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Mental illness is a real thing and the reader of hearts is the only Judge..Our forty year old son comitted suicide. I am a Jew and suicide is the worst sin of all. He did not have any awareness of G-d. We let him down, we did not give him faith, although we thought we were when he was little. If a person knows is aware that G-d is here with him he will not kill himself, he will ask G-d for guidance. "Thou art the true judge" Dayan ha emmet.

Standing beside you in sorrow, as a friend, to share your pain. None of us are perfect parents. I think that if I could have one “wish” come true, it would be to be a perfect parent to my children whom I love beyond words.

But none of us can, and we can’t protect them, either, no matter how we want to; any parents would rather suffer anything than have their children suffer, but that is not given to us. The Almighty knows our deepest heart, and weeps with us in His Love.

I am so sorry for your loss, there is no greater one than to lose a child. Sometimes we have to quit asking for guidance and take action. I knew there was something wrong, but didn't know what it was. I started with the family doctor to rule out anything physical and then he sent me to a great psychiatrist. It took a while to find the right combination of medications, but we finally did. You don't get out of that hole immediately, it takes time and that's when you can begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Prayer can assist at that point. It helps you through it.

If people were not so afraid of mental problems they might seek help sooner..

It was not your fault that your son choose his way. You may feel so, but its not true. At maturity we make our own choices but it leaves those left behind devastated. I prayed for a year and finally said (don't be offended) the heck with this, I'm going to the doctor to find out whats wrong. I was in my 30's and my parents had nothing to do with my situation. Neither did you have any thing to do with your son's situation.

I remember reading years ago someplace in the OT that G-d gives us physicians also...maybe in was in proverbs, I don't remember. I know nothing I can say will help ease your grief, I too lost a child shortly after birth. Her name was AnnMarie and she only lived 10 hours, so I understand your pain, but just know, it was not your fault..We all make our own decisions.

There can be many reasons for suicide, for some it is a brain that is not functioning correctly. I am glad I am not the one that judges after death. But I do believe G-d is merciful and only He reads the heart...

If a person knows is aware that G-d is here with him he will not kill himself, he will ask G-d for guidance.

I grieve for your son, and for you. You think that because your son didn't know God, that he might have been more susceptible, but please understand that even people who know God have committed suicide.

If someone is suffering from clinical depression, or a mental illness, of which even those to whom they are close may not be aware, their belief in God may be battling against that disease. If the disease is stronger, at the time the opportunity arises, their faith may not sustain them. It's very sad to contemplate, but, there it is.

I pray you can find some measure of comfort, as time goes by.