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I wasn’t planning on grandchildren for at least another five years, but my son came home at age 22 and informed me that he was going to be a father. I am not a fan of his girlfriend at all; there is just something about her that makes me not trust her. I tried to communicate this to my son, but he is blinded by her beauty, among other things, and has never been able to hear what I have to say about her.
Now that the baby has arrived, my son truly has blinders on. He is so in love with his baby boy that the idea of getting a paternity test seems pointless to him. I told him that he should get it just to remove all doubt that the baby might not be his. They have had plenty of heated arguments while she was pregnant, and she is guilty of spewing comments about the baby not being his. My son assures me that she only has said those things out of anger and that the baby is most certainly his.
I had my concerns about the baby’s complexion and even his little features. In my heart of hearts, I didn’t think it was my grandchild. My son finally agreed to get the paternity test done last week, to my surprise. The results confirmed my suspicion. She was cheating on my son and got pregnant by another man. My son is beside himself with anger and humiliation and cannot believe she would go to such lengths to actually lie about something so serious.
I told my son that he needs to be reimbursed for any and all monies he spent on her prenatal care. I personally want the money back for what we spent on throwing her a baby shower and on big-ticket items we bought, like the car seat, crib, and pack-and-play. My son is emotionally scarred and can’t think straight right now, so it is my job to make sure he is asking for the right things. Is it petty to demand money back for what my son and I spent on a child that’s not his?
Suckered. The state loves your generosity. It has zero motivation to find anything to the contrary.
Quick question, did they do the paternity test and is or is he not the father?
The son is justifiably scarred. Dad needs to think straight for him at this point
Going after money spent on the child is, IMHO, a waste of time. The legal process will be long and fruitless, and the woman won't have it anyway. Don't expect "justice."
At this point, he above all needs an immediate and clean divorce, and to protect his existing assets
Be grateful for the half-a-million $$$ you’ve both saved over the coming 20 years and move on.
Sex is like everything else in life: It’s best to do it God’s way and not the world’s ways.
Reminds me of that old joke: How’s your wife and my kids?
So this is not something that happened to Grundle but something this FREEPER saw in the media.
Interesting situation to consider, however.
Is anyone thinking about the child and what is best for it? If I had bonded with a “grandchild” and later found out it wasn’t really my son’s, I don’t think I could easily give up that bond.
Reparations?
I have a nephew, he and his wife had a son. They got divorced. He paid child support for the kid. My nephew remarried. His 2nd wife wanted a kid but didn’t get pregnant. She was tested and found to be fertile. My nephew was tested and found to have been sterile all along. He had a paternity test performed on the kid he was paying child support for and found that the kid wasn’t his. He went to court over this wanting the requirement that he pay child support terminated. The “judge” ruled that since his name is on the birth certificate as father, he will be required to pay child support until the kid is 18, in spite of the fact that the test proves he wasn’t the father. The only way they would terminate his child support is if his ex-wife requested it, which she didn’t, so he had to pay until the kid turned 18.
Your son needs to put his pants on and be a grown-up.
Weirdo. She “wasn’t “planning on having grandchildren for 5 years”? She’s not really in that decision loop. Son should do whatever he wants as far as suing the evil bit@h. Ersatz grandma should stay out of it from here on out.
She sounds like the type that will strut around informing her son how she was right.
Son needs to cut momma’s apron strings.
Yes you are being petty, write it off to the school of hard knocks. BUT, If she listed him as the father on the Birth Certificate HE NEEDS A LAWYER TODAY, and he is NEVER to hold himself out as the Father of this Child regardless what happens in the future.
There is case law that can hold you financially responsible for playing pretend daddy
so a childbearing woman can name any man on the birth certificate, and the man is judged the father until proven otherwise merely on the woman’s say-so?
I think paternity tests should become routine in the hospital before filling out the birth certificate, even for married couples.
That is probably not going to happen. You can try small claims court.
What you do need to do is make sure your son's name is removed from the birth certificate. Otherwise she can come after him for child support.
Because women NEVER lie. And of course they NEVER cheat.
If he was married he would probably get hamstrung for child support even though it's not even his child. Is this a great country or what.
If the woman doesn’t have any money no lawyer will even take the case. He’s looking at paying the bills for hours and court fees only to end up with a judgement that will never be collected, if a lawyer will take it.
What he should be worried about is being stuck with the childcare and alimony payments for a kid that isn’t his. That does happen. He’ll need a lawyer no matter what he does.
Just chalk it up as a life lesson