My Niece is Scheduled to Have an Abortion Today

Skooz | 1.30.2003 | Skooz

[Skooz]

Please forgive the vanity.

I received this email from my mom yesterday morning. Amanda is my niece. She is 18 years old and she lives with my parents. She just started college on a full paid academic scholarship:

Hi, Just wanted to fill you in on the latest around here. Miss Amanda is dropping school because she's...............................are you ready................ take a breath....................pregnant. She's going with her boyfriend tomorrow for counseling before having an abortion. His folks told him that unless she has an abortion he can never see her again. She wants him more than anything, so that's probably what she'll do. It's been a bad few days around here. She was going to wait until the end of the quarter (March) to tell us, but she got real sick a few weeks ago and came home. I think part of it was the flu, and part "baby" sickness. She still doesn't feel well. One of the worse things is he won't be 17 until April. So anyway.......I thought I'd give you a little shock to have with your coffee. I'll keep you updated.

Of course, we are stunned. I am really seeking some advice about what I can do or say. My entire family (except for Amanda) is staunchly pro-life. Her mother is beside herself.

Oh, and how about the "His folks told him that unless she has an abortion he can never see her again" thing? How about it pro-choicers? She is being coerced into having an abortion she doesn't really want. She has said (in other correspondence) that she wants to keep the baby. Her "choice" is being made by the father's parents, who want to be spared the embarassment.

She went to see a "counselor" at an abortion clinic yesterday, and they scheduled the "procedure" for today. Of course, the "counselor" at the abortuary is just a salesperson whose job it is to sell abortions.

Anyway, I have run out of options. I have prayed and will continue to do so. I have offered to adopt the baby and have referred her to a wonderful woman who has dedicated her life to finding good homes for children who would otherwise have been aborted, but my niece is not interested. She is ready to have her baby killed to make her boyfriend's parents happy.

I really don't know what else to say. God help us.

[lonestar]

Your niece should abort her boyfriend and his parents. She will be aborted after they rid themselves of the embarassment of the baby.

My friends 16 year old son got his girlfriend pregnant many years ago. Abortion was never an option.

Many years of baby-sitting and putting kids through college has had its reward.

[No Left Turn]

What is this privacy nonsense? Do you know who she is? I don't. You couldn't care less about the girl's privacy. You just want her to have an unimpeded path to murdering her baby. Ghoul.

[The Bard]

All I can say is that prayers have been said. Wrong is wrong, and there is definately nothing right in this.

[Alberta's Child]

You are a courageous woman.

"Long may you run."

[BibChr]

He gets out of paying child support. She is taking all the risks and he gets all the benefits. Remind the girl's parents that abortion could leave her unable to have kids later. Or dead

And they say abortion is a woman's issue, and only men oppose it. [Word-I-Shouldn't-Say] to that!

Dan

[ThinkingMan]

I have said a prayer for the baby- I hope that God will touch your nieces heart in a way that only He is capable of.

[BibChr]

AMEN to that.

Further, this: what a wonderful foundation for a lifelong relationship. Our first decision together was to kill our first child. Brilliant.

I'm a Christian, and unconditionally trust in the wisdom of God. But honestly, one on my long list of questions is why children are given the ability to make children long before they're given the wisdom to deal with that ability.

Dan

[brownie]

If your parents are pro-life, they should tell her that if she has the abortion, she is not welcome to live with them any longer. Let the boyfriend's parents take her in, as they seem to control her anyway, and pleasing them is more important than the child's life, her opinion, or your parents' values.

[cajungirl]

I think you are off base. This family is all het up on discussing this girls problem and now it is posted on the net for various people to comment on the best way to butt in. So we don't know her, so we don't know the person who posted this. I will bet she is talking to everyone she knows including us. Somehow this family drama leaves me cold. I feel sorry for the girl whose family puts out their most private dirty linen in the world. She is of course young and has poor judgement and that is the way family members are at times. Family does their best, in private, to help members. Good families don't call in the public and every tom dick and harry around for judgements, advice, etc. They deal with things in private. This is neither pro nor anti abortion so spare me your condemnation and judgement and fly by nite assessments of my character and motivation.

[cajungirl]

You are full of the milk of human kindness aren't you,,advising parents to kick out a daughter. I cannot conceive of such coldness nor do I want to.

[BibChr]

Thank you for sharing that. I'm teared up.

Dan

[fatima]

Skooz,Call her up and tell her she is having a little girl,you just feel it and you name the baby,ask her if that is the name she would name her,tell her to put off the abortion and think a little more about this.That baby girl is going to be her best friend.We will all pray.

[F-117A]

Tell her, "look, if you carry this baby to term, we'll adopt him.

Adoption should be outside the family.

[victim soul]

Check out this story

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/news/832154/posts

It might encourage her and her parents.

[Aliska]

Here's hoping the school gives her full academic scholarship to someone who has his or her head screwed on straight.

I can't read all the replies on this thread right now. My hope would be that she can keep her scholarship and have the baby and people who care about her will help her. Then she should dump that creep and she has a good chance of meeting a decent guy down the line. She needs to get her head on straighter though from the sounds of things.

[BibChr]

You are full of the milk of human kindness aren't you,,advising parents to kick out a daughter. I cannot conceive of such coldness nor do I want to

Right. What's the big deal? Just because she's taking in their grandchild to be put to a violent and cruel death, what's the big? Right?

< /sarcasm >

Conceive of it.

Dan

[brownie]

First, it is not the girls parents, the poster is the aunt and said the girl is living with her parents, thus the girl's grandparents - which in itself raises some questions. Second, the girl is 18 and old enough to get pregnant, thus old enought to make it on her own. Third, the girl is turning her back on, what I am guessing, is a core value of the people who take care of her in order to please her boyfriend's parents (and, at 18, it is likely that she will forget about the boyfriend w/in a year). It's called tough-love, and it makes the girl responsible for her decision. Abortion removes responsibility from decisions, and the girl needs to feel some consequences for her actions. I'm sorry if this upsets you or makes you think I am callous, but you cannot have it both ways, saying you oppose abortion, but then ignoring it when it happens.

[ewing]

Not necessarliy true, putting that baby up for adoption would not hurt either party long term.

[Skooz]

Wrong. Her parents know (she told them), his parents know (he told them), my parents (her grandparents) know (she told them), and I know (my mom told me). That's it. No gossip.

No friends know and no other family members have a clue.