For me the change included the question, "How would my wife react?" The answer is invariably that she would kill me, so I don't date :-P
seems like everybody in this column is thinking about what the other person can do for them, not what they can do for the other person. As long as it's all about you, then it'll never be all about us.
the simple fact of finding someone who says "i do" does not a successful relationship make.
I was fortunate to find a woman that I knew for a long time (before I met my ex even) who is kind, understanding and intelligent. appearance doesnt' count because you might not find attractive what I do. She gives back five-fold everything I give to her, and I cannot give her enough.
by giving, I don't necessarily mean presents and material goods, but giving strength, hope and support to each other.
but you will never share in this happiness, because she ain't gion' nowhere;-) gitcherown!
I prefer to raise my daughter, that is the main focus of my life.
When I read those ads with statements like "I love long walks on the beach holding hands" or "I like snuggling in from of a warm fireplace with the woman I love", I sort of want to be vomit. I don't know if the woman in the article is correct in saying that this points to someone who is possessive. My feeling is that to me they come across as very uninspired and lacking in originality. Also I get the impression that they are using old lines to convince a woman that they are sentimental romantics when actually what they are doing is just using old and tired lines to get into some gals pants.
Don't know if it qualifies for a 'horror story', but the 1 guy I dated before I met my (now) husband was separated from his wife - until they got back together.
Of course he didn't tell ME they had gotten back together until a couple of months AFTER the fact.
On the plus side, the man I have been happily married to for 6 years now was introduced to me by the creep while we were still dating - they had known each other for years. :)
All I can say is that I looked around at the girls when in high school, then the women when I was in college and those out there now that I am in my 30's, and they just weren't worth the effort then or now. Feminism has corrupted them.
We have been married and in love with each other for 17 years now.
You never know how or when it will happen, but eventually you find that special person.
"Judy’s mind was like a database of all her past relationships: sensitive to all sorts of subtle cues that might be the tip-off for some serious character flaw that could surface down the road. She would read the profiles of available men on the dating site she had joined, and find fault with just about every one of them."
Lessee . . . she's a two-time loser and all she can talk about is the character flaws that the men have. Yeah, that's the ticket, it's probably all their fault you got divorced.
"As for Judy, she hit a home run. She found a fourth husband who met all the requirements on her lengthy list. He’s a tall, handsome, educated, successful and well-traveled man with whom she shares an uncanny number of past experiences, including the death of one spouse and divorce from another."
Wonder how long this one will last until she identifies and categorizes his character flaws.
A friend of mine met and married someone she met on a dating service. None of us knew she was even going that route till later!
But my husband and I met on the best online service... Free Republic!
Hang on Rosie!
Young slim Siamese girls still do it for me.
I have a Match.com psycho stalking me to this day.
In defense of Match.com, you can meet potential psychos just about anywhere.
I tried a dating service. Every last one of my "dates" said "We don't have enough in common." This after trying to be a gentleman, to listen to them and let them do the talking, etc. Apparently being an intelligent, literate, and moderately well travelled gentleman is a turn off.
Met my current girlfriend at a friend's New Year's party. She started chasing me... when I realized it, I turned around to be caught. Never knew I could be so happy.
I had terrible results from Match.com
Eharmony is wonderful.
At this point in my life, I want a partner, a buddy, someone that I can give to and wants to give to me in return. Strangely, (unlike a lot of women my age, while I may be struggling to make ends meet), I am not out there scrambling to get married for security.
As for baggage.
Oy Vey! In my life, I have found that men have waaay more baggage than women. The stories I could tell.
I'm holding out for Laura Ingram. Ann is a bit too skinny for me ;-)
I met my husband on one of the online dating services and we just celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary. We were in our mid-40's when we married. I think it's amazing what short summary paragraphs can say about a person. My husband's son had just told him that he needed to "sex" up his paragraph because he'd never meet anyone with his "boring" one. I wasn't interested in hearing about the walks along the beach, etc. But I was interested in hearing about his religion and his career. That told me much more than the schmaltzy stuff. I was right. He doesn't focus on himself. We emailed for a month before we met personally, so I knew something of his character. We took our time and then got married a year to the day we first met online. Best 7 years of my life.
Taking odds on whether her fourth marriage lasts four years ...
The idea of doing that on-line is superficially appealing (shop for the woman of your dreams!!!), but I rather doubt that I personally could make it work -- I need time to become comfortable around a person; the idea of shopping for wives pretty much trashes that.
Oh, and don't marry a psychotic woman, especially if she's a stripper.
Oh, and never marry a woman struggling with demon possession, especially if she's a psychotic stripper.
wait, and never marry a girl in law school, especially if she's a demon possessed stripper with multiple psychosis.
Almost forgot, never marry a girl with a cocaine habbit, especailly if she's a psychotic, demon harboring, law student who's stripping her way through school.
That's pretty much what I learned from my first wife.