Posted on 09/23/2014 5:34:04 PM PDT by NCjim
“You know,” he says. “It’s tough for people our age.”
It’s 1 a.m. on a Monday, and I am currently on the phone having an argument with a guy I’d been on only four dates with, three of them good. One of them—the last—was less good, given he had gone MIA for the better part of three weeks and I had a sneaking suspicion he had a girlfriend.
We hadn’t slept together, but the kisses had been the type of kisses you walk away from with shaky knees and blind hope. There was something there, and we both knew it, which is why we were attempting to hash things out over the phone at some ungodly hour. Because at our age, we’re adults, and things matter more. The mistakes leave marks.
Alex is 38. I’m 30. Technically, there are no “people our age.” But I’m starting to feel that a 30-year-old woman might as well be a 40-year-old man, though infinitely less desirable, culturally speaking.
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And retirement is wasted on the old.
She looks old for 30.
I agree...
At 51 I still get hit on fairly often. My Wife is unimpressed...
Nah.. I got married young. Prime of my life, before I got old, angry, fat (sort of), and cynical. I could still get women to spend a few hours with me before they hated me. Hooked me a decent woman while I could. Unfortunately, she did the same thing. Now, no one else would have either of us.
Off to bed, to sleep with one eye open.
On the other hand, if single, I’d be dead, unemployed, in jail, or two out of the three.
When I married right after turning 23, it was amazing how many liberated older women told me I was too young. The fact that we’d dated darn near four years would blow them away - I was even told to break it off and enjoy my 20s, because I couldn’t possibly know what I wanted.
I knew what I wanted, a husband, a family, a stable financial situation (flexibility to work, but depending on family situation).
When I was surprised how many people told me 26 was too young to be having kids, having a STEM career. I said being married three years, we were certainly ready. And what was I supposed to do? Wait until 36 and spend all the money on fertility treatments?
But apparently, the feminist mantra is have wild carefree sex in your 20s, blowing a lot of decent guys off who would settle down. Then start freaking out at 30, when you aren’t as hot and a lot of the good guys were taken by the ones willing to marry in their 20s.
And a lot of those “I’ll focus on career until 30 something and then man-hunt and have a baby or two” find that they’ve lost the game of musical chairs - they are still standing. Her possible number of partners has dropped, while the number of possible partners for him has grown.
They end up being desperately married to someone iffy at 35 to be married and have a kid or single moms by choice or part of the 20-30% of dedicated career women who never have kids.
What kind of idiot desperate woman would even give a second glance at an a--hole who said this to her?
If you are willing to settle for a loser like this then be prepared for a diet of losers. The good ones, who are out there all over the place, won't be wasting their time on you.
I have an acquaintance who is also 37— and bat crazy. She’s probably slept with enough men to fill Fed Ex Field past capacity and doesn’t have a college degree.
Yet she thinks she deserves somebody that makes at least $150k per year and has at Least a Masters. I’ve never ever heard of her dating a guy for more than 3 dates.
She’s exactly what most men have to choose from nowadays.
I do see a lot of that — and I see a lot of women in their 50s and 60s who are very, very, very bitter and just do NOT understand how they wound up alone.
Less is more.
This chick is definitely chippy.
Michael Berry had an 89 year old guy on a couple of weeks ago. His previous wife died, his new love was 87 and apparently came over to cook dinner frequently but said since they weren’t yet married, there was no sex, overnight visits or “hanky panky” going on. Wedding is upcoming and I would bet Michael helps them do it up right.
Just refreshing.
the reason she is still single at 30 is because all men are animals, period!
she writes about men because she is the victim of men!
men!! —being men!!
the horror!!
i hereby predict that this woman is a lesbian in the making, because she has gone public with her overt distaste for men being (oh-my-goodness) men!
keyboard spew alert
This woman is crazy for even attempting to continue a relationship with a man who spends his time talking on the phone about his wonderful other girlfriend. The twenty something girls are crazy because they are giving themselves away for free. Both groups of women need major doses of self respect.
Some men treat women like trash because that is the behavior the women accept. If the twenty somethings realized there is a shelf life and behaved as if what they have to offer has value, and if the older women refused to be treated like used tissues, maybe the men would realize they need to change their behavior.
Idiot feminists want their cake and eat it, too...you ruined men all these years. Go date pajama boy...too bad.
I work with a couple of women who married late (in their fifties), and their resentment of their co-workers with children is palpable (one even asked if they could bring their dogs to a company picnic if other employees were bringing their children).
I suspect these women were just getting married because they didn;t want to age alone; all they do is complain about their husbands (I guess it is hard to teach old dogs new tricks).
Young people today often have no reason to get married because children aren’t part of their future (for various reasons they give). If my wife didn’t want children I wouldn’t have bothered marrying her; the two go hand-in-hand.
PING
What so many women refuse to believe to day is that
a) You are not gorgeous by default
b) Men are not going to want you simply because you are a female
c) A man that is successful, in decent shape, and half a gentleman can pull women 10 years younger than he is.
So ladies, if you are 30 years old and perfect, you can attract that 30 year old hot lawyer. If you’re not, he’s hitting the 22 year hottie drinking a beer. She’s trainable.
Caall me sexist, but it’s the truth.
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