Posted on 10/25/2023 1:41:00 PM PDT by grundle
I wasn’t planning on grandchildren for at least another five years, but my son came home at age 22 and informed me that he was going to be a father. I am not a fan of his girlfriend at all; there is just something about her that makes me not trust her. I tried to communicate this to my son, but he is blinded by her beauty, among other things, and has never been able to hear what I have to say about her.
Now that the baby has arrived, my son truly has blinders on. He is so in love with his baby boy that the idea of getting a paternity test seems pointless to him. I told him that he should get it just to remove all doubt that the baby might not be his. They have had plenty of heated arguments while she was pregnant, and she is guilty of spewing comments about the baby not being his. My son assures me that she only has said those things out of anger and that the baby is most certainly his.
I wasn’t planning on grandchildren for at least another five years, but my son came home at age 22 and informed me that he was going to be a father. I am not a fan of his girlfriend at all; there is just something about her that makes me not trust her. I tried to communicate this to my son, but he is blinded by her beauty, among other things, and has never been able to hear what I have to say about her.
Now that the baby has arrived, my son truly has blinders on. He is so in love with his baby boy that the idea of getting a paternity test seems pointless to him. I told him that he should get it just to remove all doubt that the baby might not be his. They have had plenty of heated arguments while she was pregnant, and she is guilty of spewing comments about the baby not being his. My son assures me that she only has said those things out of anger and that the baby is most certainly his.
I told my son that he needs to be reimbursed for any and all monies he spent on her prenatal care. I personally want the money back for what we spent on throwing her a baby shower and on big-ticket items we bought, like the car seat, crib, and pack-and-play. My son is emotionally scarred and can’t think straight right now, so it is my job to make sure he is asking for the right things. Is it petty to demand money back for what my son and I spent on a child that’s not his?
I don't recall seeing anything in there that said they were married. He can walk away from this without any trouble.
Reparations?
Yup. Just consider the money amortized over the number of sex acts he performed with her. She was a whore, and rendered services.
I have a nephew, he and his wife had a son. They got divorced. He paid child support for the kid. My nephew remarried. His 2nd wife wanted a kid but didn’t get pregnant. She was tested and found to be fertile. My nephew was tested and found to have been sterile all along. He had a paternity test performed on the kid he was paying child support for and found that the kid wasn’t his. He went to court over this wanting the requirement that he pay child support terminated. The “judge” ruled that since his name is on the birth certificate as father, he will be required to pay child support until the kid is 18, in spite of the fact that the test proves he wasn’t the father. The only way they would terminate his child support is if his ex-wife requested it, which she didn’t, so he had to pay until the kid turned 18.
LOL
Stupid, old-fashioned me. I automatically assumed from Dad's tone that a couple having a kid and sharing assets, etc...meant they were married.
time to come into to the 21st century!
Your son needs to put his pants on and be a grown-up.
Weirdo. She “wasn’t “planning on having grandchildren for 5 years”? She’s not really in that decision loop. Son should do whatever he wants as far as suing the evil bit@h. Ersatz grandma should stay out of it from here on out.
She sounds like the type that will strut around informing her son how she was right.
Son needs to cut momma’s apron strings.
Divorce? I did not see any mention of a marriage.
Yes you are being petty, write it off to the school of hard knocks. BUT, If she listed him as the father on the Birth Certificate HE NEEDS A LAWYER TODAY, and he is NEVER to hold himself out as the Father of this Child regardless what happens in the future.
There is case law that can hold you financially responsible for playing pretend daddy
Family court sux (from personal experience).
so a childbearing woman can name any man on the birth certificate, and the man is judged the father until proven otherwise merely on the woman’s say-so?
If the son’s name is on the birth certificate, he better get it off, or he will be responsible for child support expenses.
“so it is my job to make sure he is asking for the right things. “
No... he’s 22. It really is NOT your job. Your overbearing way of running his life into adulthood is probably why he wound up knocking that chick up.
It’s also why Pink Floyd wrote the Wall, the opus to overbearing mothers.
I think paternity tests should become routine in the hospital before filling out the birth certificate, even for married couples.
Helicopter mom if there ever was one…
That is probably not going to happen. You can try small claims court.
What you do need to do is make sure your son's name is removed from the birth certificate. Otherwise she can come after him for child support.
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