Posted on 10/23/2010 8:32:58 PM PDT by Salvation
Very true, but it is one of the red lines most churches will not wander into.
We know that Tiger's wife is cute. We have no way of knowing how often she was "interested" post wedding and post baby.
Wished I could get into some of it.
And let us NOT forget hormones. I have a friend who DREADED her husband’s advances until she went and got a hormone panel drawn. Once she had her imbalances corrected with NON-ORAL bioidentical replacement, especially that teeny bit of testosterone women do have and need, she not only welcomed her husband back into her arms, but found herself looking forward all day to his arrival.
She had had 4 kids — don’t you think all the hormone changes from pregnancy and breastfeeding messes up a girl sometimes?? She was thrilled to get her old feelings back. It’s amazing how much “emotion” is controlled by hormones.
Get your women checked out. However, do not allow oral fake hormones - they cause cancer. Only bio-identical, and not delivered by mouth (there are plenty of other delivery systems).
Cause we're just animals after all? It does sort of sound like you're suggesting that we're really just the sum total of our glands.
Amen to your story. I only wish that many more men would indeed “man - up” and love their wives. It is tough to stay in so I applaud your husband! (Ephesians 5)
I have news for you. It’s not just men who are visually oriented. I am a VERY visually oriented woman and I have never used pornography. If I can do it, so can any man. Gender is not an excuse for immoral behavior. Men and women are equally accountable before God.
Perhaps being a straight male you have not noticed this, but men are a lot heavier today than they were 50 years ago too. Yet women make up only a third of porn viewers. Why is that? Could it be that they remember that marriage is supposed to be a union for life “for better or worse, in sickness and in health” as opposed to the men who put their unrealistic fantasies and expectations before the emotional wellbeing of their wives?
It is men like you that make lesbianism and sadism so attractive to women. And then you wonder where all the hot girls are!
**Yes, porn destroys marriages.**
I truly believe this.
**destroy the family unit**
It certainly doesn’t help the family unit.
I have heard priests and counselors say about this addiction — turn your computer around so that everyone in the home can see the screen.
Would that be the cure?
I disagree on your premise that men are hard-wired for polygamy.
God created ONE man and ONE woman. If God had wanted polygamy He would have created more men for Eve and more women for Adam. I don’t think that happened.
It sounds like a joke, your wife doesn't quite appeal the way she used to do get your hormones checked. But it is quite a serious issue. Having your hormones out of balance can kill you.
**it is one of the red lines most churches will not wander into.**
Our priest has addressed it multiple times. Perhaps that speaking the truth on his part or unusual courage. Either way, he has my respect for telling men to turn their computer screens around so that their wives and children can see the screen!
I'm going to guess you're a woman, because that's the typical response of a woman who has lost interest in sex with her man. Here's how it is. Guys feel better when we've been laid recently. If I don't get laid, I get into a bad mood.
In marriage, if the wife doesn't feel like cooking, the guy can either take over cooking, or eat out; if she doesn't feel like cleaning, he can take over cleaning or hire a maid to come over; if she doesn't feel like sex, then he can take matters into his own hands, or decide to end the marriage and go looking for more agreeable female companionship.
If a wife can't be bothered to keep her man happy, that means she doesn't love him any more and the marriage is dead. Note that I say "can't be bothered" rather than "don't feel up to it because of illness".
Another good point on the hormone issue. I know it hit me with five children. Sometimes it was like a rollercoaster ride.
Marriage Encounter helped us.
OLD REGGIE, Dr. Eckleburg... I surrender. I've even pinged in some witnesses.
I am not a woman, but apparently I play one on the interwebs.
With that out of the way, I don't believe that my acts of volition are governed by my glands. They certainly could be, if I allowed it, but even the act of allowing it is an act of the will and not the body. We don't have a right to sexual activity even with the wanting begins to feel like needing... actually before I go any further everything depends on your religious perceptions, if you don't have any then I suppose there's no point in discussing the "will" at all.
Worthy points.
I NEVER had any doubt you were a very forceful, courageous, bright, literate, Christian, warm hearted, responsible, fun, . . . male.
The hilarious social commentary is only true for men who have the morals of a billygoat.
All humans have choices. Wrong choices lead to more wrong choices and make it harder to choose the right path. But change is certainly never impossible.
In a marriage, do you think either party has any obligation to provide anything to their spouse? If so, why? If not, why not?
That's not all that uncommon anymore (if it ever really was). You did notice that I wrote "fundamentally wrong" didn't you? I'm not sure if you're agreeing with me or chastising me.
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