BOY PROBLEMS Young men are struggling, and we wanted to figure out just how badly and why.

.nytimes ^ | May 13, 2025 | The Morning

[daniel1212]

Boys enter kindergarten lagging behind girls in both academic readiness and behavior. A majority of teenagers agree that boys are more disruptive...girls get better grades, have more leadership roles and speak up more in class.

Source: Pew Research Center | Survey was conducted Sept. 18-Oct. 10. Home-schooled teens were not included. Shares of respondents who did not offer an answer are not shown. | By The New York Times

In interviews, young men say that school never felt like a good fit for them, or that they got the sense that teachers didn’t like boys, and that this left them feeling discouraged or undervalued. By high school, girls are more likely to graduate on time — and more likely to go to college.

Source: National Center for Education Statistics | Individuals ages 16-24 are counted here if enrolled in a two- or four-year college by October in the year of their high school graduation or equivalent. | By The New York Times

Young men are struggling in their mental health and transitions to adulthood, too. What’s going on here? I’m reporting a series on boys, the first installment of which published today. I’d love to hear your experiences... Tell The Times what you think here. — Claire Cain Miller

[dfwgator]

That top 10% of men? A heck of a lot of them intend to stay single.

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Or going abroad to find women.

[HartleyMBaldwin]

In interviews, young men say that school never felt like a good fit for them, or that they got the sense that teachers didn’t like boys, and that this left them feeling discouraged or undervalued.

Well, boys, there's nothing new here. Lots of boys don't like school, and lots of teachers don't like boys (the feeling is often mutual). There will be lots of things in life that you won't like, and lots of people who won't like you. School is good practice in learning to deal with such things early in life, when consequences of making a mistake are generally less serious.

What you don't want is to be persuaded that you're some kind of victim because everything isn't exactly as you might prefer. That will do you a lot more harm than Old Mrs. Grundy being mean to you. Get through school and get on with your life.

[bankwalker]

[vpintheak]

Feminists have won the day. Men are denigrated and run down at every turn. Don’t display manly virtue or you WILL be destroyed by society. Government will take care of you, you don’t need a father. And men, you can stick it in any garden tool you want and the baby can be eliminated, or you can just toss momma some money every month. You don’t need to be there.
Try to teach your sons how to be men; and they will be destroyed.
This is our society. Nutless men and manly women have destroyed our culture.
Be counter cultural! Tell your kids how it really is and teach them it’s good to stand against it. Faith in God, and Jesus Christ. Take up your manly mantle and femininity as God intended. The world can pound sand. It’s doomed anyway!

[dfwgator]

Don’t display manly virtue

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That only goes for white guys. Black males can be as Alpha as they want to be.

[daniel1212]

For almost all of human history, the primary normative occupation/career and vocation, was that which the female is uniquely designed and ordained for, which is that of bearing children, and raising them along with her husband, and (hopefully) under and with his leadership. As stated, this was normative and Biblical, although not all women can bear children, nor must all men and women be celibate. One is to choose to be celibate and continent, or be married and bear as many children as the Lord gives, as part of a temperate lifestyle: 1 Corinthians 7:1-5, 32-35)

Which mean that you did not have a large % of childless women looking for fulfillment in wokeducation and becoming SJW's, and power of political office.

In 2022, 97.4 percent of women between the ages of 15 and 19 years old in the United States were childless, as were 82.2% between the ages of 20 and 24, and 60.2% between the ages of 25and 29. - https://www.statista.com/statistics/241535/percentage-of-childless-women-in-the-us-by-age/

57% of adults under 50 who say they’re unlikely to ever have kids say a major reason is they just don’t want to. - https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2024/07/25/the-experiences-of-u-s-adults-who-dont-have-children/

[oldbrowser]

"Women outpacing men in college attendance."

I wonder if women are carrying the same ratio in STEM classes.
Back in my day women usually tended towards the liberal arts.

[vpintheak]

Your last sentence is a huge part of it. No father = no real discipline. And drug up the boys so they are compliant.

[z3n]

“disruptive” is an antonym of compliant

[T.B. Yoits]

[ek_hornbeck]

It has always been my belief that girls did better. They always did when I was in school, anyway. This is nothing new to me.

Men and women have similar average intelligence, but men have a higher variance. This means that you'll get both more boy geniuses and more boys in special ed classes.

[T.B. Yoits]

“In a sort of ghastly simplicity we remove the organ and demand the function. We make men without chests and expect of them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honour and are shocked to find traitors in our midst. We castrate and bid the geldings be fruitful.”
― C.S. Lewis, 'The Abolition of Man'

[ek_hornbeck]

That only goes for white guys. Black males can be as Alpha as they want to be.

This despite the fact that white guys usually find more constructive ways to be alpha than their black counterparts, i.e. it doesn't involve joining street gangs.

[T.B. Yoits]

[redangus]

The Feminists and the Left have been working towards this goal for 50 years. Looks like they’ve succeeded. The war on boys is real.

[daniel1212]

There was a reason that single sex high school education was popular for decades. Boys and girls have different needs educationally. Single sex education permitted schools to focus on the needs of one sex without the social distractions of dating and rivalries for affection.

True, but which sex is predominately determining educational models?

[daniel1212]

It was a given back then that boys should early on start acquiring skills they would need to be soldiers, since pretty much you could count on another war to happen every 20-40 years.

Vs. video games and inane videos.

[redangus]

Great book. Every parent of a boy should read it.

[ek_hornbeck]

I'm so glad that I attended school before the time where any kid who acted up in class out of (often justified) boredom was diagnosed with ADHD and drugged up with Ritalin.

Our society has declared normal behavior pathological, and the end result is a pathological society.

[Jamestown1630]

The US military uses ‘video games’ for a variety of training needs.