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Politics, once a first date taboo, is now more important for daters. A relationship expert shares tips.
CBS News ^ | October 26, 2024 | By Sara Moniuszko

Posted on 10/26/2024 11:36:12 AM PDT by Oldeconomybuyer

Online daters are used to swiping right or left — but could their decision hinge on whether that person leans right or left politically?

Political views of a potential partner are becoming more important for daters, Terri Orbuch, a relationship expert and professor of sociology at Oakland University.

"Our identities and who we see ourselves as are tied to these issues that have now become political, which are issues of social justice and diversity and inclusion and equity, gender, race, sexual orientation," Orbuch said.

So, how do you bring up politics during a date. She suggests a three-step approach:

1. Observe behaviors: "What you really want to do at this first step is observe their behaviors and how they interact talk with other people," said Orbuch. "How are they talking to the barista, the server, the person that is seating you? Are they respectful? Are they looking at them? Are they talking to them respectfully? Are they tipping?"

2. Ask life questions: Instead of direct questions about politics, ask questions that reveal what they value in life. For example, what does their ideal weekend look like? What do they like to do outside of work?

"These are great questions to get answers about a whole lot of topics, but I also think you can get answers to how they value ideas about social justice, diversity and inclusion," she said.

3. Share your own experiences: Lastly, you can reveal what you value by sharing your own interests.

To show you value family you might say, "I love my niece ... so I volunteered yesterday at her school to read a story," Orbuch said.

Seeing how the other person responds, she said, even by observing their nonverbal reactions, will tell you a lot about whether they hold similar key life values.

(Excerpt) Read more at cbsnews.com ...


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1 posted on 10/26/2024 11:36:12 AM PDT by Oldeconomybuyer
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To: Oldeconomybuyer

Oy!

Sounds like someone with no ‘social network’ and is using dating apps to find a date.


2 posted on 10/26/2024 11:43:40 AM PDT by ASOC (This space for rent)
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To: Oldeconomybuyer

I could never date a liberal.


3 posted on 10/26/2024 11:50:02 AM PDT by dfwgator (Endut! Hoch Hech!)
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To: Oldeconomybuyer

Liberals are evil stupid people. If you can’t tell a person’s politics in 5 minutes or less, then you’re not paying attention.


4 posted on 10/26/2024 11:53:35 AM PDT by Responsibility2nd
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To: dfwgator

Nor could I. In fact, I think it’s disgusting how we have to share a planet 🪐 with them.


5 posted on 10/26/2024 11:56:07 AM PDT by No name given ( Anonymous is who you’ll know me as )
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To: Responsibility2nd

Exactly.


6 posted on 10/26/2024 11:56:16 AM PDT by No name given ( Anonymous is who you’ll know me as )
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To: Responsibility2nd

First date? How about mating rituals that go on for months or even years? Once I know it’s not worth it I proudly announce that I’m pro-life. That settles it and I’m not the bad guy.


7 posted on 10/26/2024 11:58:02 AM PDT by DIRTYSECRET
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To: Oldeconomybuyer

unh-uh. ASK straight out. As early as you can so you don’t waste time with someone who might be seriously flawed (i.e., a Democrat, that is._


8 posted on 10/26/2024 11:58:37 AM PDT by Gaffer
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To: Oldeconomybuyer

This is so easy.

Just say the word “Trump”.

If they start screaming expletives at you the date is over.

Lol.


9 posted on 10/26/2024 11:59:35 AM PDT by cgbg ("Our democracy" = Their Kleptocracy)
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To: Oldeconomybuyer

Flee fornication. It is better to burn.


10 posted on 10/26/2024 11:59:37 AM PDT by Sequoyah101 (More important than why there was nobody protecting the AGR roof, how did Crooks know that?)
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To: DIRTYSECRET

Trump!? He’s an asshole! But I like him he makes me laugh like Bill Clinton did.

That might get you to 2nd base. Liquor is quicker.


11 posted on 10/26/2024 12:00:53 PM PDT by DIRTYSECRET
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To: Oldeconomybuyer
Politics, once a first date taboo, is now more important for daters.

I agree with that. America was better in general when people kept politics to themselves.

I'm not sure what Michael Jordan is like when it comes to politics. And that's the way it should be.

12 posted on 10/26/2024 12:01:02 PM PDT by MinorityRepublican
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To: Oldeconomybuyer
Our identities and who we see ourselves as are tied to these issues that have now become political, which are issues of social justice and diversity and inclusion and equity, gender, race, sexual orientation," Orbuch said.

Those things are what animate the left. So this is really about how leftists date. Leftists cannot suppress their politics IMHO. This is a good and bad thing. It identifies them very easily but brings nothing but conflict if you don't toe their line. Any conservative who inadvertently dates a leftist should be making plans to exit the date asap when the political red flags start waving.

13 posted on 10/26/2024 12:01:08 PM PDT by xp38
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To: xp38

Nope. We gotta marry them and go to work on it. When they don’t need the government they’ll see things our way. It’s just that you gotta go first.


14 posted on 10/26/2024 12:08:09 PM PDT by DIRTYSECRET
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To: Oldeconomybuyer
From the Rogan/Trump podcast:

“I think young people are rejecting a lot of this woke bullshit. Young people are tired of being yelled at and scolded,” Rogan said. “They’re tired of these people that they think are mentally ill telling them what they think the moral standards of society should be today…You wanna be a rebel? You wanna be punk rock? You wanna, like, buck the system? You’re a conservative now,” he added.

I know young people - and this is true. The new 'rebel' is conservative...

15 posted on 10/26/2024 12:11:30 PM PDT by GOPJ (Democrat voter fraud votes the people who don't show up to vote. Everything else is red herring...)
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To: Oldeconomybuyer

When they say “I’m voting for Obama again. I just saw him on TV. He needs some hair dye but he’s still doing a good job.” then ask the waitperson for the check. Then run.


16 posted on 10/26/2024 12:14:09 PM PDT by frank ballenger (There's a battle outside and it's raging. It'll soon shake your windows and rattle your walls. )
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Ha. That’s what the Anunnaki space aliens said about the Sumerians. “We are outta here.”


17 posted on 10/26/2024 12:15:27 PM PDT by frank ballenger (There's a battle outside and it's raging. It'll soon shake your windows and rattle your walls. )
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To: Oldeconomybuyer

I could never date a liberal. I could be friends with her and see if she could come around and stop being a liberal, though.

I also would not date someone who wasn’t a Christian, though.


18 posted on 10/26/2024 12:20:06 PM PDT by ConservativeMind (Trump: Befuddling Democrats, Republicans, and the Media for the benefit of the US and all mankind.)
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To: MinorityRepublican

‘Republicans buy sneakers, too’.

— Michael Jordan


19 posted on 10/26/2024 12:23:12 PM PDT by Responsibility2nd
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To: MinorityRepublican
people kept politics to themselves.

That's part of how we got to be in our current wretched situation.

20 posted on 10/26/2024 12:23:32 PM PDT by NorthMountain (... the right of the people to keep and bear arms shall not be infringed)
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