Sit and enjoy the ceremony, don't distract people with your camera up in the air, no screaming babies during the walk down the aisle, or vows, or sermon.
There is a time and place for children. A wedding isn't it.
She is free to have her wedding however she likes, but if you want to start the beginning of your family by leaving out a big part of your own then personally I question her core values.
I love weddings, not because of all the pomp and circumstance that can go with them... The biggest reasons I enjoy weddings are its one of the very few times in life you see entire families of all ages get together for a joyous event... For days old children to 90 year old relatives. Unless your family is all living close by weddings are one of the few joyous times they will all get together.
A wedding without children might as well be a gay blasphemous celebration of sodomy as far as I’m concerned. Too focused on the party and the bride and groom than the larger world and life they will and are part of.
She’s a very picky girl.
I totally agree...kids do not belong everywhere and these days most of them are brats with lazy parents.
Just wait until you have grandchildren!
ML/NJ
I’m guessing that the cost of this wedding is going to be well north of $50,000. If you’re paying that then excluding kids is the least of your worries in the pretension department.
Since when do people drag their offspring to a formal wedding?
Would they insist upon taking their children to a cocktail party or evening dinner affair?
Am I so hopelessly old that I understand and invitation to Mr and Mrs or Ms does not mean and Family included?
The bride has every right to host a wedding of her choice. Why, I know of one bride whose close relative refused to attend her wedding because she refused to move the date to one more convenient to the relatives schedule
This author comes off as spoiled and elitist. Her smirk and snide are palpable
Fair enough, but the bride sounds like an insufferable witch.
I have been to several truly memorable weddings which had lots of kids. The kids added a lot to the affair.
The free photo booth was a huge hit. I mean a giant hit with kids. As well as with the adults. I have pictures of myself as a the world’s first steampunk Indian Chief.
Hilarious.
That said, I have seen an increase in what I feel are self indulgent, excessive celebrations. Mega weddings, fancy birthdays for babies and toddlers, huge celebrations for things that used to be simpler things. A shallower society that judges itself on how large and fancy its celebrations can be... not sure whats going on.
Free advice to the groom: Flee this ungracious harpy while you can. Unless you have surrendered every vestige of your manhood already, you will have a hell of a life trying to keep this infantile attention freak happy.
Were I a friend or relative receiving this invitation, I would respond with regrets that we will miss the production. (So what church hires out its house of worship , provided by people of faith, to become a venue for narcissists?)
Their wedding, respect their choices. No, I don’t want kids at my wedding reception either, they can come to the Church, but not the reception. I have been to enough weddings to realize not all kids can handle it and not all kids should be exposed to the drunken revelry that can occur . Really, hire a babysitter instead of making a scene, it is actually rude to impose on the wishes of the bride and groom..
My hope is she won’t have kids at the divorce.
I’m with her-—not too long ago kids never came to weddings.
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I actually agree with this bride. Some weddings are easier to have kids, others are not. It’s her wedding and if that’s what she wants fine. I actually prefer weddings without tons of kids.
Hmmm. A wedding at a “stunning” church, reception at a “top” restaurant, jazz ensemble.....
The wedding as performance piece, festooned with lavish costumery, backdrops, and props, rehearsed and acted out to elicit maximum audience applause.
Inviting children-—or God-—might risk spoiling the performance.
They get stuffed in uncomfortable clothes, forced to sit quietly while adults in funny costumes drone on and on and sing sappy songs then they go and have to continue to be on their best behavior while eating weird food and not getting to drink any of the fun soda pop that the adults get.
Really why would you want to take any of the under 12 set to a wedding?
And very few of the over 12 set would want to go either.
I didn't have a "no kids" rule at my wedding but I can see why people would want to if they were having a formal affair.
Too much time thinking about a wedding.
Not enough thinking about a marriage.