Dating After Divorce: Venturing into The Dark Abyss

www.elitestv.com ^ | Dr. Hu Fleming

[Goodgirlinred]

LOL! My Highlander gets within a couple of miles per gallon the same as the Avalon XLS. Toyota rocks.

My vet told me that I should send Harm to Alaska on a plane so he could pull sleds, and I should get a 10 pound lap dog!! Now, really, if you are going to have a dog, HAVE A DOG! (He said that because Harm bolted out his door at the office and I belly-flopped on the pavement. He thinks I can't handle Harm. Well, maybe not, but he handles me very well.)

Oh, and Harm and I flunked out of doggie school. :(

[motormouth]

:o)

Bella had NO use for doggie school. She just laid down, let the other dogs sniff her and took a nap! :o)

MM

[day10]

If I am not being too nosey - how long after you were widowed did you want to date again?

day10

[Publius6961]

I'd be nice if the date actually shows up as promised to find out if dating is fun.

What are you suggesting here?
I have never failed to show up for a date, nor know anyone who has.
Maybe your choices aren't the swiftest.

[Publius6961]

Either this is irony--and I don't think so--or he is telling the world what a lousy husband he was...

I also have been known to miss the obvious, but have you considered that perhaps this poor sad sack has met that common monster?
The self-absorbed, manipulative, controlling, insecure witch from hell?

There is a remarkable number of them out there. No, I don't speak from personal experience, but I got eyes.

[Publius6961]

Getting hung up on figures of speech is not the sign of a healthy personality...
Sure, some are more elegant than others. So?

[Experiment 6-2-6]

ME: What do you typically do on your off-time?
She’s late for dinner. By two hours. Smile. (Note to self. Don't mention that you've been bored for the past two hours because she wasn't there)
Nothing much.

ME: Well...do you have friends/family that keep you busy?
She’s whining, now sending back her second undercooked entree. Smile, and laugh. Not as busy as you are keeping the cook and the waitstaff..
Not really

ME: Is there any place you dream of going or anything you've always wanted to do.... but couldn't until now?
She tells you about her evil ex-husband and how all he wanted was sex, for the entire three hours of the meal. Smile, even if you have to think about how lucky he is to not be here. I think about wonderful sex from a beautiful woman all the time.
I don't think about it much

Not, of course, indicating that YOU would have done anything like this...

[Publius6961]

Don't know how to break this to you, but anything that happens in LA is hardly the yardstick by which to judge normal people.
What an odd observation to make!

[Publius6961]

Hi DD. Good to see you again.
As usual, you are down to earth with your remarks, but you lost me with this one:

take a good look at yourself in the mirror and date within your species.

[LaineyDee]

LOL!! No.....I'm sorry I didn't. I'm always on time or early....and in these cases...I wished I'd been caught in traffic indefinitely. I've never had to send a plate back to the kitchen.....AND....I don't whine. *chuckle* See? There IS something wrong with me! :)

[Publius6961]

Sounds like you've been wounded.

Not more than once by the same person, and certainly not mortally. I particularly embrace the part about the taking time out for introspection; I did that in '96, dropped out, enjoyed myself, traveled a lot for about three years and it did wonders for my attitude when I once again returned to the piranha tank...

This can't possibly be a complaint, since I see these as the best six years of my life. And no, I do not feel that I have fundamentally changed. I just no longer indulge the neurotic.

[LaineyDee]

I just no longer indulge the neurotic.

Well.... I guess that leaves ME out.... *grin*

[Publius6961]

This guy claimed he was an M.D.; maybe they don't teach social skills in med school.

Well, that's what you get for dating an "MD", instead of another person. There is a unstated message there.

Personally I would rather not know what a person does for a living prior to establishing a friendship (yes, friendship precedes serious dating, unless one is a masochist). And I certainly don't want to find out who or what she is filtered through her delusions. Nothing is as instructive as a few relaxed, long conversations.

And, certainly, that works both ways.

[Publius6961]

Just exactly what is this "already trained" stuff?

Sounds like shopping for a puppy.

[Publius6961]

My ex gave me 12 hours to rescue my stuff when I was working 100 miles away, and still living weekends in the house I owned when I met her.
I almost got arrested very early the following morning with a truckload of stuff as a DUI, making my second trip.

There is a bright side, believe me. Whatever you feel now, I guarantee that in a few months, or a few years, you'll feel liberated, happier than ever and fortunte to be rid of something ugly.
And as an added bonus, there are wonderful, attractive, interesting women out there of all ages. Just take your time and decide for yourself!

And for heaven's sake, take those few years off to purge yourself of the devil-woman's influence!

[motormouth]

Its VERY much like shopping for a puppy IMO. ;o)

I even have my rolled up newspaper ready to swat when I get a new "puppy". :o)

MM

[Publius6961]

It was my final venture into the world of dating.

Why so timid?
I returned into this thread late, but I notice a conspicuous absence of discussion as to the purpose of dating. It varies from individual to individual, and your mileage may vary.
The rules are substantially different, depending on the purpose of the participants.

The most rare, and the most rewarding, are dates intended to create a new friendship, without a specific goal or a timetable.

[Dashing Dasher]

Many men I know who are between a 4-6 on the looks scale won't date anything less than a 9.5 and they wonder why they don't go out much.

My point was... take a really good look at yourself and date someone who is in your league. If you are a balding, beer bellied, slob - you aren't getting a gorgeous hottie. Unless you're R$I$C$H$.

[Publius6961]

True. I'm used to FReeping on Saturday nights. ;-)

Don't make it sound like a dweeb sentence!

I look forward to freeping on weekends without the distraction and guilt of work.

Ya mean something else can be more fun?
Can't imagine what!

[tuliptree76]

Sorry.