Posted on 09/02/2014 1:51:08 PM PDT by NYer
Womens magsat least the ones that line supermarket check-out countersseem obsessed with the euphoria-producing properties of sex and fine chocolates. Mens mags seem focused on the latest coolest stuff that will make them desired by women and envied by men.
A new study suggests both men and women might be better off looking into...scrapbooking.
An Opinion Matters study surveyed 2,040 adults in the United Kingdom, and found that 80% of respondents were happiest when reminiscing about old times with friends and family.
Chocolate (at 17%) and even sex (38%) fell behind reminiscing (45%) in providing a greater, more prolonged emotional boost.
What events produced the happiest memories?
1. the birth of their children, 45%
2. a particular holiday, 32%
3. meeting their partner, 30%
4. Christmas, birthdays and other celebrations (% not given)
5. wedding day, just over 20%.
The least popular favorite memory was a job promotion, cited by only 4% of respondents. Singles seeking affirmation through climbing the institutional ladder perhaps?
The survey also asked about the type of reminiscing that gave the biggest emotional lift, and found that looking through old photos of happy times came in first, at 53%. Recalling the past in conversations with relatives gave the second highest emotional boost, at 36%. In third place (25%) was looking at photos of parents and grandparents.
The studys sponsor, Richard Grant, released the findings today in conjunction with the launch of lifetile, a free online service he created that allows users to securely build and organise the story of their life and share it, or parts of it, with the people who matter most. He notes that:
>Holiday travel is special not because of the destination as much as having uninterrupted time with loved ones. Friends and childless couples can together discover and share novel experiences. For families, these are treasured times because mom and dad, temporarily freed of the responsibilities that take up most of their daily lives, can lavish all their attention on their surprised and grateful children.
All the happiest memories are made, in short, because they involve relationships with people who love us and whom we love.
Does todays culture recognize this truth? Given our fevered pursuit of entertainment, sensual pleasures and the acquisition of wealth, celebrity and power, it seems not.
The concept of levels of happiness comes from an insight by Aristotle and is today promoted through the Center for Life Principles. Level One happinessthe sensual pleasures that our celebrity media and corporations have elevated to the highest level (mainly to sell stuff)brings only fleeting pleasure that must constantly be re-experienced or replaced with newer, better models and people. You know something is gravely wrong when videogamers die with a controller in their hands.
Level Two happiness is the satisfaction of the ego in feeling superior, more admired, more popular and successful than others. It isolates us in opposition to others and cant produce lasting happiness because (1) we are not giving ourselves, our talents, our love to anyone and (2) we will always be insecure knowing that others may outshine us tomorrow.
Level Three happiness, seen in the survey responses, reflect the human desire (of healthy, mature, psychologically balanced humans anyway) to care for others, to sacrifice and want to make the world a better place, to contribute to the common good.
And Level Four recognizes that the uniquely human desire for goodness, truth, beauty and justice leads us to God and to a spiritual and creative life that transcends the mundane aspects of earthly existence.
The survey says what the magazines wont: Set your hearts on others, not on the things that bring only fleeting pleasure. And Ill add, set your hearts on God and hell show you how to live your life to the full.
Thought you might enjoy this, ping!
I agree with # 2 through # 5 — because I’m usually either having sex or eating chocolate at those times.
Doesn’t work for those of us who are anhedonic, period.
Why not multi-task?
Eating chocolate during sex......
Pffftttt, survey of adults from UK.
I was going to say ‘Being appreciated’ for who you are and what you do.
For both men and women.
All depends on what is, is.
What BJ Clinton had performed was according to him not sex.
What is Sandra Bullock Naked and Covered in Chocolate...?
I'll take "painfully obvious answers" for 300 next Alex...
Not far behind would be conceiving them, including a couple of all-nighters.
Funny thing was, I don't remember feeling particularly exhausted by the all-nighters.
Dip your lover in chocolate.
The surprising answer would have been sex.
Getting paid.
Have you been spying on me?
Why not multi-task?
Eating chocolate during sex...
------------------------------------------------------------------- I got greedy. Flew too close to the sun on wings of pastrami .
George Costanza.
BS! Just another thing to make us give up Chocolate! What’s next, pizza?
add whip cream....turn it into a little sundae....;-)
My Dad always said the most important things in a man’s life are:
A good woman
A good meal
A good Shiite. ...and not necessarily in that order....
And the top answer was reminiscing about sex...............................
More sex.
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