Posted on 12/20/2004 6:41:03 AM PST by kerouacbal
I am 26 years old and have been married for 2 years. I am having trouble growing up and I am driving my wife nuts. It has gotten to the point that my wife talks about divorce almost every day. I want to work this out more then I every wanted anything but I can't seem to do it or do it quick enough. I can't seem to remember consistently to do every day things like take out the garbage make sure all the doors are locked and the heat is off at night (there is a lot more but won't get into it all). I am posting this here to try to get some advise on how to help my self grow up and start to take care of my wife and son better like a husband should. My parents are dead and I don't have a close family member or friend to get advise from. Could someone please help me.
True. So true. As of recently, it's hard sometimes to differentiate between the two.
And yet he is still called to, look how awful we as Christians are towards Christ. A husbands relationship with his wife is a reflection of Christ relationship with the church. If she refuses to be led you need to lovingly put your foot down (must have a solid scriptural footing) as the husband. Remember Hosea, Commanded to marry and love a whore, who was not faithful to him. This was an example of Gods love for Israel who in their way were unfaithful to God.
American women only follow if you're leading to where they wanted to go in the first place.
While the sin might be with an unfaithful and a poor wife Biblically the responsibility lies with the husband. As a husband your love should be so complete that it overwhelms her. Is this to say that you should not correct her? no you absolutely should and in doing so give scripture as the basis for your points.
As a husband you are to be a priest to your family, love them like Jesus loves the church, and are 100% responsible for the state of your house. It helps greatly if your wife wants to serve God because you can point to her Gods will for marriage.
When a wife refuses you should go to a pastor and get advice, I am *not* a marriage counselor, nor am I a very experienced husband (not married two years yet) so take my words with what restraint you feel is needed.
ROFLMAO - Looks like some people I know ...
I would have never known ...
Oh,oh. Now I'm getting confused again.
What a vicious SOB you are.............a stay at home mom is just a "babysitter" to you? There are very few men on this planet that have what it takes to be that kind of "babysitter."
Yeah, the guy is a jerk. Why can't he take out the garbage? Unless he is performing open heart surgery, I can't think of any reason why he can't take out the garbage knowing that his wife and son are sick and it's 20 degrees outside.
The guy is a tool. He knows what he has to do and he still doesn't do it.
In a way you're right.........I had no preparations the night I walked out on my abusive ex-husband and spent the night sleeping in my office.
How would you have "never known" that he was not "a very experienced husband" had he not stated it? Is it somehow due to the fact that his entire post used the Bible as his reference point for marriage?
The issue is not that she is making unreasonable demands. The issue is she's making demands unreasonably. Even though what she's asking for may seem trivial, she's talking divorce over not getting her way.
He has asked us to believe that he is in the wrong and that he is constantly screwing up... Why shouldn't we take this man at his word?
Because many of us have "been there, done that," been raised by single women, and/or recognize the manipulative camouflage of "I want you to help me clean, but I get to say what's clean enough."
Most men in our culture have been so thoroughly indoctrinated it never occurs to them to question female assumptions. Men have had "put the seat down" drilled into them so thoroughly, it seldom occurs to them to wonder why women aren't suppose to leave the seat up.
"Why can't he take out the garbage?"
He can and does take out the garbage when he does not forget, at which point his harpy of a wife says she wants a divorce.
"Why can't he take out the garbage?"
He could and would have, if his wife would have done her job and reminded him last night.
Pray together every night, and remember these words.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
You are right honey, I am sorry.
I've been married for twenty years.
Tanks.
Also, what stops you from making lists of what you forget every day?
If you leave a house, have a check off list:
Checked all the windows are closed and locked.
Car Keys.
Laundry water turned off.
Oven or range off.
Alarm on if need to.
Tell wife you are sorry again.
Leave.
Would it have killed them if the garbage didn't get taken out?
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