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My Niece is Scheduled to Have an Abortion Today
Skooz | 1.30.2003 | Skooz

Posted on 01/30/2003 5:06:38 AM PST by Skooz

Please forgive the vanity.

I received this email from my mom yesterday morning. Amanda is my niece. She is 18 years old and she lives with my parents. She just started college on a full paid academic scholarship:

Hi, Just wanted to fill you in on the latest around here. Miss Amanda is dropping school because she's...............................are you ready................ take a breath....................pregnant. She's going with her boyfriend tomorrow for counseling before having an abortion. His folks told him that unless she has an abortion he can never see her again. She wants him more than anything, so that's probably what she'll do. It's been a bad few days around here. She was going to wait until the end of the quarter (March) to tell us, but she got real sick a few weeks ago and came home. I think part of it was the flu, and part "baby" sickness. She still doesn't feel well. One of the worse things is he won't be 17 until April. So anyway.......I thought I'd give you a little shock to have with your coffee. I'll keep you updated.

Of course, we are stunned. I am really seeking some advice about what I can do or say. My entire family (except for Amanda) is staunchly pro-life. Her mother is beside herself.

Oh, and how about the "His folks told him that unless she has an abortion he can never see her again" thing? How about it pro-choicers? She is being coerced into having an abortion she doesn't really want. She has said (in other correspondence) that she wants to keep the baby. Her "choice" is being made by the father's parents, who want to be spared the embarassment.

She went to see a "counselor" at an abortion clinic yesterday, and they scheduled the "procedure" for today. Of course, the "counselor" at the abortuary is just a salesperson whose job it is to sell abortions.

Anyway, I have run out of options. I have prayed and will continue to do so. I have offered to adopt the baby and have referred her to a wonderful woman who has dedicated her life to finding good homes for children who would otherwise have been aborted, but my niece is not interested. She is ready to have her baby killed to make her boyfriend's parents happy.

I really don't know what else to say. God help us.


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1 posted on 01/30/2003 5:06:38 AM PST by Skooz
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To: Skooz
His folks told him that unless she has an abortion he can never see her again. She wants him more than anything, so that's probably what she'll do.

This is terrible news that you've posted this morning. In light of this statement, along with the fact that your 18 year-old niece is doing this to satisfy the parents of a 16 year-old kid, I'd say she's got more problems than you know about.

Here's hoping the school gives her full academic scholarship to someone who has his or her head screwed on straight.

2 posted on 01/30/2003 5:11:42 AM PST by Alberta's Child
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To: Skooz
I will pray that she changes her mind. The boy and his parents will probaly change their minds when they see a baby brought into this world (that still brings tears to my eyes) and if not then to hell with them.
3 posted on 01/30/2003 5:12:27 AM PST by winodog ( Wheres my muffler?)
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To: winodog
That's a good point. If she delivers the baby, and they actually SEE their grandbaby, they will fall in love with him/her. And all will be forgiven. I believe that, but they are not giving her that chance.
4 posted on 01/30/2003 5:15:12 AM PST by Skooz (Tagline removed by moderator)
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To: Alberta's Child
Thank you for your kind and compassionate reply. All the flies in your house are wingless, aren't they?
5 posted on 01/30/2003 5:16:09 AM PST by Skooz (Tagline removed by moderator)
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To: Skooz
Her "choice" is being made by the father's parents, who want to be spared the embarassment.

That's poppycock. The girl's father ought to have the stones to stand up to these murdering bastards and tell them to shut up and sit down and allow his daughter to do what she wants to do with her OWN body!

Isn't that what these "Pro-Choice" idiots are all about? Allowing a woman the right to choose what to do with her own body?

Or does that not apply when she decides NOT to murder her unborn child?

6 posted on 01/30/2003 5:16:26 AM PST by Bloody Sam Roberts (®)
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To: Skooz
I don't know that you can do any more than you have already done. Looks like Amanda has made up her mind.

Not that it matters but I'll say it anyway, this boys parents don't want anything to do with Amanda, with or without an abortion. I predict after the deed is done they will do everything in their power to break them up.

Don't know what to tell you about the boy except that at this age (I assume he a young mush head also) they don't think with their brain, left or right side.

Being personally involved in my own particulat crisis I do feel concern for your situation but really have no advice.

7 posted on 01/30/2003 5:19:20 AM PST by evad ((heluva game))
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To: Skooz; RnMomof7; xzins; Corin Stormhands
His folks told him that unless she has an abortion he can never see her again

Skooz - Dear Lord I cant imagine what everyone must be going through - someone needs to be a voice for this little angel- and for heavens sake she needs to know just how they perform these sins against humanity.

Ebarassment is fleeting - an eternity at the hands of Satan is not -

Save her Jesus and save her little one.

