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Dear Abby: I Want a Real Relationship But Guys Only Want One Thing
New York Post ^ | May 22, 2023

Posted on 05/22/2023 4:00:41 PM PDT by nickcarraway

DEAR ABBY: I’m a 32-year-old woman. My 20s were spent in a serious long-term relationship. It was a lot of firsts for me. After we split, I took a couple of years to sow my wild oats and find out who I am as an individual.

I’m now looking for something more than “friends with benefits.” However, the last few men I’ve met and gone on dates with, as wholesome as they seemed on dating sites (which have been my main source of meeting men), were really just looking for hookups. I want to find a life partner.

I have been chatting with a potentially great guy I met online, and we have a date scheduled. But I’m nervous that when we meet that he’ll expect more than a date. I’m over that. Like I said, I want an actual relationship.

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TOPICS: Heated Discussion
KEYWORDS: dating; hoors; manosphere; men; mgtow; pua; redpill; relationships; sloots; slutwalk; women
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To: nickcarraway

I read today. Laughable.

I’m now totally convinced Dear Abby is a computer.


21 posted on 05/22/2023 4:19:59 PM PDT by Fledermaus (It's time to get rid of the Three McStooges; Mitch, Kevin and Ronna!)
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To: M Kehoe
Go to a church picnic girl.

That's her best bet in finding the guy she wants, even if she's not religious. But she's not going to do that. Likely scenario? Cat lady.

22 posted on 05/22/2023 4:19:59 PM PDT by MinorityRepublican
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To: nickcarraway

LOL, “sow wild oats,” ie. slut around.


23 posted on 05/22/2023 4:20:51 PM PDT by Trailerpark Badass (“There should be a whole lot more going on than throwing bleach,” said one woman)
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To: nickcarraway

The problem is, my dear, you’re now too old. What were you doing ten years ago when nice guys wanted something serious and long term? Oh, they bored you? Sorry, life is not a do-over.


24 posted on 05/22/2023 4:21:25 PM PDT by Spok (“Winston, how many fingers am I holding up?”)
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To: nickcarraway

I doubt that’s her. Who adds a pic to a Dear Abby letter?


25 posted on 05/22/2023 4:21:34 PM PDT by Fledermaus (It's time to get rid of the Three McStooges; Mitch, Kevin and Ronna!)
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To: nickcarraway

Dear Abby: I carried on like a slut but now I want to settle down and men are only interested in me for sex. What is wrong with them?

Signed: Can’t Connect The Dots


26 posted on 05/22/2023 4:21:47 PM PDT by OrangeHoof (No food in the stores; fuel prices too high? Thank a liberal.)
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To: nickcarraway

Tacos?


27 posted on 05/22/2023 4:22:48 PM PDT by Mathews (I have faith Malachi is right!!! Any day now...)
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To: nickcarraway

“...sow my wild oats and find out who I am as an individual.”

So, she just wanted one thing. How can she complain now about the guys? They may be trying to find out who they are are as an individual.


28 posted on 05/22/2023 4:25:30 PM PDT by odawg
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To: nickcarraway

It’s Dear Abby which is simply fiction. Fake people write fake letters that real but deluded people read as though they have meaning, all while the readers’ attentions are being sold to advertisers.


29 posted on 05/22/2023 4:25:48 PM PDT by T.B. Yoits
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To: TexasFreeper2009

1st stop shoving food into your mouth, 2nd stop being a ho

and your problems will start to go away

As a woman who goes to the gym 5x a week and was a virgin when I met my husband, I can tell you it's more complicated than that. If a woman works outside the home she's "emasculating". If she doesn't she's a gold-digger. If she has a high body count she's a slut. If she has a low body count she's a prude. If she wants kids, she's trying to tie her man down. If she doesn't want kids, there's something wrong with her. I gave up trying to figure out how to please a white American man in my 20's and found myself an Asian man who didn't play such games. Saved myself a fortune in liquor store bills and XXL men's clothes too, but that's just the icing on the cake.

Anyone who says pleasing men is simple has never actually tried dating one.

30 posted on 05/22/2023 4:33:38 PM PDT by FormerFRLurker
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To: Fungi

It’s a Getty image/stock photo

And the column is essentially the same thing in word form. If it is not AI, it’s some poor sucker who has really pissed off his/her boss and is in newspaper purgatory.


31 posted on 05/22/2023 4:34:31 PM PDT by ChildOfThe60s ( If you can remember the 60s.....you weren't really there..)
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To: nickcarraway

How about asking him what he is looking for. Gee, can no one think for themselves how to find out answers to their own questions anymore?


32 posted on 05/22/2023 4:36:25 PM PDT by Robert DeLong
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To: M Kehoe
Go to a church picnic girl.

That’s where gay people go to hook up these days.

33 posted on 05/22/2023 4:36:35 PM PDT by P-Marlowe (I got the <ΙΧΘΥΣ>< variant. Catch it. John 3:16)
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To: nickcarraway

It’s not true that men only want one thing, in fact, that’s a lie that defames men and I hear it all the time.

But is is true that men do want that thing, and they want it a lot, and they will lie, cheat, and occasionally use force to get it - and interacting socially with men and not being aware of that can cause a lot of trouble.


34 posted on 05/22/2023 4:36:40 PM PDT by Jim Noble (It is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government)
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To: nickcarraway

PROCEEDING WITH CAUTION , find a nice church, attend every Sunday and join in with the other Church activities. You’ll meet several nice men in short order.Make ‘em court ya!


35 posted on 05/22/2023 4:37:15 PM PDT by Candor7 ( ( Ask not for whom THE Trump trolls...He trolls for thee!)<img src=""width=500></img>)
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To: nickcarraway
People who write to Dear Abby aren't mature enough for a real relationship.

36 posted on 05/22/2023 4:37:49 PM PDT by Governor Dinwiddie (LORD, grant thy people grace to withstand the temptations of the world, the flesh, and the devil.)
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To: nickcarraway

Women roll up a high body count in their 20’s, then want a real man in their 30’s. Oops. Not a good strategy. Just get more tattoos.


37 posted on 05/22/2023 4:39:00 PM PDT by freedomjusticeruleoflaw (Strange that a man with his wealth would have to resort to prostitution.)
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To: nickcarraway

Sounds like a very high mileage woman, who is well past her “best used by date”, is lamenting that she is unable to land the perfect guy. LOL.


38 posted on 05/22/2023 4:40:19 PM PDT by rigelkentaurus
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To: joma89

Exactly right. If something were to happen to my bride, no way in hell would I date these days.


39 posted on 05/22/2023 4:41:21 PM PDT by clee1 (We use 43 muscles to frown, 17 to smile, and 2 to pull a trigger. I'm lazy and don't wish to smile.)
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To: nickcarraway

When I hit about 23 my dad, an old school gentleman (who wanted grandchildren) said to me that 30+ bachelor is likely to never get married (or stay married if he does) because by then he is looking for the perfect woman...who obviously does not exist.

If the woman writing this is real, she is learning that the hard way.


40 posted on 05/22/2023 4:41:51 PM PDT by ChildOfThe60s ( If you can remember the 60s.....you weren't really there..)
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