Posted on 04/29/2015 5:23:08 PM PDT by reaganaut1
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I took two pregnancy tests, just to be certain. I spent the night by myself, crying. The very next day, I skipped class and went to an abortion clinic, where I officially learned that I was almost four months pregnant. My ex-boyfriend had apparently broken up with a girl who was a month and a half pregnant with his child.
All I desperately wanted was to have my boyfriend back. I wanted him to hold me and let me cry into his chest, for him to tell me that everything was okay even though it wasnt. But by the time I found out the truth, it was too late to get him back. He had started dating another girl two months after we broke up. I couldnt tell him. I couldnt tell anyone.
So I called the clinic and made an appointment for a weeks time. That week was the hardest of my entire life. I hid underneath baggy sweaters, convinced that someone would notice how round my stomach had gotten. I was pale and withdrawn, and skipped almost every class to cry in my bedroom. I woke up every day praying that I was having some extended nightmare. I wasnt.
I headed to the clinic a week later with just a book, a water bottle, my Harvard ID, and a locket containing a picture of my ex-boyfriend and me. The procedure didnt take long. It wasnt even that physically painful. But when it was over, I screamed. I couldnt stop screaming. As I write these words, it has been over a month since the abortionand on the inside that screaming hasnt stopped.
(Excerpt) Read more at thecrimson.com ...
Thought they had not lowered their standards?
Wrong-O, liberal breath.
Harvard students who fell asleep during their high school sex ed birth control classes.
Yes and how can you miss 4 periods before you start to wonder if you are pregnant? If you want to have unmarried sex which is OK with me then get on the pill which is 99% effective and you won’t have to boo hoo to the abortion clinic.
Its a liberal utopia. Someone should remind her.
Girl-
Have your baby, love your baby.
And take a little longer to get your degree.
College Girls: Unpaid Whores
If you were to visit a womens studies department at an elite university, you would encounter a wide variety of courses on the sexual liberation of women. The main thrust of these courses is that for too long, various social institutions have prevented women from exploring their sexual desires. Now, thanks to the heroism of such women as Gloria Steinem, Margaret Sanger, and Bella Abzug, women have been partially freed from the oppressive forces of male patriarchy. In other words, young women are encouraged to be whores.
The chant of Gen. Z college babes might as well be Were here, were whores, get used to it! No, most girls are not actually uttering those words, but the slutty sentiments are implicit in the standard female college behavior wearing tight shirts and pants, getting publicly drunk, hanging on every guy around, and engaging in random sex.
The concept of behaving like a lady is an anachronism. If a college girl acts like a lady, she is considered boring, prudish, and old-fashioned. Why is this happening? Five important explanations come to mind.
(1) Feminist thought has taught young women that equality is achieved by acting like promiscuous sluts.
In Who Stole Feminism? Christina Hoff Summers writes extensively about how the womens rights movement was hijacked by gender feminists, who supplanted equity feminists. While equity feminists were concerned with such mainstream issues as equal pay for equal work, gender feminists were obsessed with proving that (a) there are no biological differences between men and women and (b) men are evil. When the gender feminists seized control of the movement, they encouraged women to behave just as immorally as many men. This was seen as a step toward gender equity.
But why is it liberating for a college-age woman to jump into bed with a man that is not her husband? Why is it freeing to become intoxicated and to hook-up with anonymous frat guys? Why is it an expression of equal rights to give into mens animalistic instincts?
Presumably, women could exercise their true power to tame men by using celibacy (and other ladylike behavior) to induce men into monogamous stable relationships and eventually into marriage. Along the way to healthy relationships, women could also gain some self-respect.
(2) Young women have turned away from God.
As women have strayed from the church, they have replaced what is holy with what is temporally pleasing. For Catholics, the model woman is Mary, the virgin Mother of God. She is beloved by the faithful for her unflappable devotion to and trust in God, her nurturing of the Son of Man, and her deep love for all humanity.
Todays college girl looks to the trollops of Sex in the City, and the floozies on Friends and How I Met Your Mother to set their moral compasses.
The sad truth is that college girls are so desperate to find love that they are willing to degrade themselves to get it. But true love can only be understood in the context of the Word of God. Any other notion of love is secular and, by definition, limited and finite.
(3) The costs of sex have rapidly declined.
The explosion in availability of the birth control pill fueled the so-called sexual revolution of the 60s, the consequences of which we still see today. With the ability to partially regulate the probability of pregnancy, women can choose to have sex more liberally. Expanded abortion-on-demand services have also permitted young women to engage in more sex because of the greater ease with which a major consequence of sex can be disposed. Abortion providers have recognized the prevalence of sex by college girls in their choice to locate close to our nations colleges and universities.
Perhaps just as important as the reduction in the economic costs of sex is the decline in the psychic costs of sex specifically, the social stigma associated with nonmarital sex. In an earlier era, young women who chose to engage in sex were socially ostracized and their behavior denounced. Today, if a young woman engages in a one-night-stand (random hook-up) she is a liberated studette.
(4) Marriage has been devalued by young women and replaced not only by cohabitation but also by new, bizarre social arrangements such as friends with benefits.
Young women have traditionally looked to men for marriage and family formation. This is no longer true. College girls look at men not as marriage material, but as sex partners and roommates. Many college women live and sleep with their boyfriends. This is the norm.
