Posted on 08/15/2022 5:48:20 PM PDT by C19fan
Men are lonelier than ever as they struggle to meet the higher dating standards of modern women, according to a psychologist.
American psychologist Greg Matos wrote in a recent Psychology Today article that the current state of young and middle-aged men's love lives shows they need to 'address a skills deficit'.
He said: 'I hear recurring dating themes from women between the ages of 25 and 45: They prefer men who are emotionally available, good communicators, and share similar values'.
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DING! Or they spend their 20s in school or just traveling and having some “me time”, etc. Then they hit 30 and want a guy their age who has worked hard and who is on the way up in his career.
They might well have been desirable in their 20s but that guy now does not want them. He wants what they were 5-10 years ago. Then they get angry and bitter that now that they’re finally ready, they can’t get a good man.
They is you! 😂
That sounds like the mindset I had in high school.
First off, women aren’t a monolith. There are some dumbass women out there that have stupid criteria by which they choose men. There are men who do the same. But they don’t ALL want one thing. It does so happen that the one thing most of them do NOT want (in spite of their saying otherwise) is a ‘nice guy’. Nice guys are boring. There’s not a whole lot to talk about. They’re so busy being nice that they look weak. Well adjusted women have a desire for a strong, competent, and take-charge man. A man who takes-charge, not because they think they’re entitled to it, but because they’re a natural leader.
Women often mistake the asshats who are just jerks for what they’re looking for, because the ‘nice guys’ are so damn busy being giant wusses that they never show that they’re a real man. (If they even are...)
I used to be a ‘nice guy’. I went through all the training and indoctrination to be one of those guys who gets ignored. But I figured out early on that being a ‘nice guy’ was getting me the girls I didn’t want and I couldn’t get near the ones I did. So, I corrected.
Does that mean I’m no longer nice? Not at all. But I bring value to the table. I bring ambition, drive, success, knowledge, and experience with me. I am strong in mind and body. And when I want something, I damn well make it known. I don’t sit around and hope someone gives it to me like a ‘nice guy’.
At the end of the day, I still worship the ground my wife walks on, because I love her and she’s my best friend. I knew it the night I met her that she was the one. But if I had been ‘nice’ when that chance came along, I wouldn’t have gotten anywhere with her.
Let me correct that...
"Fool proof plan for a women to get a foolish man"
You're welcome.
That’s how they justify their lonelinest.
They can’t find a man that fits their standards.
Yep. I know of which I speak. 👍
They o ly want a 10-inch chocolate penis that ejaculates money on demand.
And the average shark soon discovers that most are remoras.
It’s so sad, that even knowing me makes you more like me.
I tried that. It just got dirt in my mouth, and chipped teeth from the pebbles.
“ Alone, but not lonely.”
The Sigma male.
Notice white women are attracted to black men? It's because they're alpha.
Some are, but others I talked to, who were not attracted, didn’t know why others are.
thus, many good women will never marry nor have children....and many men will never marry and never have children.....
and then we wonder why the white population is diminishing...
I know.
Sometimes people just have to learn to stretch themselves.
Meanwhile, thirtysomething guys spent the decade becoming prosperous, and therefor can draw the interest of twentysomething women who haven’t ruined themselves.
Interesting to see how men condemn in women what they allow in themselves.
Spot on. Men who cite the 80-20 rule forget that 80% of men are also chasing the most attractive 20% of women. Male hypergamy is the elephant in the room that no one dares mention.
Someone on a previous thread pointed out that women aren’t necessarily attracted to the bad boy types because of their badness, but because women are attracted to self-confidence in a man.
IMO, the bad boy types are usually arrogant beyond words and women interpret that, or rather misinterpret that, as self-confidence.
The biggest laugh I have is the dregs of society guys who look like skid row bums seem to think that they deserve and could land someone who looks like a model.
Somehow it doesn’t seem to occur to them that women also want to like what they see as well.
It’s funny how men demand physical beauty and then complain when the personality doesn’t match.
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