A prenup is a good way give your fiancé a sudden case of cold feet.
And most barbers, when asked, will say you need a haircut. Shocker!
I messed that up - didn’t think to get a prenup. We’ve been married for several decades. I suppose this sleazy lawyer thinks I should go get a prenup now.
A divorce attorney named Joe Kordell runs ads here telling people to explore every alternative and pursue divorce as a last option.
So even if you are a truly devoted couple in love where divorce is extremely unlikely, the attorney can at least make some money on preparing a prenup document.
If it’s your 2nd marriage I agree. BTW just passed the 40 year milestone with my 1st and only wife:-)
A prenup at the time we got married would have protected a good solid couple hundred dollars! If I had even that!
God knows we didn’t marry for money.
“A divorce attorney wants to make sure people get divorced?”
That’s not how I look at it. Couples get divorced and it is what it is. Couples get married thinking it’s gonna be a cake walk, and she’s doing it the American way: there’s a market for divorcees and she wrote about it. She’s NOT writing that all couples get divorced..
My sister signed a pre-nup. He is worth at least a billion. It made sense. Especially since thew were both over 40.
What I prefer over a prenup, though, is marriage options as I’ve heard some states do:
Marriage type A - what we seem to have in most of the country today. Also where a no-fault divorce would probably be the norm.
Marriage type B - called a “covenant marriage”. In this case, you don’t get to ask for a “no-fault” divorce. Kinda like the old days.
So, type A marriages can be ended like a partisan impeachment can be passed. Type B marriages also require the equivalent of the Senate Trial, but where the opposite “party” has a majority position. i.e. if only one of you wants the split up, it’s gonna require murder. ;)
“A divorce attorney wants to make sure people get divorced? “
actually, if all couples had a well-written pre-nup, it’d pretty much put divorce attorneys out of business ... a pre-nup is nothing more than a marital property contract that overrides the default contractual provisions of the marital property contract of the state that one is married in, and which one implicitly agrees to when signing a finalized wedding license ... pre-nups are particularly important for males in states in which the tables are heavily tilted against the male ... also important when one partner has assets that vastly exceed the assets of the other ...
My wife and I married in our 20s, and had our first child 10 months later. We had just bought a small apartment, got some very simple furnishings, and with new child, our expenses were high. She had left her job to watch our child. At one brief point, our bank account was overdrawn, and we couldn’t go to the grocery store, while I waited for my paycheck. I remember when that happened, she took a deep breath, and smiled.
things have improved considerably since then. So our pre-nup is: She’s entitled to everything we have, and more.
Idiotic.
Marriage is “Tell Death Do Us Part”, period, end of subject, no exceptions, as far as I am concerned.
I’d be quite OK if it was illegal, as with bankruptcy, just eliminate it.
I can see it in cases where someone gets married in later life, perhaps already has kids and one or both have significant assets to protect and don’t want their pre-marrige ‘stuff’ to become communal property.
But for most young people starting out, on more or less equal footing, seems like a really bad idea. Getting a divorce shouldn’t be easy or friction-free. Part of having co-owned and co-mingled assets makes walking away from a marriage harder - and perhaps even causes some folks to stick out during the tough times.
42 years ago we both had nothing but an education. I didn’t know it but my wife had some small student loans. She got a job, I thought to have something to do and never asked what she did with the money. She paid off her loans in a short time. What we have we have earned together. What she earned along the way is hers. She took care of the kids, the house and me. I earned us a living and retirement. When I go all of them are taken care of if there is no great disaster. If that happens, I did all I could to be prepared.
There have been some troubled times but you resolve not to quit because of them.
It is a cold, snowy, sloppy day here. I’ve enjoyed a hot bowl of chili and cornbread and a brownie with ice cream with my coffee for lunch in a warm, clean, comfortable home.
We have both done as we agreed a long time ago. I am saddened for anyone who has not enjoyed that. Especially with children.
Highly recommend a fair prenup as well (or even a post-nuptial agreement).
Prenups are probably a net destroyer of the institution of marriage. (As are over-liberal laws in the other direction.)
All couple who have a pre-nup will NEED that pre-nup.