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Dear Abby: I Want a Real Relationship But Guys Only Want One Thing
New York Post ^ | May 22, 2023

Posted on 05/22/2023 4:00:41 PM PDT by nickcarraway

DEAR ABBY: I’m a 32-year-old woman. My 20s were spent in a serious long-term relationship. It was a lot of firsts for me. After we split, I took a couple of years to sow my wild oats and find out who I am as an individual.

I’m now looking for something more than “friends with benefits.” However, the last few men I’ve met and gone on dates with, as wholesome as they seemed on dating sites (which have been my main source of meeting men), were really just looking for hookups. I want to find a life partner.

I have been chatting with a potentially great guy I met online, and we have a date scheduled. But I’m nervous that when we meet that he’ll expect more than a date. I’m over that. Like I said, I want an actual relationship.

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TOPICS: Heated Discussion
KEYWORDS: dating; hoors; manosphere; men; mgtow; pua; redpill; relationships; sloots; slutwalk; women
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To: Mark

Women prefer cats by the dozen.


41 posted on 05/22/2023 4:42:41 PM PDT by cableguymn
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To: nickcarraway

Whenever I get depressed about being in my 80’s, I remind myself that I lived most of my life in far better times than what we have today.


42 posted on 05/22/2023 4:42:51 PM PDT by Oldhunk
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To: nickcarraway

Join a church, attend regularly, and the rest will fall into place.


43 posted on 05/22/2023 4:42:57 PM PDT by Smellin Salt
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To: nickcarraway

Proceeding, Proceeding
You have no complaint
You are what you are and you ain’t what you ain’t
So listen up sister, and listen up good
Stop wishing for bad luck and knocking on wood
Signed, Dear Abby


44 posted on 05/22/2023 4:45:03 PM PDT by HartleyMBaldwin
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To: Repeal The 17th

Yup. Another social media/ womens’ magazine woman who has no idea how to relate to real people. Sad, but, not my problem.


45 posted on 05/22/2023 4:45:10 PM PDT by hinckley buzzard ( Resist the narrative.)
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To: P-Marlowe

That was rude


46 posted on 05/22/2023 4:47:09 PM PDT by SheepWhisperer ("Many are the plans in a person's heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails.")
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To: nickcarraway
Sorry for your bad luck, ma'am.

Time to accept biological reality.

The life goals of most boys stop evolving around age 13.

47 posted on 05/22/2023 4:47:50 PM PDT by zeestephen (Trump "Lost" By 43,000 Votes - Spread Across Three States - GA, WI, AZ)
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To: nickcarraway

So she decided to spend a couple of years “sowing her wild oats”, but doesn’t like it when she runs into that now? Maybe these guys are doing the same thing. Why was it ok for her to go full sleaze, but these guys are disgusting for wanting to do the same thing?

Honey, men will behave as they are allowed. If women hadn’t fallen for the whole recreational sex scene, men wouldn’t be expecting it as much. If woman want to “right” to be easy, don’t be surprised if it is expected.


48 posted on 05/22/2023 4:48:06 PM PDT by JudyinCanada
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To: OrangeHoof

LOL


49 posted on 05/22/2023 4:48:49 PM PDT by Allegra (Free Kiryandil! )
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To: Repeal The 17th

Apparently the woman has a hard time making friends, unless her legs are open.


50 posted on 05/22/2023 4:48:55 PM PDT by foundedonpurpose (Praise Hashem, for his restoration of all things! )
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To: M Kehoe
Go to a church picnic girl.

Enough party girls have been told that, that good men are suspicious of church girls.

Just because a woman sits in church does not necessarily mean she is a godly woman, rather than a ravening wolf looking for naive prey.

The only good advice for women, is to forego the party excesses and get a good man in your early 20s

51 posted on 05/22/2023 4:48:57 PM PDT by SauronOfMordor (The rot of all principle begins with a single compromise.)
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To: nickcarraway
I foresee many cats and boxes of white wine in her future.
52 posted on 05/22/2023 4:49:15 PM PDT by Polynikes (Nicht geimpft Mensch 2nd Klasse)
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To: Repeal The 17th
Exactly, women do not understand that after 30, women are no longer in demand. Men her age are married, divorced, gay, etc. Men soon realize that they’re in demand and are not looking to get married again. Look elsewhere for suitable mates, not the bar, tinder only, match.com, etc. Those are just meat markets.

I have a friend (female) looking and she learned about breadcrumbing. One guy she dated would text her Saturday afternoon and ask if she could come over. What she didn’t know was he also texted 5 or 6 others women the same suggestion. First to reply won! The rest were left out wondering what happened. They replied too late or with the wrong answer like “let’s do next Friday for dinner...”

it’s a brave new world ladies.....

53 posted on 05/22/2023 4:49:36 PM PDT by Lockbox (politicians, they all seemed like game show hosts to me.... Sting)
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To: P-Marlowe

Guess it might matter what church picnic she would go to.


54 posted on 05/22/2023 4:49:38 PM PDT by Baldwin77 (First they came for Trump ...)
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To: nickcarraway

I hate to admit it, but the “one thing” fairly well nails my thoughts toward the opposite sex. That said, the “one thing” means something greater than it appears on the surface. That is why the Command not to commit adultery is so amply magnified in our individual and corporate experience. It is best to be faithful or celibate, but my flesh says otherwise.


55 posted on 05/22/2023 4:50:17 PM PDT by Fester Chugabrew (/s)
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To: nickcarraway

MGTOW are just men who have either learned to be emotionally self-sufficient, due to overwhelming rejection or they’ve been used badly by women.

It’s actually a pretty healthy thing to do, as long as you are doing it for yourself and not to punish the women.


56 posted on 05/22/2023 4:50:51 PM PDT by Jonty30 (If liberals were truth tellers, they'd call themselves literals. )
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To: nickcarraway
Here's the thing:

If all women are offering is sex, then that's all we'll seek from them.

If a woman is offering more than sex then that's what we're after.

So the problem isn't us men.

Just sayin' ...

57 posted on 05/22/2023 4:50:56 PM PDT by usconservative (When The Ballot Box No Longer Counts, The Ammunition Box Does. (What's In Your Ammo Box?))
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To: nickcarraway

” It was a lot of firsts for me. After we split, I took a couple of years to sow my wild oats and find out who I am as an individual.”

Translation: Ride the penis carousel for a few years, and now she wants to settle down and be a traditional wife. The problem, decent guys who know her background will see no reason to marry her. And as for the other guys, younger women “sowing their wild oats” are more fun for their purpose.


58 posted on 05/22/2023 4:51:34 PM PDT by DesertRhino (Dogs are called man's best friend. Moslems hate dogs. Add it up..)
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To: nickcarraway

Dear proceeding.

The problem with trying to find a life long mate with guys in your age bracket is that they have been conditioned to expect free milk. Expand your horizons. Find a suitable partner by dating males in their 60s and 70s. Males in this age bracket are mature, settled and chivalrous. They want to relax and share life with a pleasant female companion. Males in this age bracket are still sexually potent and can conceive children. Try it. You might like it.


59 posted on 05/22/2023 4:51:57 PM PDT by DeplorablePaul
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To: FormerFRLurker

Actually it is pretty simple. Find a guy you feel comfortable with while being your own relaxed self. Trying to manufacture a relationship out of sparse raw materials is a fool’s errand, but when you click, it’s easy.


60 posted on 05/22/2023 4:52:07 PM PDT by hinckley buzzard ( Resist the narrative.)
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