Posted on 07/24/2018 11:14:28 AM PDT by servo1969
I love women. Not in the social justice warrioresque "We must praise women as strong, capable CEOS and STEM graduates who can do anything men can do, but in heels" way, but in an old-school way. It's easy to respect a mother who watches out for her children, a wife who is loyal to her husband, or a sister who cares for her brother. I love a beautiful woman. I love a sexy woman. I love a woman who gives off that amazing feminine energy. As a man, being around a woman like that is just good for your spirit.
All that being said, this is not about the more wonderful traits of women. To the contrary, it's the kind of warning about women that fathers used to give their sons, but that's frowned upon today. You see, in our society we can hammer home the faults of men until they become stereotypes, but we're not supposed to point out the similarly damaging, but often very different flaws of women that young men need to worry about.
I think lions are extraordinarily beautiful and powerful creatures, but I also know if you make a wrong move around one, you can lose an arm. Women are much the same. They are magnificent but dangerous and since men pursue them, they need to understand what they're getting into.
Men don't like to admit this, but the first thing they think about when it comes to women is beauty. Not only are we drawn to it, but it's a status symbol. When a man has an attractive woman, other men think more of him. In fact, it can become such a powerful draw that some men put beauty first and second -- and whatever comes third doesn't matter. This is a mistake if you plan to be with her beyond a date or three because beauty fades for all of us, but it fades faster and harder for women. Moreover, beauty in and of itself only attracts for so long. As the old saying goes, "No matter how good she looks, someone out there is tired of her sh*t." Point being, make sure you judge a woman on a lot more than beauty alone because the time is going to come when one way or the other, that beauty is going to fade in your eyes.
Men tend to be famously ruthless about relationships a few dates in when women fall for them way too early and the men only care about sex. On the other hand, women tend to be much more ruthless than men when a relationship is ending. This is hard for a lot of men to believe because they can't imagine the sweet, uplifting, nurturing woman they were in a relationship with is taking them to the cleaners in divorce court or using their kids as a bargaining chip after the divorce.
Women tend to put the same kind of emphasis on status that men put on beauty. That doesn't mean it's the end all and be all of everything, but it does mean status is a lot more important to women than it is to men. What that means is that as a man, if you ever stop performing at the level your woman is accustomed to, you may lose her regardless of everything else. Lose your job, get demoted, take a big pay cut, lose your moxie somehow and women are much more likely to walk away than a man would be with a woman in the same situation. That doesn't mean it's a given, but it does mean that going backward in status as a man risks your relationship with a woman.
There are exceptions to every rule, but the most stable woman is as emotional as an unstable guy. Women are more emotional, more hormonal than men. Women are, at best, more tolerant of drama than men and at worst, they seek it out. They will become upset for no good reason, act irrationally, and are more prone to things like anxiety than men. The point of this is not "women are unstable and bad," it's that women are very different in this area and you need to be ready to deal with it. At times there's going to be crying, no matter what you do. At times, your girlfriend / lover / wife is going to become angry at you even though you've done nothing wrong. Wise men learn that there are times to ignore things women say rather than get in a fight because ten minutes later, their mood will improve. To men who aren't used to it, all of this can be freaky, but it can also help keep things fresh and exciting once you learn to navigate it.
If your woman is stronger than you, she may still date you. She may love you. She may even marry you one day. However, on a fundamental level, she will not be able to respect you if you are not strong and competent enough to lead her. Women don't want to be the ones who make all the decisions and wear the pants in the family and if you force her to do that, it will wear on her and she will come to resent you. How will that resentment play out? At best, probably unhappiness and at worst, cheating, divorce or contempt that's so bad that you wish you were divorced. I'm not telling you to be a jerk, but I am telling you that if you are not a stronger person than your woman, you will ultimately be sorry.
I married a unicorn of a woman (see "Hot/Crazy Matrix"). But I have seen what some women have done to my friends.
God gave us the strength.
That's also a nice capsule description of today's female-dominated Democrat Party. :)
There’s an awful lot of unhappiness in this world.
Some of it is medically related.
Some of it isn’t.
Only somebody over 60 would have a clue as to the movie you're referencing.
Proverbs says it all....
Proverbs 8:11
For wisdom is more precious than rubies, and nothing you desire compares with her.
Proverbs 12:4
A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but she who causes shame is like decay in his bones.
Proverbs 14:1
Every wise woman builds her house, but a foolish one tears it down with her own hands.
Proverbs 18:22
He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.
Proverbs 19:14
Houses and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.
Proverbs 31:11
The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will lack nothing of value.
It was a stupid, cheesy movie that warped a lot of young women at the time. No matter the relationship, when you’ve done someone wrong saying I’m sorry is just the start of trying to repair or save the relationship.
Stupid movie, stupid statement.
Thanks.
“:^)
If you married for beauty, you are an idiot.
Your wife should be someone you enjoy spending time with, talking with, shares your interests, etc.
Likewise, you should share hers.
You are going to be spending a lot of time with her.
It was a stupid, cheesy movie that warped a lot of young women at the time. No matter the relationship, when you’ve done someone wrong saying I’m sorry is just the start of trying to repair or save the relationship.
Stupid movie, stupid statement.
Now that fate seems to have tired of having sport with me, I don’t want to be a hermit any more. I’d like to find someone to share my time, good health and fortune with.
But after reading this and re-remembering some of my own trials and tribulations?
You know what? Maybe being single isn’t so bad after all.
Ping
something for the children to read
You are very welcome. I’ll be here all week.
Glad you enjoyed.
Yup; and I get less able to connect with the younger folks as the days go by.
The most important one, left out.
All women will want to change you. No matter your characteristics, they will want you to change. That is the first thing to straighten out.
“Look, honey, I don’t like theater, classical music or opera. Don’t ever expect me to do more than an occasional foray. And I like my dog. More than you right now, but always enough to keep him even if you threaten to leave. Okay?”
I see it like this, can’t remember where I heard it.
Love is a treasure unearthed by few.
Lovliness belongs to all women, it is their heritage.
Beauty of face and form is carried away by the passageof time
but the beauty of heart and thought grows continually.
She is the mother of generations yet unborn
thank you Lord forgiving me Mrs. C
There are many ugly truths about both men and women, apart from God. We are instruments meant to be played and orchestrated by The LORD. When we try to be in control and play our own instruments, apart from The LORD, the ugliest “music” comes forth, with discord and sour notes. When we, men and women, allow The Almighty to live through us, play us, so to speak, then the most beautiful, and hallowed “music” will precede from us, and we will be in wonderful harmony with The LORD and with each other.
Ha! Just watched that video and sent it to my 21 y/o son. He’s experienced the crazy zone already and has no desire to go back there! But, the guy in this video’s last part about finding a 10 and chill factor under 2 is a dude and a tranny - that cracked me up.
Although my son is still pretty young, he’s always liked seeing girls older than him. But, The ‘crazy’ one was 4 years older and that didn’t go so well. I saw it coming, but I already know that saying too much will only back fire. I was stubborn at his age as well. Luckily he’s a quick learner.
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