Posted on 08/17/2017 9:44:34 PM PDT by nickcarraway
Q: I’m a 50-year-old guy who’s been divorced for about a year. I’m beginning to date again, but I’m uncertain who pays for what. A friend tells me that he always pays for the first date when he goes out to dinner with someone new. But after that, he splits the check 50/50, unless there’s a special reason not to, like it’s her birthday. This sounds reasonable to me. But what should I do if, on the second date, the woman doesn’t reach for her wallet as I reach for mine? My friend says he just tells his date, “It looks like your share’s about $X” and hands her the bill. I’m not sure I’m that brave.
A: We once heard a female comic say: “Of course, I’m a feminist. Not a buy-my-own-drinks feminist, but still a feminist.” Our point is, you’re right to be concerned that some of the women you date may be slow to reach for their wallets. But fear not. You’ll find your own voice for proposing to split the dinner tab as the dates — and the bills — start to pile up. Just to be clear that there is nothing wrong with asking a woman to pay for her share of dinner. The problem with your friend’s “50/50 after the first date” rule is that one size does not fit all. Au contraire.
Even by the second meal out, you’ll probably have a more nuanced financial relationship with a new or prospective romantic partner than you do with, say, a friend at work. So instead of worrying too much about when and how to ask your date to get out her credit card, spend more time considering how you’ll want to handle the situation if you begin seeing someone regularly who has significantly
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Dude, if you can't afford her Big Mac and diet Coke then perhaps you shouldn't be dating.
If you expect her to pay for dinner at 50 and she’s likely younger
Then be prepared to have masturbation as your best pal
Women who date old men like me
Expect to be treated
Period
Wasn't directing that to you, Nick - that was aimed at the moron writing to Miss Manners..
Lesson learned: when it comes to money, never trust a woman. If you want the relationship to stay on an even keel, just pay the freight and chalk it up.
The one who asks pays. My husband always paid when we dated and still does to this day, but since I am an inexpensive date (don’t drink alcohol and prefer salads) he doesn’t seem to mind eating steak while I eat the pre-dinner greens.
No, I was expected to celebrate its centennial in a couple years, which will probably be the theme-stick, craptastic And compelling reason for electing Fauxcahontas in 2020...
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I’m glad you got rid of her. Not all women are that way. My husband still pays, but since my salary covers all the household bills, his salary is the discretionary money; otherwise I would pick up the tab.
Shoneys is an inexpensive eatery typically found in the south. They have an amazing buffet breakfast.
IIRC they used to be called, "Sambo's".
She won't respect you and she's got you pegged as a free meal. Not you specifically but as a rule of thumb - dinner is WAY out of line for a first date. She's going for a paper cup of water on date one or she's not going.
It depends on who asked who out....the asker always pays.....unless it has been agreed upon before hand.
Yep. And that individual sticking his or her date with the tab deserves whatever happens next. Which is very unlikely to be happy.
Sounds like a good woman who appreciates a gentleman. Well done. Hope shes a keeper.
Then she is a wanna be
Why, Shoneys is the home of the All Star Breakfast and all you can eat pancakes!
IHOP? Denneys? Big plastic menu?
I’ve been hitched so long, 30+ years, my date small talk would prolly be something like:
“So, didja get enough to eat? Are you full?”
“You have to go to the bathroom ... again?”
I miss Golden Corral. It was all-you-can-eat of EVERYthing. It’s a car parts store now. Believe a big part of the problem was failing to refrigerate their food.
That’s the manners I learned as a child in the 50s.
you wanna get some lovin’ ?
you pay for dinner
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