Posted on 05/06/2015 8:24:21 PM PDT by fkabuckeyesrule
That’s a question Peter Lloyd tackles in a series in London’s Daily Mail about Britain’s marriage rate, which is at its lowest level since 1895. “The state of matrimony is not just ailing. It is dying out faster than a mobile phone battery,” Lloyd writes. “For an army of women, Mr. Right is simply not there, no matter how hard they look for him.”
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I think the disconnect here is that most of the women I know don't really believe they are sneaky, conniving, duplicitous, and condescending.
They walk, talk, and swim like ducks, but for some unexplainable reason they are really convinced they are beautiful swans with the individuality of a snowflake.
Best Post of the Thread!
LOL, that was great!
There is nothing childish about having ideals.
My wife and I have been married since we were babies, 6 children, ages 15 to 46 (2 youngest ones adopted), 14 g/children, 6 gg/children. I have very little "stuff" that I think of as "mine", wife is the same way.
The clothes in my closet, socks and underwear etc are mine, although I have seen her wear a shirt of mine on occasion, way too big for her. Just about everything else is ours. We've never thought of it any other way.
>>>The clothes in my closet, socks and underwear etc are mine, although I have seen her wear a shirt of mine on occasion, way too big for her. Just about everything else is ours. We’ve never thought of it any other way.<<<
You are happily married to say such a thing. But for millions of guys who thought like you, one day they found out their wife was leaving. Often for some pretty lame excuse like “I love you, but I’m not IN LOVE with you.” Then after you are dazed and confused that the woman you thought you would grow old with together doesn’t feel the same way, you get the joy of watching her proceed to tell you how much of “our stuff” actually belongs more to her.
Lost all 4 of his kids and pays out the wazoo for child support. He was a raging alcoholic until the payments cured him of it. He was actually a jolly drunk though. Rick was an ok guy he just liked to party. Dude pays 700 a week. They figure it based on income, I understand.
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Raging alcoholic who just wanted to party?? Fun and jolly, huh? Great life for those four kids.
I assure you that a drunk father or mother is more toxic than an absent one.
BJ, if you’re entering the dating world in middle age, women in your age group are going to have kids. Some of them, anyway.
Yes, fertility is also declining at that age, and you seem to think that’s a reason women shouldn’t have requirements re: the man they want. Yet you have a demanding list of your own.
Totally agree with you that men are made to be visual. However, we all (or most) tend to make judgments based on appearance, since that’s the first aspect of a person put forth before he or she speaks the first word.
I know I’ve done it. When I saw my husband-to-be for the first time, unfolding his 6’2” frame out of his car, I was all, “WOW.” And he tells me he was similarly pleased.
So I understand you wanting a good-looking woman. Are you keeping yourself “hot” enough to attract one?
Am I? Not really as I’ve eaten too many cheeseburgers post divorce. But I did slim down a lot when I found my desire to date again. My complaint about these women being too picky is backed up I think just by reading their profiles. But let me give you one small piece of proof Catherine. I think popular wisdom is that men are more visual than women. But according to OK Cupid, no. On a 1 to 5 scale, men rated women pretty even. Most were a 3. Above average and below average got the next highest rating and were about equal. Women by contrast rated an incredible 80% of guys as worse-looking than medium.
In addition to that, the typical woman wants a man just as successful or more so in his career than hers. The typical woman wants a tall man too. These are just some of the big universal things women as a gender seek when they are dating. While there are exceptions, this is the general rule the majority of women.
In contrast, I was seeking a woman who was not fat and/or ugly, who didn’t have any children, before I would bother to read her profile. Depending on the site, I would also filter out liberal women (am I right, or am I right?). I am not sure why such a woman was in short supply. I had other criteria too, but I would probably be deemed a sexist for saying I was seeking for a traditional woman. I think a modern traditional woman is a fairy tale, like a unicorn.
Here is that link to the OK Cupid study. http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dating/
Amen. Whenever people hear that a couple is divorcing, they (typically the family and friends of the spouse at fault) like to insist that it takes two to destroy a marriage.
No, it doesn't. It takes just one.
Disagree here, though.
As much as some people here are blaming women, the fact is that no one "group" is to blame. Individuals are to blame.
There is when said ideals are demonstrably dis provable and employ doctrinaire hypotheticals to prop up validity.
Thank you Trisham. I’m not perfect by any stretch of the imagination. I have my demons like many other men.
I do know how things play out. You learn from your mistakes and somehow find new ones to replace them. You may want to be perfect, and in ways you are. If the woman focuses on those ways, you’re a luck man.
If they choose to focus on the ways you are lacking, not so much.
No man is perfect. We generally see what we look for. If we wish to see the good in people, we can generally find it.
Of course there are exceptions. In all honestly, I don’t think I’m an exception to that. I guess that’s for others to judge, but I do wish to be a good man even if I fail.
To my way of thinking, that’s more than half the battle.
For me life has been a battle. I am content.
Thank you. That was very nice of you to say, very kind.
I appreciate it.
Yes, I’m afraid I did.
I’m not here to say my wife was a terrible person. People do what they think they have to do.
I don’t wish either of my two ex wives anything but happiness.
I don’t believe in incorporating hatred in my life just to feel better.
Mr. Right is very much there. These foolish women do not realize they are NOT Mrs. Right and Mr. Right knows that simple fact.
Hell hath no fury like a woman rejected (scorned).
Agree. Still made for a long few years.
FReegards
Relativism is a liberal viewpoint. Just because ideals are not achievable by all does not mean we shouldn’t have them or strive to meet them.
Well you're just full of pithy nonsense, aren't you?
"Pie in the Sky" idealism hardly constitutes "conservatism," particularly when it spouts vapid bromides.
Furthermore, spreading such foolishness only serves to weaken the confidence of the victim as to their own rectitude.
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