Posted on 07/30/2004 6:13:49 AM PDT by BluegrassScholar
Edited on 07/30/2004 1:23:04 PM PDT by Admin Moderator. [history]
For me the change included the question, "How would my wife react?" The answer is invariably that she would kill me, so I don't date :-P
seems like everybody in this column is thinking about what the other person can do for them, not what they can do for the other person. As long as it's all about you, then it'll never be all about us.
the simple fact of finding someone who says "i do" does not a successful relationship make.
I was fortunate to find a woman that I knew for a long time (before I met my ex even) who is kind, understanding and intelligent. appearance doesnt' count because you might not find attractive what I do. She gives back five-fold everything I give to her, and I cannot give her enough.
by giving, I don't necessarily mean presents and material goods, but giving strength, hope and support to each other.
but you will never share in this happiness, because she ain't gion' nowhere;-) gitcherown!
I prefer to raise my daughter, that is the main focus of my life.
When I read those ads with statements like "I love long walks on the beach holding hands" or "I like snuggling in from of a warm fireplace with the woman I love", I sort of want to be vomit. I don't know if the woman in the article is correct in saying that this points to someone who is possessive. My feeling is that to me they come across as very uninspired and lacking in originality. Also I get the impression that they are using old lines to convince a woman that they are sentimental romantics when actually what they are doing is just using old and tired lines to get into some gals pants.
Don't know if it qualifies for a 'horror story', but the 1 guy I dated before I met my (now) husband was separated from his wife - until they got back together.
Of course he didn't tell ME they had gotten back together until a couple of months AFTER the fact.
On the plus side, the man I have been happily married to for 6 years now was introduced to me by the creep while we were still dating - they had known each other for years. :)
All I can say is that I looked around at the girls when in high school, then the women when I was in college and those out there now that I am in my 30's, and they just weren't worth the effort then or now. Feminism has corrupted them.
I forgot to mention that I like being single, debt free and able to do what I enjoy. I like the peace and quiet at home and when I drive. I like not having someone nagging me all the time or spending everything I earn.
If I wanted companionship I would get a dog.
"Feminism has corrupted them."
I second that.
We have been married and in love with each other for 17 years now.
You never know how or when it will happen, but eventually you find that special person.
go latin
"Judys mind was like a database of all her past relationships: sensitive to all sorts of subtle cues that might be the tip-off for some serious character flaw that could surface down the road. She would read the profiles of available men on the dating site she had joined, and find fault with just about every one of them."
Lessee . . . she's a two-time loser and all she can talk about is the character flaws that the men have. Yeah, that's the ticket, it's probably all their fault you got divorced.
I feel the same as you do about those ridiculously romantic sounding profiles. Actually they make the guy sound like a big Nancy boy to me.
My dating values haven't changed. Just haven't found the right situation. Bad timing, too much baggage, etc. Frankly am so busy that I can't imagine having time for dating right now.
But my best online dating story involves being invited to dinner at this man's house for the 4th date. He greeted me at the door in ladies undies and fuzzy slippers begging to be spanked cause he had been a naughty boy.
There was no 5th date.
Wow...usually the "ALL American women are feminazis" don't show up until the end of the thread. Congrats for making it into the top ten!
Seriously, though, if you aren't the marrying type, that's fine - don't get married. But there are plenty of good women left. And there are plenty of men out there who are no prizes, either - just as many women have been raised with a feminist outlook, many men also have a warped view of marriage and of how women should be treated. Trust me. It's not just us.
Here we go again!
"As for Judy, she hit a home run. She found a fourth husband who met all the requirements on her lengthy list. Hes a tall, handsome, educated, successful and well-traveled man with whom she shares an uncanny number of past experiences, including the death of one spouse and divorce from another."
Wonder how long this one will last until she identifies and categorizes his character flaws.
Marriage isn't for everyone, to be sure.
"Don't know if it qualifies for a 'horror story', but the 1 guy I dated before I met my (now) husband was separated from his wife - until they got back together."
Wasn't the fact that he was separated (not divorced) a big red flag for you?
A friend of mine met and married someone she met on a dating service. None of us knew she was even going that route till later!
But my husband and I met on the best online service... Free Republic!
Hang on Rosie!
Not particularly. I was 'separated' from my ex for almost 2 years until I got him to sign the final papers.
That and I'm one of those horribly honest people who tends to believe others are the same way until they prove themselves otherwise.
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