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Having It All Without Having Children
Time ^ | Aug. 12, 2013 | Lauren Sandler

Posted on 08/04/2013 8:34:51 AM PDT by Kip Russell

One evening when she was 14 years old, Laura Scott was washing dishes in the kitchen with her mother when she decided she didn't want to have a child. At 26, Scott got married and waited for her mind to change. "It never happened," she says. "And I realized I was going to be fine." Now 50, Scott is more than fine: she's fulfilled. And she's not alone. The birthrate in the U.S. is the lowest in recorded American history. From 2007 to 2011, the most recent year for which there's data, the fertility rate declined 9%. A 2010 Pew Research report showed that childlessness has risen across all racial and ethnic groups, adding up to about 1 in 5 American women who end their childbearing years maternity-free, compared with 1 in 10 in the 1970s.

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TOPICS: Society
KEYWORDS: abortion; birthrate; childfree; generationy; moralabsolutes; timemag; trends
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To: Castlebar

Thank you!


21 posted on 08/04/2013 9:42:40 AM PDT by Tax-chick (Ask me about the Weiner Wager. Support Free Republic!)
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To: wita

“paying the price for your lifestyle. “

Paying what price, exactly? What, precisely, do they pay if a couple does not have children? We have more people in this country than ever. There are now ever 300 million people in it. Why do you think there needs to be more? When I was born there were about 200 million. We were fine then. Why do we need 300 million?


22 posted on 08/04/2013 10:00:57 AM PDT by CodeToad (Liberals are bloodsucking ticks. We need to light the matchstick to burn them off. -786 +969)
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To: Yaelle
I fought infertility and won. It isn’t everything but to me, parenthood nearly is everything.

Given how important this was to you, I'm very glad you were able to have children.

23 posted on 08/04/2013 10:09:09 AM PDT by Kip Russell (Be wary of strong drink. It can make you shoot at tax collectors -- and miss. ---Robert A. Heinlein)
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To: Tax-chick
There is now in the kultursmog absolutely no connection between having sex and having children. It's almost as if a large segment of society has forgotten basic reproductive biology.

Well, given the availability of modern birth control methods, the connection between sex and having children is largely optional.

24 posted on 08/04/2013 10:12:50 AM PDT by Kip Russell (Be wary of strong drink. It can make you shoot at tax collectors -- and miss. ---Robert A. Heinlein)
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To: Kip Russell; Tax-chick
There is now in the kultursmog absolutely no connection between having sex and having children. It's almost as if a large segment of society has forgotten basic reproductive biology.

Well, given the availability of modern birth control methods, the connection between sex and having children is largely optional.

It's the "disconnect" that's coming back to bite us all, and bite us hard.

We've gone from "blessed event" to "baby bump" (as if that's some sort of optional fashion accessory.)

It seems that with the rise in "legal" abortion (child-killing) and contraceptive (child-preventing) technologies, there has also been a rise is development of greater fertility-enhancing technologies. There is nothing natural about this.

What we were taught in school about birth control (oral contraception) was that it was a mother's labor saving-device, an escape from what would have been a drudgery of endless pregnancies and premature aging and a houseful of unwanted, excess children. The extreme case scenario was made to be the biggest selling point, just as rape and incest were made to be the selling points for abortion. We all know how that turned out.

25 posted on 08/04/2013 10:26:17 AM PDT by thecodont
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To: Kip Russell

IMHO, if you don’t want children then fine. However, don’t plan on changing your mind when you hit 40 something. I use to work with a woman who had about four abortions. One was done very quickly because she and her husband were going on a cruise. Didn’t want morning sickness to mess that up. Long story short, she hit forty something and lo and behold.. she suddenly wanted a child. She had taken her cruises and vacations.. she had her big home, she had it decorated beautifully, she had her job/career but yet... something was missing. The whole in vitro process began and she was a complete nut job each month when she wasn’t pregnant with the now supposedly desperately wanted child. So.. like I said... if you don’t want one then fine. However, don’t think that you can suddenly change your mind later and you will get your wish.


26 posted on 08/04/2013 10:26:28 AM PDT by momtothree
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To: momtothree

How awful. What kind of a woman is this? FOUR ABORTIONS, just as if she were removing a hangnail or something!


