml

[peacebaby]

Theatre tickets or ballet tickets, museum happenings, and dinner

AND flowers.

[peacebaby]

Goes both ways. never, ever talk about how much something you've got costs! Bad manners, period!

[Zhangliqun]

Depends on the woman. I want two acres of land, enough for a vegetable garden, a dairy goat and chicken coop.

A lot depends on what your father is willing to put up for the dowry. But have your people call my people, I think we can hammer something out...

[The SISU kid]

AND flowers.

You should see my monthly florist bill....My florist just loves me....and she's #2 on my speed dial

8^)

[peacebaby]

My husband thinks a romantic gift is a new set of double windshield wiper blades.

[PaulaB]

I love flowers....don't see them much except Mothers Day usually, but you can give a girl flowers and say nothing else

Its simple really...you are stating:

I thought of you today
I stopped and got these for you
They re sweet like you
They smell great like you

What so hard about that?

[The SISU kid]

My husband thinks a romantic gift is a new set of double windshield wiper blades.

They could save your life someday.....I think that's pretty romantic!

8^)

[peacebaby]

flowers are a simple and simply remarkable gesture.

Another thing I should tell my husband is
3 hours of begging doesn't constitute foreplay.

[The SISU kid]

Exactly!

[PaulaB]

LOLOL no doubt!!!!

laying there winking thinking you are cute while I'm thinking "What The??"

Doesn't get me motivated!!!!!

[PaulaB]

Peace..you made me think about something you said the other day about a frying pan and your hubby asking whats for dinner

LOLOL...started laughing again

[peacebaby]

paulaB, I swear my husband could make $ as a stand up comic! And he loves me dearly, which isn't an easy thing to do. It's been hard as hell to stay married and not give in to divorce - for 25 years.

So a dose of humor - MAYBE AN EXTREME DOSE OF HUMOR - helps us make it.

And the frying pan thing keeps him in line.

And I can't cook worth a damn, so it's not my cooking he's after.

[PaulaB]

And whats our motto:

Only if its 3 steps and one step better be the can opener!!

[Redcitizen]

Buy one get one free. What's the other thread?