When my wife of 20 years first presented papers, as a complete shock to me at the time, I told her “But I love you, Bambi (not her real name).” She said, “I know you do, but the Bambi you love is a figment of your imagination.”
That was 11 years ago and I remember that moment like it happened this morning.
I honestly did not know life could be as good as the last eleven years turned out to be, and the major reason is that I DID find the woman of my dreams, and just a few months later!
Oh, and “Bambi” was absolutely right!
Laz, the woman you loved did not change. The woman you loved never existed.
That's very wise.
All people are figments of our imagination. We can never truly know another.