27 posted on 08/04/2013 10:29:22 AM PDT by thecodont
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To: thecodont

You are correct, what a horrible person.


28 posted on 08/04/2013 10:29:51 AM PDT by GeronL
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To: thecodont

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KTCQpjUrCe8

Really, who wouldn’t want one?


29 posted on 08/04/2013 10:31:07 AM PDT by GeronL
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To: momtothree
So.. like I said... if you don’t want one then fine. However, don’t think that you can suddenly change your mind later and you will get your wish.

No danger of that; I'm just past 50 now, and can honestly say that there isn't the slightest chance I'll ever want children.

30 posted on 08/04/2013 10:35:49 AM PDT by Kip Russell (Be wary of strong drink. It can make you shoot at tax collectors -- and miss. ---Robert A. Heinlein)
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To: thecodont

All four abortions were done when she was married. The most heartless and cold woman. The worst scene was the abortion prior to the cruise. She wanted to make sure all the bleeding had stopped so she wouldn’t be stuck in her cabin rather than snorkeling. I personally think her “change of heart” had more to do with her parents and his parents making out their wills. I believe they were giving bigger percentages to the children who had children. Made sense to me because they wanted those children to have larger “nest eggs” to pay for braces, schooling, etc..


31 posted on 08/04/2013 10:37:05 AM PDT by momtothree
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To: GeronL
Really, who wouldn’t want one?

One of these?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2gLlBv_SrZw

32 posted on 08/04/2013 10:39:40 AM PDT by Kip Russell (Be wary of strong drink. It can make you shoot at tax collectors -- and miss. ---Robert A. Heinlein)
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To: momtothree
I personally think her “change of heart” had more to do with her parents and his parents making out their wills. I believe they were giving bigger percentages to the children who had children. Made sense to me because they wanted those children to have larger “nest eggs” to pay for braces, schooling, etc..

I recently heard of a never-married over-40 woman who adopted a child (and had never in years past expressed any genuine desire for babies and children), and I wonder if it was for the same reasons.

33 posted on 08/04/2013 10:41:03 AM PDT by thecodont
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To: Kip Russell

Parenthood isn’t for everyone. My point is that it isn’t a decision one can necessarily change when it is now convenient. If a person has no interest whatsoever becoming a parent then fine. However, one should take every necessary precaution not to get someone pregnant or become pregnant and kill the child.


34 posted on 08/04/2013 10:42:02 AM PDT by momtothree
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To: dragonblustar

And the children of these illegal immigrants will feel no obligation to pay higher taxes to pay her pension or Social Security benefits.


35 posted on 08/04/2013 10:45:00 AM PDT by tbw2
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To: thecodont

Maybe she was waiting for Mr. Right and he never appeared. However, I do know a lot of people who arrange their will distribution based on need rather than an equal split. Many grandparents want their grandchildren the ability to get college or just some better things in life.


36 posted on 08/04/2013 10:45:59 AM PDT by momtothree
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To: momtothree
If a person has no interest whatsoever becoming a parent then fine. However, one should take every necessary precaution not to get someone pregnant or become pregnant and kill the child.

Can't argue with that...

37 posted on 08/04/2013 10:46:26 AM PDT by Kip Russell (Be wary of strong drink. It can make you shoot at tax collectors -- and miss. ---Robert A. Heinlein)
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To: momtothree; Kip Russell

You don’t have to have children, but killing them is a whole ‘nother thing


38 posted on 08/04/2013 10:47:31 AM PDT by GeronL
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To: thecodont
I recently heard of a never-married over-40 woman who adopted a child (and had never in years past expressed any genuine desire for babies and children), and I wonder if it was for the same reasons.

Unless she stands to inherit a small fortune, that's a terrible "investment". Kids are expensive (or so I've heard).

39 posted on 08/04/2013 10:49:10 AM PDT by Kip Russell (Be wary of strong drink. It can make you shoot at tax collectors -- and miss. ---Robert A. Heinlein)
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To: Kip Russell

Hmmm....but, those libs supporting their kids w/o gov’t assistance seem to vote for everyone ELSE to support the “poor.” Until they wake up...but, it’s getting late.


40 posted on 08/04/2013 10:52:58 AM PDT by goodnesswins (R.I.P. Doherty, Smith, Stevens, Woods.)
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