IMHO, if you don’t want children then fine. However, don’t plan on changing your mind when you hit 40 something. I use to work with a woman who had about four abortions. One was done very quickly because she and her husband were going on a cruise. Didn’t want morning sickness to mess that up. Long story short, she hit forty something and lo and behold.. she suddenly wanted a child. She had taken her cruises and vacations.. she had her big home, she had it decorated beautifully, she had her job/career but yet... something was missing. The whole in vitro process began and she was a complete nut job each month when she wasn’t pregnant with the now supposedly desperately wanted child. So.. like I said... if you don’t want one then fine. However, don’t think that you can suddenly change your mind later and you will get your wish.
How awful. What kind of a woman is this? FOUR ABORTIONS, just as if she were removing a hangnail or something!
No danger of that; I'm just past 50 now, and can honestly say that there isn't the slightest chance I'll ever want children.
As a young adult, I ran in musician circles. Nearly every person I knew, was unmarried. Most weren't even in a committed relationship.
For a long time, that was just fine, but as myself and my circle of friends pushed into our mid thirties, I began to sense a certain nervousness on the part of the women. By the time we were all into our late thirties, most of them radiated something like total panic.
Overnight, it seemed to me that every one of the perpetually childless womyn I knew, was working overtime to have a baby. Unfortunately for most, they either couldn't get a stable relationship together, or they'd had so many abortions that childbirth was too risky.
“if you don’t want children then fine. However, don’t plan on changing your mind when you hit 40 something.”
I kept waiting for the “maternal instinct” to kick in. It didn’t show up when I was 20 or 30 or 40 ... or ever. I pitied my friends and family who had kids because of the angst they added to life. Now they’re dealing with angst as a result of their adult children and their grandchildren. They’re all between 65 and 70 years old now, and I don’t see their offspring jumping in to help or comfort their parents. In fact, the kids are still expecting and demanding help from their elderly parents.
Re your co-worker in your post, what a disgusting and irresponsible person (murderer)! To treat a pregnancy as if it were a pimple or something... hard to fathom.