Posted on 03/30/2024 8:40:17 PM PDT by CMS
my wife bought this a while back and it was put up. I found it today.
i compleley broke down
Thnak you for your kind words
Hold in your heart and mind instead the vision of you two reconnecting, as you no doubt did many times before. We’re not perfect. You’ll meet again one day. This may sound trite, but I can imagine her saying at that moment something like “You mean to tell me you moped around for years over THAT? I forgave you a long, long time ago!”
Also being a widower, it expresses my sympathies as well.
Also being a widower, it expresses my sympathies as well.
I saw a sign once, said some thing like:
Be the things you loved the most about those who are no longer here.
I can’t imagine what your relationship was like, but I know from my own experience that years of tormenting ourself about what we said or situations that happened, is not what God nor the person would want for us.
IMO it’s of evil spirit to keep us replaying bad situations and such in our minds. It can be weird to think evil is trying to work in us, but if evil can keep us stuck in patterned thought, and we accept staying stuck in it, then there are some things, purposes, God cannot do in and through us while we stay stuck.
Maybe look into some God based books on the topic, or groups to help you use the Word of God and accept His forgiveness about the situation, so you can have HIS peace and confidence to move forward for His purposes for the best of the rest of your life.
Some times writing out an apology, even a few times if needed, get it all out on paper. Read or speak it a few times, ask God what He wants you to do with it (at some point, I’ve burned or other wise destroyed it) helps break the stronghold of the evil patterned thinking and you feel freed/lighter to let it be, because you took more steps to make amends the best you could to the person.
I’ve had similar sorts of regrets. Prayers you soon, with God’s help, break through.
Happy Resurrection Day! He died for all our sins, HE paid the price, accept His forgiveness and rejoice!
That would be tough to handle. When my dad passed it was sudden and unexpected, and that was hard. There were so many things left unsaid, but in this case, it’s the things that were said that haunt you. Hubs and I had a very up and down relationship, with the last years being very good, until late in his illness, when he was feeling really bad and I was about burnt out. Then we got a little testy, but it wasn’t the worst. After his death, I ran across and tried to adopt Benjamin Franklin’s “write injuries in dust, benefits in marble.” It doesn’t quite fit in your situation, and I know it doesn’t help to give advice at all, but I hope you find a way to forgive yourself and concentrate on and be grateful for what was good between you.
I’m sorry for your loss.
Thats probably more true than he intended or you realized.
People with heart problems can experience bouts of unfounded feelings of depression and other emotional issues. If she didnt know about her heart its quite possible you really had very little to do with it and if she could that she would feel bad about leaving you behind to feel this way.
But then no one had brought it up, so I figured I should mention it.
To arrive here today is to see much more on this thread about perspectives, and the benefit of looking at things differently -- not just for the light through your tears, but for your consolation.
Well, just maybe you will find some value in this recent post about new perspectives for this day. I put those types of posts out there because I just never know what might come of them. It's a lonely road, most days.
Many blessings to you for hope, comfort, and peace. It's going to be more than all right, FRiend.
“Absolutely i was sorry. This was the first arguement in 16 years that we went to bed still mad. All other arguments were solved before sleep”
I think she was aware you were sorry anyhow. Our soul hangs around to watch for a couple days before it transcends. Sometimes we can even leave signs for the living before transcending. I believe this because I have had loved ones do that for me after they passed. :)
Always hard to read….
My father loved quotes and I remember him saying we are only here for an instant…
This goes along with the thought to treat every day like it will be your last…
Even if she feels the need for an apology, you can do that and take her for a date to the distant stars and planets that will become our playground.
She knew the routine, because this probably wasn’t your first verbal drag down. In the morning, you would have apologized and done what you could to make amends.
God bless you and keep you.
She knows, now, how much you love her. She may not have known it in mortal form (although she probably did), but she definitely knows it now.
Beautiful sentiments. Embrace them.
i absolutely love this find. i consider it a message from herto stop moping and move on
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