Posted on 06/01/2016 8:01:25 PM PDT by nickcarraway
When we think of a child passing into adulthood, we usually picture independent living — perhaps with roommates, alone or eventually with a partner or spouse. Today that picture might need some adjustment.
A Pew Research poll released last week found that American men age 18 to 34 are more likely to be living with their parents than in any other living situation.
What’s going on? What’s happening to men? And, just as important: Why?
(Excerpt) Read more at nypost.com ...
My kids are 3 and 5. I have a few thousand for each of them. However, for me to afford 6 years for them, my wife may have to work full time. A lot can happen between now and then; I suspect I will be promoted at least once or twice. I would like to believe that they will get 3.0. I got a 2.7 and enlisted in the Navy who gave me an NROTC scholarship after 3.5 years of service.
+1.
Sadly.
The fix to the system is simple: Marry the girls off at 16-18 and don’t send them to college.
Thanks. I’ll pass on marrying a 16 year old girl. I favor a woman who knows a thing or two about a thing or two.
It’s not a”saying.” It’s a verse in Scripture. Matthew 7 if memory serves.
There is an abundance of info out there. We focused on studying for ACT and SAT. She became a national Merit Scholar. About 50 colleges, give full rides for that. So she took one. She graduated this year and is on to grad school for a health field master's degree. She will have some loans from that, but nowhere near $60,000.
“Good for you for stepping up; imagine someone criticizing that!”
They just aren’t thinking it through. Circumstances and temperaments vary radically, and this has its effects on living arrangements. I begged my dad to move in with us rather than live alone. He would have lived longer, and happier, and all of us would have had more time together.
A cousin of mine in Long Island lived with his parents until they died. He was next-to-last of nine children. The other eight couldn't be bothered to visit the parents, especially after Alzheimer's took over. He made it possible for his elderly parents to remain at home rather than divest themselves of everything and live in institutions where they'd be frightened and disoriented -- and likely separated after 50 years together.
The eight siblings would have inherited nothing, possibly been on the hook for medical expenses too, and expense was a major concern of theirs.
They looked down on their little brother for not having a wife and kids, for living with their parents. It took me just one visit to observe that he was basically throwing himself on a grenade every day, sparing his siblings some extraordinary anguish, and treating his parents with love and tenderness and dignity.
He inherited nothing. Nothing you could put a dollar value on. The house was sold, debts paid, net zero. Contents of house split among eight sibs -- because he had no place to put anything. Except in his big heart.
Wow. Just wow.
I have a mother who lives about 3 or 4 miles away from me in assisted living. A very demanding woman, totally self centered. Very difficult to live with.
I oversee her daily bills and wants/needs but she lives her life the way she wants to. She has driven people away in her family, including me and my bride.
When I read stories like yours, I often think about trying that approach.
Then I remember what my brother went through when she lived with him.
Not every parent is meant to live with every family. One or the other (or both) can be complete jerks and insufferable.
I commend your cousin for his big heart. God will reward him for it. He truly lived out the”honor your parents” Commandment.
“Crappy economy and no jobs is the first reason.”
Most people today don’t know what “crappy economy” means. The last of the great men who were proud to be men and fulfilled their roles as they were intended to do, were the ones who brought this nation back from The Great Depression after going to war and sacrificing to defend us. Now that was a “crappy economy” and it produced heroes.
Now it is just a slow drip into second class economic status...
I totally agree with you. Some victims of senile dementia don't stop at driving you away, they also make false accusations, destroy reputations, open the house to predators, and try to kill you.
So I'm not saying it's always right to keep them home.
You what is interesting. They can go to U of Puerto Rico for about 1/5 of the cost of a State School. The classes are in English.
God bless you FRiend!
God bless you too, sauropod! :)
There is a family across the street that consists of a mother, a 20 something daughter and 20 ish twin brothers .
Their dad is long gone. the mother is alcoholic.
The kids have taken over and run the place.
No. There are some college kids who have spent the money badly, but not many. When college is $40,000 or more, that means they somehow came up with $25,000 of that on their own every year. That implies that they are working more than you think they are.
It’s a reality that the idea of getting a diploma before being allowed to work is past it’s prime and is not working anymore. We need to figure out how to bring back on the job training and improving the high school diploma so that a graduate is really ready to work.
on keeping them home....
My demented mother (we didn’t realize it at the time) went to a very nice extended care facility. That was new territory for all the vindictive meanness. She was literally thrown out.
Before entering extended care, she wrote long letters. To some they were nice but to others they were just nasty. Today as I reflect back perhaps those that were nice but far distant were really not so nice.
Clearly this article and the one last week about all the 100 Million Dollar Mansions sitting empty couldn’t possibly be related at all right?
When you aggressively promote diversity your first act is to actively suppress the non-diverse.
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