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I Regret Being A Slut
Bridget Phetasy Substack ^ | 17 Aug 2022 | Bridget Phetasy

Posted on 08/17/2022 11:56:17 AM PDT by Rummyfan

I know regretting most of my sexual encounters is not something a sex-positive feminist who used to write a column for Playboy is supposed to admit. And for years, I didn’t. Let me be clear, being a “slut” and sleeping with a lot of men is not the only behavior I regret. Even more damaging was what I told myself in order to justify the fact that I was disposable to these men: I told myself I didn’t care.

I didn’t care when a man ghosted me. I didn’t care when he left in the middle of the night or hinted that he wanted me to leave. The walks of shame. The blackouts. The anxiety.

The lie I told myself for decades was: I’m not in pain—I’m empowered.

Looking back, it isn’t a surprise that I lied to myself. Because from a young age, sex was something I was lied to about.

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The Culture was right there to pick me up and dust me off. I doubled down on being a proud slut and internalized the biggest and most damaging lie: that loveless sex is empowering. I basked in the girl-power glow of that delusion for decades, weaponizing my sexuality while convincing myself I was full of the divine feminine.

I was full of shit….

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TOPICS: Health/Medicine; Miscellaneous; Society; Weird Stuff
KEYWORDS: dating; hoors; mgtow; phetasy; pua; ransomnote; redpill; sloots; slutwalk; women
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To: Rummyfan

Sad mantra and she comes round about to what her mother and Aunts told her in the first place. She tries to color it differently, but the message is same. Funny she cannot admit Mama was right.


141 posted on 08/19/2022 10:54:05 PM PDT by antceecee
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To: Valpal1

You *do* know what what a simile is, right?


142 posted on 08/19/2022 10:54:24 PM PDT by grey_whiskers (The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: Valpal1

Eh?


143 posted on 08/19/2022 10:55:50 PM PDT by antceecee
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To: Kartographer

This article has made her famous, now she can charge more!


144 posted on 08/19/2022 10:56:37 PM PDT by Loud Mime ("The Real Constitution and its Real Enemies" now available on Amazon. Check it out!)
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To: Rummyfan
young women should just stop having sex....just stop and wait for a good man with character and morals who wants to get married and have a family...

enough of these pansy boys that can't committ.......

it just is not worth it for women otherwise....

145 posted on 08/20/2022 12:13:09 AM PDT by cherry
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To: Mat_Helm

God bless you and your wife.


146 posted on 08/20/2022 12:33:45 AM PDT by thecodont
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To: Erik Latranyi

6 months Probation...


147 posted on 08/20/2022 12:42:44 AM PDT by sit-rep ( )
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To: grey_whiskers

I do, but the endocrine system doesn’t function on similes. Your simile suggests that multiple partners would lead to hormone depletion resulting in less bonding ability. Not how the female body works.


148 posted on 08/20/2022 4:11:10 PM PDT by Valpal1 (Not even the police are safe from the police!!!)
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To: Valpal1
Your simile suggests that multiple partners would lead to hormone depletion resulting in less bonding ability. Not how the female body works.

Nope, I didn't say that. Read what I really posted instead of your feminist-supremacist strawman.

Women lose bonding ability either with continued promiscuity, or by getting hurt (Girl's first partner is a douchebag; she gives him sex, expecting her giving her innocence as a gift, obligates him to reciprocate with commitment. He pumps-n-dumps or short-term flings her. She can take her lumps, and come to the very difficult realization that a man using her doesn't mean she is unworthy, but that he was a jerk; or she cuts off her hair and forswears men for awhile; or she can try to convince her self that she "Is, TOO!" desirable by having a series of flings with other men.

The 2nd and 3rd options tend to affect her ability to bond: the first by becoming an alpha widow and comparing all men to the best of the remembered elements of the departed lover, mixed with what she hoped/imagined for the rest of him; the other by detaching intimacy from sexual congress.

This is why women should be strictly chaperoned until marriage.

149 posted on 08/20/2022 8:40:13 PM PDT by grey_whiskers (The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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To: Rummyfan

A slut is a girl that will screw everyone but you.


150 posted on 08/20/2022 8:53:15 PM PDT by central_va (I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn...)
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To: Rummyfan

Well, at least she acknowledges that she is/was a slut. That’s a step in the right direction.


151 posted on 08/20/2022 8:56:58 PM PDT by RooRoobird20
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To: grey_whiskers

“Alpha Widow” tells me you’ve bought into the stupid 80/20 incel bullshit. Internet is not reality and you know much less about the inner life of women than you think you do.


152 posted on 08/20/2022 9:40:10 PM PDT by Valpal1 (Not even the police are safe from the police!!!)
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To: Valpal1
“Alpha Widow” tells me you’ve bought into the stupid 80/20 incel bullshit.

I see I've hit a nerve.

And from my comments you *didn't* reply to, I know which one.

The internet only systematized observations I'd made on my own.

Women can't stand it when their supposed aura of mystery is pierced and guys figure out what makes them tick.

How's your Skrillex haircut working out for you?

153 posted on 08/20/2022 9:48:34 PM PDT by grey_whiskers (The opinions are solely those of the author and are subject to change without notice.)
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