Posted on 06/22/2025 2:02:49 AM PDT by Cronos
We have moved into an era where many men no longer seek women to impress other men or to connect across difference. They perform elsewhere. Alone. They’ve filtered us out.
I recently experienced a flicker of possibility. With James. We met on Raya, the dating app. There was something mutual from the start — wordplay, emotional precision, a tone that felt attuned. It was brief, but it caught light. I remember saying to him, “Even fleeting connections matter, when they’re mutual and lit from the inside.” I meant it.
There was just enough spark to wonder what might unfold. Enough curiosity to imagine a doorway. But he didn’t step through it. Not with a plan. Not with presence. He hovered — flirting, retreating, offering warmth but no direction.
Sexual tension and a spark aren’t reason enough to sit still and hope there’s substance behind the shimmer. So I named what I felt. I texted him clearly, with care, not simply to declare attraction but to extend a real invitation to explore what was possible. I didn’t chase. I invited, leaving the door open. If he ever wanted to cross the threshold — not just to take, but to meet — I was willing. I wanted. I still do.
He never replied. He still follows my Instagram stories — one of those small gestures of passive engagement that so many of us now mistake for closeness. It looks like interest. It feels like silence.
There are thousands of Jameses. I have known dozens. The arc varies, but the undertow is familiar.
...here’s what’s real: We never needed you to be perfect. We needed you to be with us. Not above. Not muted. Not masked. Just with.
(Excerpt) Read more at nytimes.com ...
RUN, don't walk! (As he did).
Crazy bitch thinks she is the "main character" in a novel or movie. She should stick with ChatGPT until she is red pilled by leftist consequences and joins the rest of us in sanity.
First of all, any man who’s spent time with almost any woman, can tell you that needing (trying to force) you to be perfect, is what they do.
Second, the feminist movement and modern culture are telling men every minute of every day, that not only are men not perfect, but that they are inherently flawed and bad.
The disengagement of today’s young men can only be a surprise to people who bought into and are part of the continuous disparagement of men and maleness that has been going on for decades.
I don’t disagree with you about porn but I don’t see it as a material part of the authors problem.
The problem is she is a woke leftist and thus abhorrent to a real man.
Did he look? I don’t recall
There is no distaff equivalent of a "righteous man." Except for Old Testament prophetesses and the like.
The closest equivalent would be an "obedient daughter / wife who submits to her father / husband."
Regards,
I dunno. I think this has been perfectly obvious to women since forever. Notice how its rude to ask a woman her age? Notice the massive effort on women's part to look young? That's been all my life. I don't think women don't realize this. It think its much more a case of - especially since feminazism - them not wanting to admit this. A big part of the problem is militant feminism teaching women to focus 100% on their wants and completely ignore the fact that men have wants too....that men get to choose too and its not a one way street.
Many of them act shocked and horrified when they hit the wall and discover that men get to choose too....even though deep down they knew it all along.
Most men are now aware that, if they weren’t wanted in their 20’s, they aren’t really wanted. They just exist to be used. That’s one of the reasons for being vacant.
Not worth it for men. Women will cry rape, claim sexual harassment, and take what a man has earned. Foolish for a guy to marry because she take half of what he has. They only want the perfect man and will instantly flee when not happy. Tbey will take away the kids if he has any with her.
what is WMV?
At least 700 times that we know of.
They will not procreate, so whatever they do will be irrelevant in the greater scheme of things.
Regards,
Unlike today’s modern overweight, tattooed harridans, porn has a mute button.
Dating site? 54 years old? What kind of a man is going to be age interested in her? Maybe a guy in his 60’s or 70’s or 80’s and those guys have long since settled into relationships with adventuring WITHOUT a woman along. Fishing trips, Travel, Road trips rock hounding, prospecting, historical or just a long weekend on horseback out in New Mexico or someplace. She will always be in third place behind his two dogs as well.
Your sig got a laugh out of my thin wife.
misandrist
noun
One who hates men. Contrast misogynist and cf. misandry.
Similar: man-hater One who professes misandry; a hater of men.
There it is.
No man here is playing the apologist for the "playahs," the "cads," or the lazy, self-indulgent couch-potatoes (though many of the latter might actually tell you that they have "opted out" of the game anyway).
There are plenty of men who want to be the leader but what they mean is they want to have their way all the time in a whiny baby spoiled brat fashion.
By the same token, no man here is defending spoilt cry-babies and whiners.
Enough of your straw-manning, already!
Now, if you see a clear path you are leading people on, that is one thing, but if you are demanding everybody agree with what you say just because you are the husband and the dad, no.
Now, the basis of my demanding submission and obedience from my family members is that I:
That's quite a long laundry list - and not a few of the items are entirely optional (we don't have any "animals" in our household; we don't have any vehicles; don't have a "yard"). But I strongly suspect that most of my fellow male FReepers would assert that they perform those duties gladly anyway.
But out of curiosity: What do you suppose the equivalent list for a woman wishing to be treated with respect and deference would look like?
(Hint: The typical man here would have a list of perhaps three requirements.)
Regards,
Bkmk
“I stopped reading at the second paragraph. As I’m sure many others did.
She’s insufferable.”
I also found her writing off-putting. The overly flowery prose seemed designed to impress rather than communicate. Like she was writing a college term paper to be graded. If She toned that down maybe she could get a date.
Used to be 2 years in MD. Unless, of course, you’re Parris The First Glendening.
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