This article by Rebecca Eckler, author of Toddlers Gone Wild!, is so offensive in so many ways it's hard to know where to begin. Posted on 05/07/2008 9:54:47 AM PDT by PercivalWalks
This article by Rebecca Eckler, author of Toddlers Gone Wild!, is so offensive in so many ways it's hard to know where to begin.
Here's one. Rebecca writes:
"On behalf of my four-year-old, who has a Yahoo account in her name, I recently sent an e-mail to her father, who lives in Alberta.
"'Hi Daddy,' I typed, as my daughter was fast asleep. 'Mommy has been talking about Mother's Day. I only have 143 pennies in my piggy bank. She's the best mommy ever. She's been pretty exhausted. I'd like to get her something nice. Can you help? Love you.'
"It was a slightly pathetic, but possibly cute, way of reminding my daughter's father about Mother's Day.
"On what is perhaps the Hallmark holiday of all Hallmark holidays, what's a single mother to do to get some sort of recognition? It's certainly not going to come from a child who still licks glue and is too young to understand the concept.
"But modern single mothers, whether they've chosen to be single, still get along with the father of their children, or have no contact with the father at all, are finding new ways to make Mother's Day special (and, in some cases, more fruitful)...
"As for me, the e-mail worked. I'll be at a spa, thanks to my four-year-old's request via her mother's e-mail."
I love that--mom is so entitled to even more of dad's money that she brags in the national media about using her four-year-old's identity to deceive her ex. She feels the need to "remind my daughter's father about Mother's Day," as if it's his problem.
Here's another:
"All mothers of young children rely on gifts made by someone else. For the single mom, feeling the need for something more than a crumpled card in a knapsack - something that comes with a gift receipt - presents a particular dilemma. You can't very well hand over $20 to your three year-old to do your shopping.
"So some have learned to lobby on their own behalf.
"'I've drilled it into him,' says Toronto-based Vanessa Craft, the author of Out of Character, about her three-year-old daughter's father, who lives in England.
"Growing up, Mother's Day, like most holidays, had always been recognized in my house. So it's a big deal. I even remind my daughter's father that on her birthday I should also get something, for the fact that I gave birth,' Ms. Craft says.
"'Her dad knows to make me cards, at the very least, on behalf of our daughter,' says Ms. Craft, adding, 'I've never had a bad Mother's Day being a single mom.'"
Huh? Her ex owes her a Mother's Day gift?
One other note--in both cases (Rebecca Eckler and Vanessa Craft) the children are very young and the fathers live far away. Rebecca dumped the father of her child, to whom she was engaged to be married, for another man. I don't know what happened in Vanessa's case, but statistically the odds are good that she was the one who initiated the divorce/breakup. In both cases it was probably the women who moved away. So having already severed most of the loving bonds between the fathers and their little children, the women now feel deprived and entitled to even more from dad.
Here's a third section:
"Stacey Otis, a single mother of three, says that without a partner there is 'such a greater connection with your children,' and that Mother's Day is always 'awesome.'
"She celebrates the day at her house, or at one of her siblings' houses, and has turned it into 'Family Mother's Day.'
"Unlike many of my mother friends, who moan about husbands forgetting Mother's Day entirely, or who complain about partners not even giving them two hours of alone time, Ms. Otis says, 'My Mother's Days are always special. When my kids get excited to give me what they made at school, it's like gold. When you know all you have is each other, it makes the day really special.'"
So Stacey Otis' kids are better off because they don't have a dad? That's odd, since being without a dad greatly increases their chances for most youth pathologies, including drugs, crime, teen pregnancy, and dropouts.
And of course Stacey is better off, because all of her friends' husbands are louts who spend much of the their time working to support their wives and children. And Stacey's excessively critical female attitude probably gives you a good clue as to why her and Rebecca's and Vanessa's relationships ended, too.
The full article is--get this--Get what you want this Mother's Day. Twist the ex's arm (Globe and Mail, 5/6/08). To write a Letter to the Editor of the Globe and Mail about this piece, click on Letters@globeandmail.com.
