Posted on 08/17/2022 11:56:17 AM PDT by Rummyfan
I know regretting most of my sexual encounters is not something a sex-positive feminist who used to write a column for Playboy is supposed to admit. And for years, I didn’t. Let me be clear, being a “slut” and sleeping with a lot of men is not the only behavior I regret. Even more damaging was what I told myself in order to justify the fact that I was disposable to these men: I told myself I didn’t care.
I didn’t care when a man ghosted me. I didn’t care when he left in the middle of the night or hinted that he wanted me to leave. The walks of shame. The blackouts. The anxiety.
The lie I told myself for decades was: I’m not in pain—I’m empowered.
Looking back, it isn’t a surprise that I lied to myself. Because from a young age, sex was something I was lied to about.
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The Culture was right there to pick me up and dust me off. I doubled down on being a proud slut and internalized the biggest and most damaging lie: that loveless sex is empowering. I basked in the girl-power glow of that delusion for decades, weaponizing my sexuality while convincing myself I was full of the divine feminine.
I was full of shit….
(Excerpt) Read more at bridgetphetasy.substack.com ...
Despite the gaslighting, men still follow eons of biological evolutionary hardwiring; committing to the town bicycle is a bad paternal and resource investment.
Not really.
Its the classic cycle of the modern woman.
In her 20s she rides the c0ck carousel. Just hot chads. Friendzones the guys who would want to be serious and wife her up. They dont give her the tingles in the panties. She wants to have fun, ie lots of non committed sex. With hotter guys she might be able to get now when young.
But she gets a lot of mileage on her and she hits the wall. She cant get Chad anymore. She then decides to “get serious”, ie I need a wallet to secure my future. What I gave away for free to many hot guys, I will now make a guy pay for and make him think he’s got a huge prize. (Who pays more for a used beater car than when it was new?)
I need to get pregnant fast so I can have my kid and anchor my financial future to this beta I wouldn’t have even looked at when I was willingly opening my legs for Tyrone and Chad. He’s so stupid he thinks he’s getting such a great deal. He has no idea, and I feel contempt for him because he can’t even see it. After the baby I won’t even have to have sex with him anymore, I will gradually reduce it down to nothing. He might say something but he’s such a simp, he’ll never leave me. I can just shame him for “only wanting me for sex” and he’ll shut up.
THIS IX THE REAL STORY. They are unhappy they can’t keep whoring around. They need captain save-a-hoe, because women using men for their resources is their normal security and retirement plan. Men wanting things from women are framed as selfish and bad and men are guilt-shamed for asking their needs be met.
This is the real reality. Even more so often she has a kid from Chad who doesn’t support the kid. He’s Chad. She wants a cuckold to support her and the kid that isn’t his. He can’t discipline the kid, and he also may have to deal with the baby daddy. But he was picked to be used as a simp wallet that can be manipulated.
NO, women have to be held accountable for their own choices. Like being a slut. Men had nothing to do with that.
They are worse. Most guys aren’t having sex. The average guy is invisible to women.
Its not a privilege if she’s got a high c#ck count.
Psych study shows if she’s slept with 4 guys or more, it seriously damages a female’s ability to form a successful pair bond with a husband. The study found guys didn’t have the same problems, its a particular issue with the female brain and how hormones weaken pair bonding ability.
The more guys she sleeps with over 4, the worse it becomes.
My Ship has come in!
All that studying, hard work, and saving finally paid off...for a used car.
In the sexual and relationship marketplace, women should be preserving their value. Being selective and judicious about who they are intimate with. That value with her was banged out of her long ago by Chad and Tyrone. Conversely, someone that was chaste/selective about who they gave their body to, retains that value and privelaged.
A key that opens any lock is a Master Key.
A lock that opens for any key, is a worthless lock.
>> “the fact that I was disposable to these men”
Disposability goes both ways, sweetheart.
You are FOS. A psych study shows....
>> Most college girls I know are easily as bad as guys.
How many PhDs do you have?
One was a study done by University of Denver years ago.
The University of Utah has a family study center. One of their more infamous studies showed women's unhappiness in marriage and infidelity linked to the amount men the slept with before. IIRC, the magic number was 9 or 10 (with a curious dip in the graph) and then the unhappiness shot up like todays inflation numbers. Conclusion, the more cackas one takes, the less ability to pair bond.
We all live and we all die and we all one day will stand before Jesus Christ and our lives on earth will speak for themselves. I have only ever made love to one to one women and we have been married for 40 years. We dated for 5 years before we were married and did not have sex until after the wedding. We have had good and bad years, but the best sex and intimacy we had was not when we were younger, but when we were older. Honor and respect used to be the ideal. Money and power and lust for what people crave have replaced honor and respect. I fear for our nation for what it has become and it centers around the lack of faith and the loss of morality. I pray for our nation and I pray for everyone to have peace and happiness.
I am familiar with the study you reference and you are mis-rembering and overstating the effects. You are also forgetting that sexual biography had similar effects on men’s marital happiness.
Hook up culture is bad for both sexes.
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/more-sexual-partners-unhappy-marriage_n_5698440
You just do not like what I said and respond like a crying little baby.
He is far more correct than you are.
The study found that if a woman has 4 or more sexual partners it severely damages her pair bonding ability. Further they found that more partners damaged the chances of a successful marriage pair bonding more.
They did not find any similar number of partners for men that would damage pair bonding ability. The brains of men and women are not identical and what affects a womans pair bonding ability isn’t the same as a mans. At least they couldn’t find any correlation between number of partners for men as a predictive factor in successful pair bonding outcomes.
Huffpo is such a paragon of journalistic truth and righteousness.
Let me help you with a link to the actual study.
https://ifstudies.org/blog/does-sexual-history-affect-marital-happiness
The study does not say what you claim. Perhaps you should observe the first rule of holes.
Huffpo referenced the agency who did the study.
Don’t bich about the fact you don’t like a source when it names the source of the study. Geez.
Further more than one group has studied this. I just pulled up one I could find with a simple search.
I’ve read one of the studies and they found what I said. If you don’t want to believe it because I don’t have a page for you, fine. i don’t care. I know what I read. Put your head back under the sand.
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