8 posted on 01/30/2003 5:19:37 AM PST by Revelation 911
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To: Skooz
Sorry. I get a little excited sometimes. But until the deed is done, there is hope. Something needs to be done. This young girl is at a fork in the road and is about to be pushed into something that she will regret for the rest of her life. Especially if she really wants to keep the child.

My most fervent prayers are with her all day today that she finds the strength the Lord has given her, and makes the right decision.

9 posted on 01/30/2003 5:20:38 AM PST by Bloody Sam Roberts (®)
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To: Bloody Sam Roberts
My most fervent prayers are with her all day today that she finds the strength the Lord has given her, and makes the right decision.

Sincere thanks.

10 posted on 01/30/2003 5:21:40 AM PST by Skooz (Tagline removed by moderator)
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To: Skooz
I hope with all of my heart you can change her intentions. Can you and other relatives promise to help raise the child if she feels overwhelmed? Can you find a circle of friends for her to associate with while she gets over this monster-family?

Best wishes. I wish we could talk to her, let her know that people who support life care about the mother who will be haunted by such a decision and that child.

11 posted on 01/30/2003 5:23:10 AM PST by grania ("Won't get fooled again")
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To: Skooz
I will pray for her today. You said in your post -

"My entire family (except for Amanda) is staunchly pro-life. Her mother is beside herself."

Sad to say but they can stop this abortion today. Even though Amanda is 18 and legally an adult, she lives with your parents. They can answer the boy's parents threat with one of their own - Have the abortion - find another place to live - we will not support you anymore.

You can bet if his parents have this kind of power over the situation, as soon as she has the abortion he will dump her at his parents urging. Then she will have killed her baby for nothing. God help you all through this.

12 posted on 01/30/2003 5:24:00 AM PST by MomwithHope
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To: Bloody Sam Roberts
The girl's father ought to have the stones to stand up to these murdering bastards and tell them to shut up and sit down and allow his daughter to do what she wants to do with her OWN body!

If someone I know ever considers an abortion, my first offer will be $1000 not to do it.

You are right, the girl's father needs to grow a pair or put on a dress. If he were a real man, though, perhaps his daughter wouldn't be hooking up with a 16 year old boy who is pussywhipped by his own mother.

Often even anti-abortion parents in cases like this will just sit on their hands until the deed is done because they don't really have the courage of their convictions. As soon as they are faced with a baby, they become conveniently pro-abortion.

13 posted on 01/30/2003 5:25:37 AM PST by hopespringseternal
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To: Skooz
Her "choice" is being made by the father's parents, who want to be spared the embarassment.

No it's not. She can simply "Choose" to not see him again. Unless they're going to drag her into the clinic and hold her down while the abortion is performed.

Of course, that doesn't stop her from suing him to support this child.

14 posted on 01/30/2003 5:26:03 AM PST by The South Park Republican
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To: Skooz
May God grant you the serenity to accept those things you cannot change...
15 posted on 01/30/2003 5:26:18 AM PST by The Other Harry
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To: Skooz
Sorry about that -- I wasn't trying to be a jackass. Check out someone else's reply in Post #12 -- there are some times when tough love is required, and this sure sounds like one of them.
16 posted on 01/30/2003 5:27:05 AM PST by Alberta's Child
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To: Skooz
I really can't say much. Unless both sets of parents actually meets face to face with their kids to discuss this, then not enough has been or was done. It affects both families, but she is 18 and officially legal, even if she is still living at home, and can make her own decisions, even if it is the decision of someone else.

My wife and I had our daughter when I was a sophomore in college. It wasn't any decision at all. We had her and in return got the most wonderful little girl we could had possibly want. Yes, my parents were'nt all that happy about it, but they never would had asked us not to keep her either. It was hard work with a kid and working and going to school, but I am better for it, and would not change one thing.

17 posted on 01/30/2003 5:28:25 AM PST by cdefreese (I'll pray and hope for the best. Sometimes that is all you can do.)
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To: MomwithHope
Yep. I said almost the exact same thing in an email to my mom this morning. They are supporting her, they bought her a car and a cell phone--all of which can be revoked at any time.

But, she's so crazy about this boy, I don't know if any of that will make a difference. His parents are loaded and they recently bought him a new Camero and have his college plans ready. They told him that they will take his car and will not pay for his college if she keeps the baby, along with disallowing him to see her again.

A real class act, that family.

18 posted on 01/30/2003 5:28:28 AM PST by Skooz (Tagline removed by moderator)
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To: Skooz
She is ready to have her baby killed to make her boyfriend's parents happy.

He gets out of paying child support. She is taking all the risks and he gets all the benefits. Remind the girl's parents that abortion could leave her unable to have kids later. Or dead.

19 posted on 01/30/2003 5:28:36 AM PST by AppyPappy (Will Code COBOL For Food)
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To: Alberta's Child
My first reply, which I rewrote, was worse than yours.
20 posted on 01/30/2003 5:29:41 AM PST by AppyPappy (Will Code COBOL For Food)
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