Talk to Sarah and tell her that you would still like to go hiking with her, and she in no way interfered with the relationship with Toni. Toni got pissy and rejected your proposal. If Sarah doesn't want to continue hiking with you, then find someone else you can trust. Don't be depressed and remorseful. Shrug it off. Keep enjoying the healthful benefits of hiking.
Yep. Toni sounds like a stretch of bad road ahead.
RUN!....................
Can you spell controlling? Run, then continue walking.
Dear Abby, Dear Abby,
I spent lots to win.
Over budget in spite of
All the money I raked in.
If the donors forgive me,
I can cackle like sin.
And raise 2 billion more,
So I can run again.
Signed, Kamala
I’m a single 65 year old male. It will be a cold day in hell before I get into any Peyton Place crap like this. I left that behind some time ago.
Yes. You should not have.
Perhaps he should have tried harder to convince her that her fears were unfounded.
The writer has daughters he regularly communicates with. Hiking with someone else’s beard. (Otherwise, why is her husband okay with it?) Able to find women his own age to date. And the writer is hung up over a marriage proposal rejection? At his age and with a great social network, he should be able to move on without this level of angst.
We know less about the proposed-to Toni than the hiking buddy Sarah. We should have learned something about what made Toni so special to the writer. Sarah is right to distance herself from the writer. She might be getting gas from her own husband about him, too.
There is something not normal about a much younger married woman having this kind of friendship with an older man. It just is not appropriate even if it is exactly as presented. I would not like my wife having a relationship like this with another man. Toni is right to be concerned.
Do you?
Who the hell wants to hike with some chick? She probably doesn’t stfu. When I used to hike in Hong Kong, I’d pass by these Chinese couples hiking. The poor guy looked like he wanted to jump off a cliff as his old bag wife would be non-stop carping in the guy’s ear in the most heavy metal of all languages, Cantonese. I’d start running to get out of earshot of those human leaf blowers.
A refused proposal is a bullet dodged.
I say this as a Woman.
That woman dodged a bullet. Imagine the humiliation of seeing your husband go meet his young girlfriend every week for hours long walks away from it all. And yard sure, treats her like a daughter lol. The simp got friend zoned and don’t even know it.
Luckily she had enough self respect to refuse his proposal.
And what kind of weak man writes dear Abby? That old broad still alive?
Both sound like a problem. It is time to find others to enjoy your life with. Too many men try to accommodate when they should simply let others worry about what they must do to earn your trust, love and affection.
meh. me thinks the guy had a tiny crush on Sarah regardless of what he says.
He should not have said anything to Sarah about Toni’s comments- I know if I was friendly with a man and his woman did not like it and said so out loud, I’d back off.
Women....
So, what was Abby’s advice?
Ditch Toni and ditch Sarah.
A guy shouldn’t have female friends he spends extended time with.
To easy for something to go wrong.
Get a dog and then a new gal his age