Posted on 04/23/2008 9:56:59 AM PDT by Lazamataz
Did you meet her through an on-line dating service?
LOL! That should be the FreeRepublic quote of the week!
And yet there are idiots who claim we have lost the War on Drugs. And so therefore we should accept our losses and legalize this crap. Or de-criminalize it.
People like that make me want to puke!
I hate drugs. And I say we should continue the fight. Is it expensive? Hell, yeah. But a far sight cheaper than building hospitals and prisons for the millions of new addicts that we would have if we abandoned our principles and let the pushers win.
I’m so sorry for your greif there Laz.
You have my support.
The Dr. Phil Show is down the hall to the right... ;-)
I hear ya, Laz. We all have to be far more careful these days than ever before.
But at least you avoided marriage! The REALLY scary thing lately is how quickly people are changing within a marriage. You could be married to a good, conservative, level-headed spouse one day, and wake up months later and discover they’ve become a moonbat. The influences on people these days — whether they be other people, mass media, or whatever — can alter a person you thought you knew so quickly.
Hang in there. We’re all in this together! (Channeling Red Green)
You need to recognize and be thankful for God’s blessings.
That all of this happened before you married her is a blessing. Cut the strings and move on. And don’t rush into anything. You’d think an intelligent guy like Rush Limbaugh would learn, but he doesn’t and keeps getting involved in losers.
A sharp knife cuts the cleanest. I mean that metaphorically, of course. Just cut her out of your life and be done with it.
Use your free time to better yourself, in whatever capacity you deem that appropriate.
And, again, count your blessings.
I am an addict in recovery myself. The issue is not the drugs. The SYMPTOM is the drugs. The ISSUE is the incredible lack of self-worth and absence of any self-love.
I am sorry you are going through this. I have had friends who have gone down that road too. I refuse to help them. I tried that & it has never worked. I would change my locks if she has any keys & don’t give her any money. Prayers for her & for you...Pandy
Stay strong, my man.
No, I met her at work. Our first date was a church revival. Our second was a Narcotics Anonymous meeting that I took her to. Pretty damned good start, I thought!
Has the family taken the daughter in; before child services finds out and puts her in foster care?
Hugs and Prayers for you as well, Laz, you'll get through this and be stronger for it. Then you can find the right one!!
Drugs and any relationship is a recipe for disaster. Been there, dun that. Thank God it’s been a couple decades since I wised up.
I also dated a woman who was mildly into drugs at the time. A true stunner, that one. Probably the single most beautiful woman I ever saw, and I’m not exaggerating... tall, long brown hair, ice blue eyes, Irish Catholic all the way.
Saw her about a year later, she had gotten way more into the drugs and looked like a train wreck.
Alot of women these days are pretty high maintenance. If you can find one that truly appreciates the little things, you’ve found a gold mine. You’ll see it in her eyes and know.
Other than that, Laz, I would say she was your perfect match!
Anti-depressants, especially the SSRIs can cause this. My wife became a “New-Woman” who needed to move on from my daughter and I. Until she woke the hell up and got off of the crap. I week later, she was my wife again, and scared to death about what she had nearly done.
So what are you doing next Thursday?
When my wife of 20 years first presented papers, as a complete shock to me at the time, I told her “But I love you, Bambi (not her real name).” She said, “I know you do, but the Bambi you love is a figment of your imagination.”
That was 11 years ago and I remember that moment like it happened this morning.
I honestly did not know life could be as good as the last eleven years turned out to be, and the major reason is that I DID find the woman of my dreams, and just a few months later!
Oh, and “Bambi” was absolutely right!
Laz, the woman you loved did not change. The woman you loved never existed.
Hang in there, Laz...that’s all I can tell ya. I too almost married a woman who turned out to be not as she seemed, thankfully I didn’t, or I wouldn’t have met the great woman I did marry.
Hey Laz, did you post this before? I’m having some day-ja-vu here.
It’s too bad what some people do to themselves, a true waste.
Glad you’re back and out of that mess. I was starting to worry about you.
Now I have seen everything.
It looks like you are seriously hurting right now. Thank goodness there weren’t any kids involved. Although it’s hard you need to mentally move on. Just understand that we each pick the lessons we subject ourselves to and your ex appears to have picked a really rough one to tackle. You need to trust that she will sort it out in her own way. Treat this as a learning experience and look for the life lessons you can take away from this.
Best of luck.
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