Millennials are reluctantly staying single because they can't afford to date [tr]

UK Daily Mail ^ | August 1, 2019 | Peter Lloyd

[C19fan]

Thousands of US millennials are priced-out of the dating market, a new study has shown.

Researchers found that a third of Generation Y are reluctantly single because they can't afford to pursue love.

According to the data, financial instability is hampering their ability to find 'the one' because it's forcing them to budget, instead.

Meanwhile, a quarter of respondents even said they would happily have sex with a human-like robot - but this would still be classed as cheating my half of partners.

[bgill]

How many $60/hr plumbers and electricians have student loans?

[bgill]

Ugh, who wants to go to a movie theater? If you must, then get discount tickets or go during a matinee. Hubby used to get free tickets all the time by guessing the answer to silly radio station questions. He had so many, he’d pass them out to strangers.

[V V Camp Enari 67-68]

I say bull on this thread topic.

[Yaelle]

It’s also noteworthy to say that having a partner in life makes life infinitely easier.

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I guess you picked well. Didn’t turn out that way for me, though. Easier at this point would be to date but not merge lives / homes / bank accounts.

[ThePatriotsFlag]

Agree (and I rarely go). But you look at all the “Marvel” stuff on the big screen today ... it is geared for the millennials .. yet that is the very group that can probably least afford it.

[DungeonMaster]

Millennial dating is a cell-phone app.

[NEMDF]

Your post struck me funny, SO TRUE, because that’s exactly what I do - dump a scoop of Folgers into the (8 year old?) Cuisinart coffeemaker at home. I only buy coffee “out” if we are on vacation and need more than I can get free at the motel - and then it is McDonald’s.

[CodeToad]

Women are feminists only until the check comes.

[NEMDF]

Daughter is engaged and planning wedding now. Both she and her fiancée have stable, good-paying jobs. Only debt is his mortgage, and I think they both have car payments.

They are trying to stick to a strict budget for the wedding plans, and (while it is still a lot of money), it looks like it may come in for about $10K.

Too many of my daughter’s friends had over-the-top weddings (say $30K-$60K), and were divorced less than 2 years later, which I think was a good lesson for her. And the wedding is really only a FEW HOURS... The guests will not even remember anything about it in a couple months.

[Grimmy]

Wait until they move to NY City and discover that no one lives in great big roomy lofts like in Friends on a coffee house drone’s wages.

[Mom MD]

Not just women. my daughter is a good looking young woman, classically trained ballerina and newly minted MD with no prospects currently. Not only my daughter but all other college educated friends from PhDs in neurobiology to accountants to professional chefs are single. Good chaste clean living Christian women. Seems the boys these days like the easy hook ups as well

[grey_whiskers]

+1

[wardaddy]

There is a certain element of that but no question whatsoever that young women of middle class up are brainwashed that they don’t really need a man and that career trumps marriage children and traditional life

I wasn’t addressing promiscuity which is another issue and dovetails I guess

Most college grad girls are simply not looking for much beyond temporary in their 20s and early 30s.....and it’s due to programming at home and school and the idiot box in their palm

Just some orgasms thank you very much and maybe a vakay together but that’s it

I blame parents mostly....my girls are not like this

I see many young women today are in total denial of instinct and it’s harmful

Now so you don’t think I’m just beating up girls

Boys of that same class are soft as putty probably with testosterone levels much less than mine even though I’m 61

I really listen and ask questions of young folks and a number work for me.

I have sex more than they do...my wife is 8 years my junior and we’ve been faithful two plus decades and it’s a big focus of our relationship

Young guys I talk to maybe once or twice a week at 25-30....man at that age it was a nightly ritual ....hell everything kind of was set in motion over it

And not just sex drive.....look what they look like....feminine looking....soft...no jaw...no brow.....no wonder black men run all over them though educated class black males are softening too

This is a marked development and I think it conditioning to a large degree

Why because my own boys although they exist in exactly the same environment are not like that at all

My boys are 12 16 and 19

My girls late 20s

I also notice as an older parent that once you get younger parents than mid 50s they start aping the modern ways and the wife is likely very strong in the family and the husband quiet or subordinate

I’m talking educated class folks making good money nice homes and vacations with kids

Williamson County TN which is about like North Dallas or Roswell GA or North Shore New Orleans

Similar demographics

Typical where I live with kids in middle or high school

Parents are 42-55

Wife is pretty but curvey as though say in blind date descriptions

Dad works corporate Nissan or UHC or HCA or professional doc or lawyer or homebuilder or self employed

Wife has some college likely a degree maybe even a doc like you

They are mostly in hiatus or working less hours in their practice for kids

Over half women where I live don’t work

Daily uniform is yoga pants ...even if chubby...and tennis or flip flops in summer or birkies

Tank top or exercise shirt....or fleece in winter

Little or no makeup and hair pulled back

If northern in origin hair is likely bobbed and not colored

Southern women have longer hair older and color or highlight it

Even though they vote GOPe 70% they are indoctrinated in political correctness and ape what they think is the acceptable reply on questions of sensitivity

Uniformly soft on homosexuality

And most importantly they run the home....bossy as they said when I was a kid

It’s not an appealing environment except for young men who come from families where the women are bossy and they want that

May explain why they are reluctant to leave home now

All the facets I just i described play off one another

I understand completely why men go abroad for women today

And I’m in the south where girls are indeed more traditional bent

Watch reality shows how young marriage prospect women act today

This is where the we’re not gonna have kids anyhow fembots ruined decent God fearing women for generations

Deny your clock

Don’t listen to your instinct

It’s the most damaging aspect of the culture wars and is the big reason why we will be a non White nation in 30 years or so

The browning of America is based on birth rates and white girls can’t be bothered

This is just observations

I can’t deny what I see even if it makes folks uncomfortable

I prefer the world I grew up in for America’s survival

This world will destroy the nation state

You may view my family on my homepage for reference....

Btw....I prefer women doctors for all but heavy surgery....they listen better and don’t get impatient with Merck Manual wonks like me

[fr_freak]

Got married at 18 and was still in the Army...my marriage turned to $h!t anyway.

Hate to say it but...I was a former Army dude also, and your mistake was getting married while in the service. Military service is hell on marriages, even when the people are decent. And a lot of the people aren't that decent, at least when it comes to keeping it in their pants/keeping their legs closed.

[fr_freak]

There is a solution to this: have game and be a PUA.

Yeah, but is that really worth doing? Is getting laid really worth the trouble, especially in an age when STDs are rampant and women are often insufferable? I wasn't much of a hookup guy myself, even when I was younger, because it never seemed worth it. I think I was spoiled by my first-ever girlfriend. We had an actual relationship, and, in addition to being horny rabbits as teenagers, we had a HUGE emotional connection, so every, um, interaction, was on a very intense level, and hookups just don't have that kind of pizazz.

[fr_freak]

my daughter is a good looking young woman, classically trained ballerina and newly minted MD with no prospects currently.

Wha.......? How is this possible? I've had, uh, nocturnal events that weren't this good.

[Mom MD]

and she bakes a mean cheese cake. She also has standards.....

[Mom MD]

I was fortunate to work very part time (2 days a month) while my kids were little. It can be done

[umgud]

Yeah, I hear you.

[JoeFromSidney]

Those of us who grew up during the Depression find this hard to take seriously.