Glenn Sacks, www.GlennSacks.com
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What a pathetic excuse for a mother! And stupid, what four year old could have written that? LOL
I bet she made it all up.
I went to school with the daughter of a divorced woman, who had only daughters. It the biggest fest of lipstick man-hating I’ve ever seen, and that counts four years in Cambridge, MA with all those feminist colleges nearby.
NOTICE: The following does not paint all women as harpies, but addresses those who are.
Important tip for men: there are many good women...too many to screw around with these foolettes. But if you’re going to be messing around with one of them or you aren’t yet sure she’s a good one (in which case I would highly advise keeping ‘em zipped up), redundantly use some redundancy. And never let her handle the prophylactic - I have heard more than one story of these types getting themselves knocked up by manipulating birth control, to simultaneously give them the baby they’ve always wanted and stick it to the Y chromosomes.
Maybe it was locker room talk or apocryphal, but a life of child support on the line, a little care goes a long way.
Yes, it was one of the better get backs I ever did ! My daughter gave the big stinky fly trap & my son the pooper scooper. He didn’t like it one bit. And I never used his stupid mop & wringer. I sold it at a yard sale. Was I ever mad!
Well in my case it was far better to be friends, we owned & own too much together. Plus now we like each other & can laugh about the dumb stuff we did.
Thanks. I like Oct as I have 3 born in that month & sometimes they will just get me flowers that last all month. Brightens up the house.
“Thanks. I like Oct as I have 3 born in that month & sometimes they will just get me flowers that last all month. Brightens up the house.”
Sounds like Jan/Feb were pretty good months too in that case...;)
Oh wow , I guess they were. I never even realized that. Thanks for that!
That’s weird why do you have to ask?
Haha so true!
Unless you're widowed, I just can't muster up a lot of sympathy for ya, Girlfriend.
I thought the same thing until I read the article in its entirety and discovered that there was no indication that the father had responded with $$$ to the bogus email.......
Because my husband keeps up the bank account, and he knows whether we have enough money, at any time, for an unusual purchase. And also because it’s polite and respectful.
So you were mad so you used your kids to get back at him? I have been divorced 19 years and we agrees the day we separated that we would NEVER draw our kids into our disputes. We never did and our kids are better off because of it. For the first 10 years after our divorce my kids used to send her flowers and charge it to my account at the Florist
A sweet girl I once was friends with said it best, "Two nice people don't always make for a nice couple." Some people are better friends than lifelong mates.
IF you read all my posts it says my ex & I are best friends! In fact because you are so nosy I will tell you just how good friends we are. We own a business together & a few houses & I even keep a room in my house so he can come & stay & see his sons whenever he pleases. WE don't ever speak ill of each other & never did. I was married 22 yrs to this man & he will always be a large part of our lives. We do holidays together & it we all get along. In fact my ex & my present husband are very good friends. Happy Mothers day from one mother to another!
Very true....We are the best of friends & we have yet to divide our assets together. It didn’t makes any sense as we know we needed each other for the business that we plan to pass to at least one of our sons. I amazes me to that people don’t read threads & see the whole story before posting. Have a very happy Mother’s Day. ~Pandy~
The older sister of my friend when I was a teenager was like this.
She found the first guy who would have her knock her up so she could get married and get out of the house. Then she spent him to near bankruptcy while cheating on him non stop. He eventually had enough and kicked her out. She took the baby girl and used her as a pawn to get stuff from and torture him on visitation.
I remember, on one occasion, she called him up and told him that the baby was sick and she needed $100 to take the baby to the doctor. It was a lie, she wanted this pair of shoes.
About 4 days later, the baby got sick for real and this bitch let that baby suffer with an earache and fever for two days because she did not want to admit to him what she had done. Finally the baby’s grandmother took the baby to the doctor.
I have never hated another person so much in my life.
Geez, that was 30 years ago and reading this story makes me remember that like it was yesterday.
I see.
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