Posted on 07/11/2025 4:38:34 PM PDT by E. Pluribus Unum
And how to bring them back.
In a recent New York Times article titled, “Men, Where Have You Gone? Please Come Back,” Rachel Drucker laments what she calls “a collective shift” in men, a “slow vanishing of presence.” So many single men, she writes, aren’t “sitting across from someone on a Saturday night, trying to connect.” Instead, they “have retreated from intimacy, hiding behind firewalls, filters and curated personas, dabbling and scrolling.” She adds, “We miss you.”
Ms. Drucker – a single, 54-year-old Chicagoan – hints that pornography is at least partly to blame for this state of affairs. She mentions that she herself spent years working in that field as the custodian of records for Playboy and its affiliated hardcore properties. She worked closely with marketing teams to understand “what cues tempt the average 18-to-36-year-old cis heterosexual man. What drew him in. What kept him coming back.” She learned that it wasn’t intimacy or mutuality, but “access to simulation.”
Now many men, she believes, have “quietly withdrawn from intimacy and vulnerability” into “indifference.” The sexes have moved, she observes, into an era when traditional courting has devolved into “directionless orbiting,” “men circling intimacy but never entering it… ‘seeing where it goes’ without ever going anywhere.” She even mourns the “unscripted contact” of one-night stands.
She concludes by pleading men, “You can still come back. We’re still here, those of us who are willing to cocreate something true… And we haven’t stopped hoping.”
The male retreat from the courting dance of days past is a tragedy, but so is Ms. Drucker’s obliviousness to the reasons for it. Yes, pornography is a huge factor; the ubiquitous availability of the most explicit imagery imaginable (and even unimaginable) to anyone with an internet connection is a terrible scourge in our society – and not...
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Which is a threat to the communist structure of government. Can't have that.
I’m so glad my husband and I met when we did.
All these young (and old) 304s are in for a rude awakening.
Contrary to popular opinion, some young men do still desire a traditional lifestyle, especially if their parents were happily married.
My DIL was no fool. She saw in my son a smart, educated, tall, strong, and loving Christian male. She snapped him up and got him to the altar one month after he graduated college.
I found out recently that a chickie he liked in high school who did him dirty came sniffing around. She wanted to get together for lunch and “catch up.”
“Sure,” he replied. Let me check with K.”
“Who’s K?”
“My wife. Should we call some other school friends and see if they want to hang, too?”
The “lunch” never happened. Sorry, dearie, he moved on.
My youngest is also engaged. Wedding set for 2027.
A younger co-worker is back on the dating scene and he’s got horror stories galore.
Men will come out for women that are worth it; otherwise, they prefer peace and financial stability.
women, for the most part, suck to be around
Not to mention of a man complements her appearance or asks her out, he faces a not insignificant risk of sexual harassment or even “me too” charges in academia and the workplace.
I was very happily married for a little under 50 years. I miss her terribly.
That does not stop me from observing that most marriages end with the man hurt financially and emotionally in divorce, often with children ripped from him and taught to hate him “you’re just like your father”-—my evil mother, dead now. Coworkers told me “They still say that same line today.”
By the way, the cliche “50% of marriages end in divorce” applies overall but among young people 75% end in divorce.
And remember, since Lee Marvin’s victimization in court, women can sue even if you only lived together. Palimony.
The totally unfair exaltation of feminist women and the denigration of men has broken down a thousands year old workable system but has no good replacement.
Men: Stay away from women.
Looking for worthwhile women.
We have left plenty of Muzzie Terrorist, Cartel Banging, and Illegal Alien Criminal men behind, to keep you Prog Marxist womyn and Homos busy, so quit complaining.
This isn’t about porn, it is about a hostile and legally risky public space and the exasperating and exhausting experience that most males have pursuing today’s females.
Lol!
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Write a book! Teach seminars! Get that ball rolling. :)
Though being good-looking never hurt, I think the most important quality a woman can possess that will attract and keep a man is kindness. A woman who is kind to her guy and to other people will always be appreciated.
Unfortunately, too many women assume the things they are looking for in men are what men are looking for in women. "I'm successful, ambitious, independent...I'm a great catch, so why aren't more men interested in me?"
Because that's not what most men are looking for....
What about the male sluts and hoes?
The misogyny on this site is out of control.
Been there, done that.
“”””Lee Marvin’s victimization in court, women can sue even if you only lived together. Palimony.””””
That really brought home to a lot of males that behind every woman is a powerful government and legal system that is out of control and aimed at men.
Men (worth the title “Men”, I should say) need three things from a woman: a full stomach, empty testicles, and respect. Feminists are incapable of supplying one of these, let alone all three. Men have looked elsewhere, found those needs more than amply met, and are gone from the “general population”.
It really is as simple as that.
DING DING DING! 54? You’re DECADES past your sell by date honey.
Not video games per say, as those are a symptom of the the fact a lot of the “men” are just lazy asses who don’t want to work, which somehow are also the men who don’t want relationships.
They’re in mom’s basement, playing video games and watching porn. Perpetual adolescent boys.
MGTOW is a movement to get men to totally submit to feminism.
I view Leftism as an ‘ideology’ and have always assumed that was what they have in mind to replace our current system...not the “constitutional republic” but “keeping” the constitutional republic “framework” but entirely gutting it and replacing it Leftist components.
Therefore, it won’t be the Constitution of our Founders, but something entirely different. In Solhenitsyn’s “Gulag Archipelago”, he points out that the Soviets had a “Constitution” too, supposedly better than the United States Constitution, but...they simply twisted it to make it mean whatever they wanted to at any given time.
Am I off base? If I am, did you have something else you were alluding to?
Avoid them. One of my best friends fits that description. I'm sure he's a terrible boyfriend. That doesn't affect me at all but I'd never advise any woman looking for anything serious to go out with him.
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