Additionally, other sex-based relationships have become commonplace. In recent years, a new and disturbing arrangement known as friends with benefits has emerged. In this arrangement, men are not even forced to perform the normal duties of boyfriends, i.e. flowers, Valentines Day cards, rides to the abortion clinic, etc. Instead, girls consider these guys just friends whom they happen to screw every now and again. No strings, no attachments, no dinners. Just sex when they feel like it.
This type of arrangement is the next logical step in the direction that young women have drifted in the last few decades. These women have become unpaid whores. At least prostitutes made a buck off of their trade. These women just give it away.
The truth is that women actually lose power by becoming tramps. When they give away one of their main sources of bargaining power in a relationship sex men gain total power by achieving everything they want free sex with no obligation.
(5) You know exactly whos to blame the mother and the father. Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory
College girls are clearly responsible for their own behavior, but their parents have shaped their values. The verdict is in -- their parents have failed. Too many parents, particularly mothers, have eschewed their moral obligations to raise their daughters to be respectable ladies.
Instead, many moms want to be their daughters friends, talking late at night about boyfriends, parties, whos hot, etc. Young women do not need more friends, they need mothers who will provide moral guidance. Unfortunately, these self-absorbed moms cannot deal with the fact that they are old and will never again see their early 20s. Thus, they attempt to live their sorority days all over again through their slutty daughters.
Now, you say, youve been very hard on young women. But dont young men deserve some blame? Arent you just a bitter, cranky, rapidly-aging misogynist?
The answer to both questions is yes.
Young men are awful and they have gotten worse over the years. And let me be clear young men are responsible for their own behavior.
But women have historically been the civilizing forces for men. That is biological. Moreover, several verses in the Scriptures refer to the important role that women have in the moral uplift of men.
It should surprise no one that sexual activity has historically been more frequent among gay men than among heterosexuals. This is because there is no civilizing female force in the gay community. Whenever men want to have sex, they just go ahead and do it. Neither of the partners has much of an incentive to refrain from sex since monogamous relationships and traditional familes are generally not the final goals of these partnerships. Recently, the behavior of young heterosexuals has begun to resemble that of gay men because young women are imitating men in their sexual promiscuity.
The result of young womens abdication of responsibility has been significant moral decay on Americas college campuses. Can the moral high ground ever be reclaimed? Perhaps one church pew at a time.
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The screaming inside of her will never stop. It’s the luck of the draw whether a baby is a baby (when wanted) or a “fetus” (when not wanted).
For my first, I had a baby shower, not a fetus shower. From the first moment my husband and I found out, our baby was a BABY.
I can feel the anguish in that piece. This girl bought every single lie of the sexual revolution hook line and sinker. She is screaming for help she will only find through Jesus and she is in one of the hardest places in the world to find him. I pray that someone in her life can guide her to repentance and peace but reading between the lines I find it far more likely that her friends and family will try and convince her that she made the right decisions and to ignore her screaming conscience.
We should give this young woman credit for candor, and we should give the Harvard Crimson credit for publishing her sad story. I read almost every magazine out there and you never read anything about how birth control sometimes does fail and about how abortion breaks many women’s hearts.
Hey moron, why have sex with a boyfriend...save it for marriage!!
I know... I'm old fashioned...
I sincerely hope that abortion left her unable to conceive ever again.
When women manage to suppress their maternal instinct enough to be able to have an abortion, it damages the instinct, and they seem never to be able to have a normal relationship with a later child that they have alive. Either they remain emotionally detached, or they become anxious and clingy. And if they choose to tell a child that they killed the child’s sibling, then that child will have the certain knowledge that the only reason his/her mother didn’t kill him/her is timing. They happened to come along when their mother was not in a killing mood.
True empowerment for women does not come through abortion, but through avoiding it. A little bit of discretion about one’s behavior, a little bit of research into effective birth controls and their proper use, and women can put vile abortionists out of business.
If it’s a “fetus”, why is the protuberant belly of a pregnant woman called a “baby bump” and not a “fetus bump”?
A few years ago I dated a girl I knew from high school, her first husband forced her into an abortion, and she has been a broken person ever since. That instability is what caused us going our seperate ways, its a shame, she had everything going for her and without a doubt the most gorgeous woman I ever dated, she was even a Budweiser girl in her early 20’s. We are still good friends to this day, shame it didnt work out.
About 42% of the women who get abortions, were using a contraceptive when they got pregnant.
Some of the side-effects of long-term Pill use are bloating, weight gain, depression, increased risk of STP's (HIV and gonorrhea), loss of sexual libido, and venous thrombosis (sexy, hey?)
And for those who may have these niggling, residual scruples about killing your youngest offspring: All hormone-based contraceptives can cause early abortions.
They interfere with implantation of the embryo, or cause the uterine lining to shed following implantation. That's why some scientists prefer to call them "contragestives," not "contraceptives."
Bottom line: (1)don't use hormonal birth control. And (b)don't have sex with somebody you don't want to have a baby with.
Well said!
This is a cruel thing to hope. When so many women write essays about how abortion empowered them, why can't you spare some sympathy for a young woman who essentially admits that she has been broken by having had an abortion? We are all sinners. We should pray for this woman, not wish that she be barren.
Or so they say. Most people don't want to admit that they were sloppy or lax. Or drunk.
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