Why Some Couples Can Recover from Cheating, and Others Can't

Self.com ^ | 12-27-18 | Korin Miller and Meridith Clark

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https://www.self.com/story/why-some-couples-can-recover-after-cheating-and-others-cant

Comprehensive article on capacity and methods for couples to possibly recover from betrayal.

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[Jonty30]

You can be the epitomy of the Beatitudes without renewing a covenant that you did not break. You can ensure their well being and care without renewing the covenant.

Being a Christian dows not mean keeping yourself in harm’s way.

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Agreed. And in today’s satanic spewed U.S., would always, 24/7 be present with spouse. Always. ✅

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...”the body is the tabernacle of the Holy Spirit wind”

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Excellent post.

[aquila48]

Then that’s like being guilty of breathing.

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3. The Rib. And only rib. (Genesis)

[aquila48]

“Being a cheater is not in my mindset- and plus, why would i risk what i had?”

Often it comes down to that. If what you have is a shitty marriage, temptation is stronger.

[Vaduz]

Recovery from cheating get rid of them they did once they will do it again keep it simple .

[mosaicwolf]

Curious??? In today’s internet age, does intimate txting between a spouse and another on line considered betrayal?

[redcatcherb412]

does intimate txting between a spouse and another on line considered betrayal?

It can lead to further things and it's very easy to hide

I had a half hour fling with an ex-gf in the first few years of marriage. 35 years later the wife had an internet fling with a guy, left and shacked up off and on for 4 years. When the flings excitement was gone I asked her if she finally considered her 4 year affair as making us 'even' for my half hour in bed with the ex? Her answer was 'nope'. infidelity hatred is definitely the longest lasting.

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Yes, establishing boundaries from the start before dating, and enforcing consequences before even asking her/him to date:

https://www.boundariesbooks.com/blogs/boundaries-blog/how-to-determine-the-right-consequences-when-setting-boundaries

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Yes, one can see, 👁️look, but would not carry it out if circumstances presented themselves.

Which would be all the more reason to be 24/7 with spouse, in this Age we are living in.

[bantam]

YES

[aquila48]

“Yes, one can see, 👁️look, but would not carry it out if circumstances presented themselves.”

It’s what that old fashioned marriage oath of “through thick and thin” is all about.

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What’s the remedy then due, the “price”, to be back together? That’s the question.

[bantam]

Forgiveness, what else would there be?
Problem is, it is a HUGE thing to forgive, overcome, forget about.
It’s a cut so deep, not sure how people overcome it.

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Yes, so damaging here, that would never even want to look at them again....and what “price” would be the remedy?

Wonder how the texter could live with the shame.

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The Cross, the Resurrection. That’s what I’m getting at. With the resurrection, new creation/creature, the abuse is gone, and must be proven gone forever.