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What is a marriage/wedding for?
vanity ^ | Dec 7 2016 | Linda Martinez

Posted on 12/07/2016 3:54:07 AM PST by eccentric

What is marriage? What is the purpose of marriage? What does it mean?

I am asking this of a culture where it is normal to live together while unmarried, have children and give them names of either parent. Marriages don't necessarily last longer than just living together, so it is not a lifetime commitment, i.e. 'til death do us part.' The law no longer distinguishes between having a marriage license or not when people separate....

So with 'marriage' having lost any significance, what is the purpose of a wedding? In the past, a wedding celebrated the beginning of a new way of life for a couple. Gifts were given to help them set up a new household and prepare for children, etc.


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To: Safrguns

Well said.

And it pains me to see how many people who consider themselves conservative see no problem with all of the shacking up that is prevalent in our culture today.


41 posted on 12/07/2016 6:09:17 AM PST by Bigg Red (To Thee, O Lord, I lift my soul. Thank you for saving our Republic.)
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To: oldasrocks

If a man chooses his wife because she’s beautiful or pretty, because it’s time, because he feels like getting married, because somebody’s pushing him to get married, or any of another hundred reasons, instead of the fact that he wants a lifetime with this woman Then he gets what he gets! You sound like a guy who chose for the wrong reasons and got burned. Maybe you’re not maybe you’re someone who chose for a lifetime and your mate betrayed you, that happens too. But I will tell you why my husband married me, he married me because we have like values because my character was strong and Christian, because I had been through the fire and came out better than when I went in. And he loved me. And I adore him. If he ever leaves me, I’ll be in the next room packing to go with him!!


42 posted on 12/07/2016 6:21:52 AM PST by Shimmer1 (Do not merely live the length of your life but the depth of it as well.)
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To: eccentric
What is marriage? What is the purpose of marriage? What does it mean?

Simple… Marriage is the institution created by God which allows mankind to realize and fulfill the sexual component of their humanity in the only way that He approves.

43 posted on 12/07/2016 6:26:19 AM PST by hecticskeptic
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To: baltimorepoet

We just got married in September. It took us 58 years to find each other. First we pledged our union to God between each other, then we had a wedding ceremony this September, to share our joy and commitment With each other with our family and friends. Very meaningful, precious to both of us, shared with family and friends. It was also very small and we requested no gifts. I’m perfectly happy and he’s perfectly happy with what we’ve got, we are One. It’s amazing really. I adore him I love him I treasure him and he does me as well. Thank you God.


44 posted on 12/07/2016 6:26:40 AM PST by Shimmer1 (Do not merely live the length of your life but the depth of it as well.)
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To: Mr. Jeeves

That is what we believe. We are not going to the state for permission for that in which the state has no business in. We went to the ultimate authority.


45 posted on 12/07/2016 6:28:36 AM PST by Shimmer1 (Do not merely live the length of your life but the depth of it as well.)
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To: exDemMom

I’m addressing one paragraph of your post. What happens if one dies? Do the children not have another parent listed on their birth certificate?
What if both die?
What if there’s property? That’s what a will is for, that answers both these silly questions


46 posted on 12/07/2016 6:31:24 AM PST by Shimmer1 (Do not merely live the length of your life but the depth of it as well.)
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To: jsanders2001

Not our marriage. My husband means everything to me.


47 posted on 12/07/2016 6:34:57 AM PST by Shimmer1 (Do not merely live the length of your life but the depth of it as well.)
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To: oldasrocks

SOME WOMEN, oldasrocks. FANG & I have been married for
over 52 years. Not heaven on earth; but NOTHING is in this
mortal realm. I have worked just like FANG all these years,
sometimes outside the home, sometimes in the home. Worked
as FANG’S secretary for 30 years in his business.

FANG has had an eye for the “ladies”. I had my fill of his
nonsense pretty early on and have stuck with him thru
thick and thin and back thick again, thru surgery after
surgery, after surgery, after surgery sixteen times over.
Now I don’t think he fancies himself as Don Juan or every
“attractive” POT as “wife material”.


48 posted on 12/07/2016 6:35:17 AM PST by Twinkie (John 3:16)
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To: Unam Sanctam

I wonder that myself! It was my second marriage this last September so I wore a beautiful aqua gown


49 posted on 12/07/2016 6:35:46 AM PST by Shimmer1 (Do not merely live the length of your life but the depth of it as well.)
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To: BBB333
We didn't exactly elope, as our daughter had been borne 9 months prior to that. We were married by a JP in Florida prior to a cruise to the Bahamas. It was just us, my family lived in California and Oregon, and her large family lived in El Paso.

