Spot on. Men who cite the 80-20 rule forget that 80% of men are also chasing the most attractive 20% of women. Male hypergamy is the elephant in the room that no one dares mention.
What threads like this reveal is that there is a lot of room for maturity on both sides of the aisle.
The problems addressed in male/female relationships are not because of the innate differences in how men and women are wired and think, but because of the maturity of the individuals involved.
There’s way too much selfishness on both sides with people looking only for what they can get out of a marriage for themselves. And a little common courtesy from both sides would go a long way towards smoothing things over.
Scripture gives some good basic guidelines on marriage and following those would help tremendously.
Women date up, men date across and down. We’re happy with semi cute, feminine, and friendly.
A crucial difference between men and women:
Men would rather go out with an average looking woman than stay home. Women would rather stay home than go out with a man who doesn't meet her standard of desirability.
The net result is that while men might like LOOKING at very attractive women, they are more likely to face reality about who they can actually get.