Save the child, now.
RUN!
Don't look back.
Laz, you were in love with an idea or impression of who you thought this woman was you were never in love with her.
Been there, done that with an ex-wife. Once I was willing to accept that it was the idea of who I thought she was that I was in love with and not the actual person things got very easy, very quickly.
Shortly you will look back on your time with her and thank god you saw her for who she really is and not who you thought she was before you married her.
If you think it’s hard now just imagine how hard it would have been to have that nightmare living in your home with you when she went bad.
I've been waiting for you to post an article such as this. I'm sorry you're hurting. God bless you, Laz.
Well before you move on, I’d call child services and jsut anonymously report whats going on. One thing mommy wants to flush her life down the toilet, she has no right to take her kids with her.
Having her kids taken away will either straighten her up, or show that she’s incapable of doing so.
Being "judgemental" saved your keester - - count your blessings.
Repeat - NEVER, EVER DATE A SINGLE MOTHER!!!!!!
Maybe a widow or when your in your late 50’s and her kids are already grown you can make an exception but other than those - Stay far away from single mothers. Especially one that's never been married.
Remember they got to be single mothers because they wanted the exciting bad boy/player/thug and after the “Jerk” inevitably leaves then they will seek out the nice guy. You will never be anything to a single mother, all she will see in you is a wallet to pay for her kid(s) and given the opportunity she will always go back to the the jerk. Even if she doesn't, you will always be the consolation prize and she will never respect you.
Don't believe the media that single mothers are noble creatures overcoming extreme hardship after being the poor victim of some evil man. They are not, they made their choices and they are responsible for their situation.
Sure, someone will post on how wonderful their stepdad was. That was then, this is now. Back then, the thing to do was get married right out of high school and pump out babies and plus there was limited opportunities for women for anything else, so yeah it's easy to see how a good woman back then could have easily gotten herself stuck with the wrong guy. But today, women have all the choices in the world, there's no reason for a woman to get stuck with anybody. If they had a kid with a bad guy, it's because they wanted to!!!
Again, Never, Ever date a single mother you will save yourself a lot of grief. It is better to be alone.
There are plenty of people here on FReepers who will tell you that receational drugs do no harm. A lot of them are Pauliacs. I’ve seen far to many people destroy themselves with drugs over the years your having an up close and personal demonsration. Be very careful there are so many ways that you can be hurt by her addiction.
I am from the rural parts of Alabma...but left over 30 years ago. I rarely go back...maybe once every two to three years. There in the rural parts...where most folks were fairly religious and life was rather simple...an amusing assortment of drugs are walking hand in hand through the rural parts...and destroying piece by piece of what I knew.
First you have meth...which folks get addicted to and cannot get off. Then you have simple old grass...which is now a very common item amongst the 30 to 50 year olds. Then you have oxie...which is the pain relief you turn to from high school or college football...which you take the first prescription you get from the regular doctor and then the other prescriptions you get from assorted other doctors. You feel no pain, but you don’t think in a coherent fashion either.
My dad lives on a farm...where nothing used to be strange. Up north of the house...some folks built a house and five years later...the wife (five kids) had issues with meth. She got upset one night with the husband who was in the lazyboy, and pulled a butcher knife and tried to slit his throat. She cut enough for it to bleed but not kill him. They caught her the next day...but he would press charges. The gal ran off a dozen times after that...with truckers mostly...making runs out to Texas and back (picking up drugs I would guess).
There was a shooting on the main rural road six years ago...some guy on meth who got upset because some guy passed him on the main road. One dead driver...the meth guy was sent off to prison. Most folks couldn’t comprehend that one.
I have my brother who sees a house or two in the community robbed each week...primarily with teenagers who need to score and just need $40 to make the grade. It used to be rare to see one robbery a month back in the 1980s...but thats all changed.
The oxie fools...can’t quit the pain-reliever because they have too much pain and suffering...and rehab just won’t work. So they stand in front of you at the grocery store....smiling like a cheeser cat...for no reason...or totally out of focus to comprehend anything difficult.
So its all sliding down into a nightmare....with no relief. I don’t see nothing getting better. We are going to find dreams mostly jagged and worth little in the future.
You’re lucky to see this in a short time. I waited until I was married 5 years before the symptoms developed. If you bring them out slowly the man usually doesn’t notice until he’s too old or too lazy to care.
She could easily have dragged you into the chemical abyss.
Now all the suicide pics make sense. Hang in there brother, Jesus Christ saves, if you let Him.
Ahh, man, that sux. I too have seen what crack can do, and it ain’t pretty. Sounds to me like you are doing the right thing, but the hard thing too, by moving on and taking care of yourself. Hang in there, my FRiend. I will be praying for you.
And I agree with the above -- count your blessings that she did not drag you back into the horror of active addiction.
Hey Laz, long time no chat.
Things were going so well for you when we were at WTP. Sorry this had to happen. On the bright side, you got out before she took you down with her.
We are all basket cases, and prone to fall into the abyss of sin and destruction.
We need to read Genesis 3 about our first parents, and understand that we've all inherited the disease that they fell into -- but magnified and mutated over the generations:
'Eve saw that it was good for food, pleasant to the eye, and something to be desired to make one wise...' and her husband Adam went along and chose to follow 'mankind' rather than God'. So yes, we all have a tendency to look at something from its outside appearances and imagine that it'll be really good for us. We all are attracted by the things that sparkle. We all want to go our own ways - and not the path which God has shown us. We all feel the tug of the world - and don't walk in the light of God's Word.
But we have to remember that even though Adam and Eve had disobeyed, and thus had justly received the condemnation of death and banishment from the Garden - God remembered them: 'Unto Adam and his wife, the Lord God made coats of skins, and clothed them'...He did not leave them alone.
We are all sinners - come to Jesus just as you are and rest on Him. He is our covering, and He'll gladly cover our sins by His Righteousness.
He'll get you through the storms of life.
Romans 5
1 Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ:
2 By whom also we have access by faith into this grace wherein we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God.
3 And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience;
4 And patience, experience; and experience, hope:
5 And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us.
6 For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly.
I also think you need to run as far away from her as possible....before she sucks you in again....because I think you are capable of it. Just learn and run. You can't help her.