A big wedding was never in the cards, I didn't want to put that on my FIL...he had 7 daughters and busted his butt raising 10 kids. My wife didn't want a big wedding either. We were married by the church about 20 years ago, when I converted to Catholicism.

No regrets, though I think it's better for children to arrive after a couple of years of marriage. It's truly life changing to become a parent, but it can put a strain on relationships.

50 posted on 12/07/2016 6:54:12 AM PST by Night Hides Not (Remember the Alamo! Remember Goliad! Remember Gonzales! Come and Take It!)
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To: Shimmer1
> Not our marriage. My husband means everything to me.

I'm referring to the current generation really.. You probably didn't have a $50K + wedding. I sure didn't. I've been to some weddings where the groom might as well only show up to do the wedding photos. At one I went to a few years ago everything was focused on the bride with a videography team that followed her captured her in thousands of shots. I couldn't get out of there fast enough...lol

51 posted on 12/07/2016 6:54:14 AM PST by jsanders2001
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To: eccentric

When I was a teen my dad would tell me to date liberal girls but make sure I marry a conservative girl.


52 posted on 12/07/2016 6:56:19 AM PST by The_Republic_Of_Maine (politicians beware)
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To: FES0844

I ask myself that same question all the time!


53 posted on 12/07/2016 6:56:40 AM PST by neverbluffer
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To: Shimmer1
I’m addressing one paragraph of your post. What happens if one dies? Do the children not have another parent listed on their birth certificate? What if both die? What if there’s property? That’s what a will is for, that answers both these silly questions

Many people do not, in fact, have wills. And without a will, and a clear set of legal guidelines, what happens to the children and property? These situations can lead to long, contentious, and expensive court cases. The laws did not come into being because of politicians wanting to exercise greater control over their subjects--they were a result of the desire to have a standardized protocol to use in the cases when both parents died.

54 posted on 12/07/2016 9:05:18 AM PST by exDemMom (Current visual of the hole the US continues to dig itself into: http://www.usdebtclock.org/)
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To: Night Hides Not

<:-)


55 posted on 12/07/2016 11:30:05 AM PST by BBB333 (The power of TRUMP compels you!)
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To: eccentric

“Marriages don’t necessarily last longer than just living together”

Yes, it does. Don’t believe the liberal nonsense that divorce rates are high. They have been falsely reported to destroy marriage as an institution.


56 posted on 12/07/2016 11:33:22 AM PST by CodeToad (If it weren't for physics and law enforcement, I'd be unstoppable!)
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To: The_Republic_Of_Maine
When I was a teen my dad would tell me to date liberal girls but make sure I marry a conservative girl.

I've given my two sons the same advice, but in a slightly different manner: it's ok to date a woman with tattoos, but you don't want to marry one.

I know some will take that the wrong way, I'm sure there are many conservative women with "body art", but IMO we're talking needle and haystack.

57 posted on 12/07/2016 12:01:03 PM PST by Night Hides Not (Remember the Alamo! Remember Goliad! Remember Gonzales! Come and Take It!)
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To: exDemMom

Then make a will for goodness sake!!! You’re creating this big dramatic problem where none has to exist!


58 posted on 12/07/2016 1:59:08 PM PST by Shimmer1 (Do not merely live the length of your life but the depth of it as well.)
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To: jsanders2001

I’ve heard of ones like that. One son/dil spent way too much on theirs. More than they could afford ($6000 or so) it wasn’t so much except THEY COULDNT AFFORD IT.
Our wedding? About $1500 for wedding and reception. We what is the forwarded whatever but we didn’t want to waste money we wanted it to be very small and meaningful. We were both very very joy-filled over the day! Null and Void came to our wedding!


59 posted on 12/07/2016 2:05:13 PM PST by Shimmer1 (Do not merely live the length of your life but the depth of it as well.)
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To: eccentric

Fabulous cash and prizes, reduced insurance rates, limited power of attorney, makes certain family members stop whining, clarification of property situation when somebody dies. A lot of legal stuff gets easier with a marriage license, especially in a community property state.


60 posted on 12/07/2016 2:08:05 PM PST by discostu (Alright you primative screwheads, listen up!)
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