Posted on 07/11/2025 4:38:34 PM PDT by E. Pluribus Unum
And how to bring them back.
In a recent New York Times article titled, “Men, Where Have You Gone? Please Come Back,” Rachel Drucker laments what she calls “a collective shift” in men, a “slow vanishing of presence.” So many single men, she writes, aren’t “sitting across from someone on a Saturday night, trying to connect.” Instead, they “have retreated from intimacy, hiding behind firewalls, filters and curated personas, dabbling and scrolling.” She adds, “We miss you.”
Ms. Drucker – a single, 54-year-old Chicagoan – hints that pornography is at least partly to blame for this state of affairs. She mentions that she herself spent years working in that field as the custodian of records for Playboy and its affiliated hardcore properties. She worked closely with marketing teams to understand “what cues tempt the average 18-to-36-year-old cis heterosexual man. What drew him in. What kept him coming back.” She learned that it wasn’t intimacy or mutuality, but “access to simulation.”
Now many men, she believes, have “quietly withdrawn from intimacy and vulnerability” into “indifference.” The sexes have moved, she observes, into an era when traditional courting has devolved into “directionless orbiting,” “men circling intimacy but never entering it… ‘seeing where it goes’ without ever going anywhere.” She even mourns the “unscripted contact” of one-night stands.
She concludes by pleading men, “You can still come back. We’re still here, those of us who are willing to cocreate something true… And we haven’t stopped hoping.”
The male retreat from the courting dance of days past is a tragedy, but so is Ms. Drucker’s obliviousness to the reasons for it. Yes, pornography is a huge factor; the ubiquitous availability of the most explicit imagery imaginable (and even unimaginable) to anyone with an internet connection is a terrible scourge in our society – and not...
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The ones who really care men leaving the game are the marketers and lenders. Women are building up debt that they’ll never pay back and it prevents them from spending more. Men woke up to the fact that they were expected to pay those bills and now want no part of it.
- Helen Smith, 'Men on Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream - and Why It Matters'
The prime motivation for a man to wake up each morning and go to work (to succeed in life) was always a wife and children. That ship has sailed.
The Left created laws that penalize men who commit to marriage.
The same mentally ill Leftist women who claim all men are rapists and have toxic masculinity can’t grasp why a man wants nothing to do with them.
Tattoos, nose rings, weird colored hair, among things that have to go.
Someone rang the doorbell last week. I answered the door, curious. Some young gal in her early 20’s with a notepad. I glossed over everything she said, because I couldn’t ignore the noserings and tattoos. Told her I’m not interested in anything she has to say, and to leave. She started to repeat herself several times, I closed the door in her face. Liberal women and their looks are a turn-off, and are never going to attract a man. (Happily married for over 50 years to a conservative woman.)
People accept it when a man declines an invitation, saying his wife or girlfriend won’t let him go, but if a woman declines an invitation, saying her boyfriend or husband won’t let her go, he’s labeled a misogynist.
Feminism didn’t free women from the oppression they were told they were under, it freed men from the oppression they didn’t know they were under.
“The worst thing that modern Feminism could have done for women was to allow them to reveal their true nature.” - Barbarossa
Society has become extremely hostile to men and wanting men to take a 2nd class role, while simultaneously expecting those same men to shoulder the primary responsibility of society itself. Why would we expect any male to accept that?
Once society became an Accusatory Society where weak, defective people blamed others, calling them racist for being white, toxic for being male, homophobic for their normal sexuality, don’t be surprised when that same man shrugs, says to himself, “let it rot”, and walks away.
“...hints that pornography is at least partly to blame...”
The woman in your life wants to have complete control of your sexual gratification so as to control you. Displease her in any way, or just for the hell of it just to keep you guessing, and you’re not getting any.
Both porn and prostitution give men alternate outlets. Women make noises about porn and prostitution being degrading to women but what’ really going on is that they just don’t want the competition.
I think stats show 80% of divorce is women initiated
And we’re talking middle and upper middle class
Poor folks of any race marry far less today
Baby mills disability and perc adderall or suboxone script to sell
I blame women for being so easily misled by culture and succumbing to their baser instincts like claiming victimhood so readily while ignoring 1000s of years of more productive instincts
And men for failing to fight back and getting addicted to video games and just getting more femme
Especially white men
Avoiding this and having what we now call classic rock are two great reasons to be happy to be b1957
Who did this?
Usual suspects across the board
Similar crew trying to destroy western civ now
Men didn’t leave society. Society left men.
Get yourself a fish, Rachel, and then get it a bicycle and everything will be fine.
Trey went exactly where you put them, parents. They went to the largest labor union in the country, the NEA. What did you expect, males as the product?
A man is unwilling to sort out a thousand angry man-hating women just to find a decent one. If a thousand already hate him, what’s one more?
I must give Bourbon a try!
Can you recommend a brand?
Today’s women demand over 666.
Feet.
Income.
Inches.
That is about 0.5% of men.
Wrong. It’s lower:
If we assume these traits are independent (though they may not be), we can multiply the probabilities:
• Proportion over 6 feet: 14.5% = 0.145
• Proportion earning over $100,000: 20% = 0.2
• Proportion with penis size over 6 inches: 16% = 0.16
• Proportion unmarried: 50% = 0.5
Combined probability: 0.145 × 0.2 × 0.16 × 0.5 = 0.000232 or 0.0232%
This suggests approximately 0.023% of American men, or about 1 in 4,310, meet all criteria, assuming independence.
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